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Gave oral two days ago and now sick?

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emilyyyyloox · 31/05/2023 05:52

I was intimate with someone for the first time since we started dating, there was a few red flags but it just happened, since I gave oral (sorry tmi) I was in contact with his semen and I had a sore throat, my lips swelled a bit and felt tingly so I thought it's probably a reaction to the semen, this was three days ago now. Yesterday I had a sore throat and this is a telltale sign I am getting sick so thought I was coming down with a virus or something, today I have woken up to painful swallowing, tight throat and left side HUGE tonsil which does not look like it has pus on...it just looks really red and inflamed. As this was only three days ago it's way too early to be an sti, right? I want to contact the doctor when they open today but my mind is going into overdrive and I don't want to mention about sti because they will just send me to the clinic (rightfully so) however it is a nightmare to get any appointments here, they go within literal seconds on the website, plus it was a few days ago...the guy did tell me aswell that he hasn't been well recently said he had a temp and things and just felt off but feels much better now as I confirmed before meeting as I did not want to get sick. Well, happy days!

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Stayinthecakebox · 31/05/2023 17:53

emilyyyyloox · 31/05/2023 17:37

Lol I realise how silly it sounds now but yes, I have contacted the doctor and they said it sounds like I need to be seen in person but physically cannot even move from bed 🥲 I have contacted 111 as they have no appointments and told me to call them, waiting to hear back now

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Not silly at all so don’t feel bad I think we are just programmed to look for connections between things much like we look back to what we ate before a stomach bug or where we had been in the days before getting flu and so on . Def get checked out though as there’s so much going round at the moment and if it’s strep throat you need antibiotics

Tonkerbea · 31/05/2023 17:56

I was like this when I had Strep throat

Forgetmenott · 31/05/2023 17:57

Sore throat is the least of your worries tbh. You’ve had unprotected sexual contact with someone you barely know, who you’ve admitted yourself has some red flags. If I were you I’d be getting a HIV test.

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emilyyyyloox · 31/05/2023 18:09

Forgetmenott · 31/05/2023 17:57

Sore throat is the least of your worries tbh. You’ve had unprotected sexual contact with someone you barely know, who you’ve admitted yourself has some red flags. If I were you I’d be getting a HIV test.

What? When did I ever state in this post that I barely knew this person? We have been dating on and off since January, that was the first time we were intimate and I never stated once I had unprotected sex.

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GladAllOver · 31/05/2023 18:19

If you had semen in your mouth you certainly did have 'unprotected sex'

PinedApple · 31/05/2023 18:26

Forgetmenott · 31/05/2023 17:57

Sore throat is the least of your worries tbh. You’ve had unprotected sexual contact with someone you barely know, who you’ve admitted yourself has some red flags. If I were you I’d be getting a HIV test.

Honestly the risk of contracting HIV from this encounter is incredibly low - was this really a necessary comment?

You'll be fine OP just see the doc when you can. Hope you feel better soon.

WednesdaysPlaits · 31/05/2023 18:27

Blimey, OP already seems to have health anxiety without being told she could have HIV!

Motnight · 31/05/2023 18:30

GladAllOver · 31/05/2023 18:19

If you had semen in your mouth you certainly did have 'unprotected sex'

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MrsMiagi · 31/05/2023 18:35

Please get an sti test ASAP. Bloods everything. What you describe sounds like tonsillitis to be fair but I am assuming he hadn't had an sti screen beforehand? I assume, could be very wrong as I know i didn't put my fellas dick anywhere near me without protection until we both had been to the clinic lol

sadsack78 · 31/05/2023 18:40

If you feel up to it I don't see the harm in going to a sexual health clinic and getting checked out and tested.

It's a good thing to do if you have sexual contact with someone new and you aren't sure of when they last got tested or if they've had any stis in the past. It's so easy for someone to have an sti and have no noticeable symptoms that they then pass on to a partner.

