Extreme anxiety abortion

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I know I have previously posted something similar, but I have spent all day sitting here shaking worry about how bad it’s going to be after I take the 4 tablets, most
ofnthe stories I have read, but a few said it’s as bad if not worse than labour pain, people passing out with pain, throwing up and unable to move for hours upon hours, I don’t know who to turn to to try and help with this anxiety

Did you discuss the options with the staff? What help are you having for your anxiety? Any reason you are choosing a medical termination and not surgical?

I did, but i was given the impression medical was going to be a bit nicer, but now after reading these stories im terrified, just sat here crying and shaking not knowing what to do with myself, think it’s put me off sex ever again 🫣

Is there a friend or someone you can have with for the support? If not then maybe call a local clinic and see if you can go in there.
I don't have personal experience with medical abortion but I'm sure that it is different for everyone.

My husband will be with me and have spoken to lots of friends and they are really supportive, but because I have health anxiety anyway I get into such anxious states where I can’t even focus on anything except what I’m anxious about and go into a very negative worrying state i just don’t cope well with anything like this and I have given birth twice 😂

I agree, do you have a friend/family member who can go with you or stay with you if you are coming home? Did you mention to the clinic your anxiety? How far along are you?

I don’t go anywhere these are done at home, i think I would of felt better if it was in a hospital environment tbh x

Forgot to say in 6 weeks

Did they say take/insert all four? when I had one 3 years ago, it was two and if nothing happened then the other two.
I would take co codamol an hour before you start, if you've given birth before, it will be a doddle, a heavy period and the pain won't be that bad with pain killers, I spent the morning in bed and tbh that was just to be near the bathroom and feeling sorry for myself, I was cooking dinner by the evening feeling much better, on my own as a single mum.

Has anyone in here had a medical abortion and given birth if they could tell me their experience s?

You're only 6 weeks and you've given birth twice- it will be just like a bad period! You'll be absolutely fine

Well that’s what I originally thought, but reading people’s stories they are saying it’s worse than labour and I can’t understand why, I did both mine on gas and air did have various complications, and the pain was awful I won’t lie

Hi firstly I'm so sorry to hear you are in this situation and how anxious you are. I suffer with really bad anxiety and I totally get how you are feeling. For different reasons I've had a surgical and a medical termination. My medical one was at 14 weeks and in hospital but all I had was the same tablets you have and pain relief, which was paracetamol and then later on oramorph, but if I'm honest I don't feel it did much more than paracetamol. Believe me when I say you can do this, you will be fine. I had to go in to hospital due to how far I was and my babies condition, but honestly, I only seen the nurse for pain relief and then at the very end. I was very much left to get on with it and it was nowhere near as bad as I feared. Keep on top of your pain relief, have a hot water bottle and stay hydrated. Thinking of you, you are stronger than you think xxx

I agree. If you've given birth twice you will cope just fine. I get anxiety so I understand how worked up and panicked you can get, it really is awful. I think your anxiety is going to make you feel worse while your preparing yourself to take them and then you'll most likely find it's no where near as bad as you thought it would be. Sending you a big handhold 🙏

Thanks guys, that really did help me calm, lula because yours was 13 weeks do they use the same medication? Also how painful are we saying any comparison? I’m also very worried it won’t be over by the my kids are home and they are very mummy kids, they will wonder why I’m in bed! In presume the pain so bad I will be stuck in bed? X

I agree with what @littlefox90 said. Sending you a big hug.

I had a medical abortion at home. I too timed it so the kids were out for the day.
I was 8 weeks when I did it. Pain wise I didn't find it painful. I had read lots of horror stories but that wasn't the case for me.
I dosed up on ibuprofen and paraceptomol throughout the time from taking the tablets.
Other than discomfort and period like pains, I didn't experience any pain. I know every experience is different.
I took the pills at 9am and started bleeding at 12pm. Kids home by 4 and I had passed everything by then.
I didn't have a bad physical experience. However psychologically after it was over (and all the hormones came crashing down) I had a really tough time. So please make sure you have the support you need and maybe talk to the pre-abortion therapy team who you should have access to as part of the service. They might be able to help with your anxiety before you go through with it.
Good luck.

New and confused, thank you so much for that, it made me feel at ease! I was trying to talk to a friend and said the worst pains I have ever had were a tooth abscess and childbirth and was hoping it was no where near these two 🫣

I had the misoprostol. I think I had 4 tablets to start with around 11am and nothing happened so I had 2 more later on and delivered at 5pm. I was much further along though at 14 weeks so I guess that's why I needed more. I don't have a great pain threshold and I managed ok. I did spend around 2 hours just sitting on the loo in the end as there was a lot to pass but again I was further along. Easier said than done but try not to panic. I'm the biggest worrier but if I had to go through it again I wouldnt be scared and that's a massive statement from me ! Sending you strength x

Hello OP, I think I understand where you are coming from as I have a daughter with very severe anxiety and I know no matter what we say you will still feel uneasy. I am sorry you have to go through this.

I know that everyone is different and people have different experiences, so I can only tell you mine. I had given birth, natural birth, to three kids and nothing compares to that pain, nothing at all. I also happened to have had both surgical as well as medical abortion. For the surgical, I was only given laughing gas and I most definitely did feel pain, nothing close to delivering a baby, but still pain. With the medical one I felt nothing, nothing at all. Hugs.💕

Do keep in mind that some of those accounts of an extremely painful experience will be from women much further along than you and some will not have been written in good faith - with something like this, there will be a few in it for the attention and some with an anti abortion agenda, hoping to put other women off the idea.

Thanks everyone, up at silly o clock throwing up with anxiety, but your accounts have really helped so thank you! ❤️

Not sure if it's today that your using the tablets but if so I wanted to send a handhold to you and remind you that you'll be fine 🙏

It’s is today, just taken the ibuprofen waiting for it to settle in a bit before Doing it! Thank you ☺️

I can’t do it! I can’t do It this was at
home With no doctors or pain relief, I have called bpas and waiting for a call back to see
ifni can have the vacum one instead, I can’t do this! I’m also worried that by 8pm tonight they hits the 48 hour mark for pills
so if they say I can what on earth do I do 😭😭

Have they called you back yet? I understand how anxiety makes you feel. Everything will be OK