Hi All, especially FuriousR and Verbena87.
Sorry FuriousR for not responding sooner to your last post. I did read all your pessary advice when you posted it (you are an absolute fountain of knowledge on the subject!), and meant to reply sooner, but life got in the way for a while. I haven’t tried another pessary yet, but mainly because things feel a bit better again at the moment. I’m not sure why, but things felt really rubbish about the time I saw the urogyn, but have randomly improved since. I still find I’m more symptomatic when I’ve had a poor night’s sleep, but otherwise things are okay. I still think I’d like surgery in the long term though.
When I saw the urogyn, he dispelled a few myths about surgery and relapse rates. For example, the “relapse” rates include women who have had a cystocoele repaired, and then develop a rectocoele some years later. It is recorded as a relapse but doesn’t mean that the first surgery has failed, just that there is another area that has become weak. And that area may have become weak anyway over time.
Anyway, we definitely agreed that now isn’t the best time for surgery with having to lift kids all the time etc, hence trying the pessary. I mentioned that I hate the way the entrance to my vagina feels now - like it doesn’t hold itself closed any more, and he said that some of my perineal muscle is missing, and that could be repaired on its own, or as part of prolapse surgery. Something to think about.
Also, the hospital is just starting to use a special ultrasound scanner to assess women with prolapses, so I’ve been booked in for that in Jan. I’ll mention the pessary issue then but don’t feel particularly inclined to try another, as things are okay at present. Although if he says it may prevent worsening, then perhaps I should consider it? Good to know about the Milex ones FuriousR and the different types, thank you.
Verbena87, I’m so glad to hear how well things are going for you. Especially the numbness disappearing, yay! Are you thinking of having any more children? I think it is great that you have put such a positive update on here. I think sometimes on “prolapse forums”, there is a very negative skew, as the success stories just get on with their lives without a backward glance (can’t blame them really). Looking at some of the American forums where some women can’t afford treatment, I am so grateful for our NHS.