Your sore throat, as other posters have said, could just as easily come from a normal bug caught through kissing, or even from work/ public transport etc. But I would get yourself tested. That way if you want to be intimate with this guy again you can relax and know you've had the all-clear!

miniegg3 · 31/05/2023 18:47

Ps.. I feel like doctors always say "it's probably viral" and send you home to suffer for several more days until you're much worse. If you have pus on you're tonsils antibiotics will kick in really quickly and clear it up. Strep throat is miserable! I've has it a few times since my son started nursery/school and now just pay for an online gp consultation with photo of (gooey tonsils) to get antibiotics asap 🙄

simplespimply · 31/05/2023 19:00

Sounds like tonsillitis.
I have that now, I couldn't see a doctor until yesterday I've been in bed since Saturday, GP said that it's the worst case she's seen in a long time.
Feeling a lot better now that anti biotics are finally kicking in.
But I've had terrible insomnia and also sleep apnoea because of the large tonsils so have basically not slept since Saturday.

WonderingWanda · 31/05/2023 19:10

Whilst it does sound like tonsillitis I do think you need to mention the oral sex to the gp so they can screen you for herpes as well just in case.

AD1996 · 31/05/2023 19:17

I had an STI from an ex and it showed up two days after sex so it definitely could be. No idea about mouth but I would be looking at getting an STI check when you can get an appointment at a GUM clinic.

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emilyyyyloox · 31/05/2023 19:20

I didn't ask to be judged on my sex life, I test myself regularly and this was the first time we were intimate. I do not have any lesions, blisters or cuts on my mouth or my genitals. I also did mention the sex to my GP who diagnosed tonsilitis.

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GiveupHQ · 31/05/2023 19:26

WednesdaysPlaits · 31/05/2023 18:27

Blimey, OP already seems to have health anxiety without being told she could have HIV!

You haven’t read her history then.

Multiples of threads on general health covering pretty much every body part!

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emilyyyyloox · 31/05/2023 19:29

I'm going to request for this thread to be deleted, I didn't ask to be bullied for having genuine concerns and on my sexual health, which is nothing to do with what I am experiencing. Thank for you the nice comments actually giving me advice.

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highlandspooce · 31/05/2023 19:38

I was intimate with someone for the first time since we started dating, there was a few red flags but it just happened

What were the red flags?

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emilyyyyloox · 31/05/2023 20:01

highlandspooce · 31/05/2023 19:38

I was intimate with someone for the first time since we started dating, there was a few red flags but it just happened

What were the red flags?

Whenever we went out on dates he always kept his phone on 'do not disturb' he also got very jealous whenever he saw me with other men (friends) and always expected me to drop what I'm doing to reassure him, he was a bit insecure however putting that side we had a really really good friendship and I did like him and have feelings there.

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ActDottie · 31/05/2023 20:02

You could’ve got it from kissing him, I got tonsillitis from kissing a guy once!

TooJoy · 31/05/2023 20:09

ActDottie · 31/05/2023 20:02

You could’ve got it from kissing him, I got tonsillitis from kissing a guy once!

I think this is much more likely.

Also if you’re seeing multiple red flags and you’ve only known him a few months then what are you doing still talking to him.

Throw this one back and stop wasting your time.

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emilyyyyloox · 31/05/2023 20:13

Yeah we don't talk now tbh, I blocked him yesterday as he went a bit MIA where as before he was always talkative and things

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Forgetmenott · 31/05/2023 22:54

emilyyyyloox · 31/05/2023 18:09

What? When did I ever state in this post that I barely knew this person? We have been dating on and off since January, that was the first time we were intimate and I never stated once I had unprotected sex.

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If you’ve only known him for four months on and off, you don’t know him well and he may not be exclusive with you. I don’t mean to be unkind so please take this as my genuine advice: Get tested, because semen in your mouth is unprotected sex and you can catch diseases in the same way as you would if the semen was downstairs.

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emilyyyyloox · 31/05/2023 23:01

Thanks for everyone's advice and kind comments. I am of course going to get tested as I always do and we have all been there where we have trusted someone and they lied. I have been to see an out of hours GP who has said I have bacterial tonsilitis and given me anti biotics. The doctor did actually ask me if I am sexually active so i explained what had happened, she said that I am not the first case she has seen who has actually had oral sex and developed a sore throat or tonsilitis, she said some people are more sensitive to these things. But definitely tonsilitis and I will of course get checked in two weeks.

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quietnightmare · 31/05/2023 23:15

There we go that's good news. Just relax op.

Get tested by all means with or without symptoms because that's just benign sensible. But the doctor doesn't think it's any other than tonsillitis.

Hope you can get some sleep tonight now and try not to worry yourself