Hysterectomy.

[Beanfield]

Hurrah and Hallelujah. My uterus has been given an eviction notice!

30 years of being a complete bitch. Let me down twice (miscarriage and ectopic). Did what it should do twice (2 grown up DDs). Never officially diagnosed with anything but suggestions have been PCOS and endometriosis. 30 solid years of hideous periods. 30 years of being fobbed off by assorted GPs who told me it was normal to faint, vomit, incapacitate and take over my life for one out of every three or four weeks.
It’s got to the point where my cycles are just 18-20 days long, I bleed huge amounts for 5 days (emptying cup every 2 hours), overflowing, clots. Light bleeding on and off for a further 4 days. Bleeding on and off randomly mid-cycle. Puking and dizzy. Period diarrhoea, excruciating, labour style pain. Another 3 days of pain while i ovulate plus bleeding then too.
Tried everything. Mirena - I bled for 8 months then it fell out. Painfully. Pill - unhinged. Drugs - I’m allergic to the good ones and the others don’t work so well. Herbs, flowers, tea, homeopathy, diet - all bollox.

Finally saw a Dr who actually listened and agreed to whip the bugger out. Not sure how yet as apparently it's ‘bulky’ (like the rest of me) so need a scan to see how big it is. Also waiting on smear results and endometrial biopsy (which hurt like a bastard and is still hurting 4 days later).

I had my cervix out. I haven't missed it. It means no more smear tests, which is good.

I'll ring tomorrow and ask. I don't have a particular viewpoint either way 🤷 8 days to go.

I had my cervix removed. Don't miss it at all.

No more risk of cervical cancer.

My cervix has gone. I’m itching to have a furtle to see what it feels like up there.

Not a great day today. Suspect I’ve been pottering too much due to boredom and now I’m sore and tired and extremely grumpy.
And deeply pissed off that the one thing I asked to be done, that I can’t do, hasn’t been.

What was it that you asked for? I'm intrigued 😂 sorry you're feeling rubbish. 🤗

The dog needs a brush

I am irrationally infuriated.

I hope it gets done for you. Have you made it super clear that it should be prioritised?

I think cervix is going. The secretary says that it says laparoscopic assisted vaginal hysterectomy with preservation of the ovaries. She was very frank and said the consultant had said she'd gone in to do ablation and it was much worse than they thought and TCRE would never have worked never mind novasure/ rollerball.

I'm off to docs this morning, still in a lot of pain from d and c and I can't feel when I need a wee 😂 glamorous

How are you doing Beanfield? I've got my pre op today ready for Monday .

How did pre-op go? We’re they nice?

I’m really good but tired and frustrated i cant just get on with stuff. Ive had a pyjama day today as knackered. I’m doing general house pottering. Dishwasher, washing (if someone lugs the basket upstairs), cooking but not hoovering or dog walking.

It’s a bit achy on and off but nothing bad. In fact i dont think ive taken any paracetamol since breakfast time.

I have a wound check appointment tomorrow. I wasn’t going to bother but i can’t remember if my sutures are disolvable or not. I thought they said they were but they dont look like and aren’t showing any signs of falling out. And i was going to just take them out myself but my belly button one looks a but funky so thought i’d better show it to a real HCP rather than just me or one of my mates (also HCPs but we really do make the worst patients in the world and my judgement is fuzzed by anaesthetic.

Speaking of which the post-anaesthetic fuzziness is most peculiar. My menmmory is shot. People keep telling me we had conversations or i did x or y 3 days ago and i have no recollection at all.

I am working my way through every Christmas movie in the world. Channel 5 has a beautifully shite selection every day.

Hi all I’m going to gatecrash if I may.
I have just been told I have Adenomyosis, pcos and polyps. Consultant kept going on about having a coil and going on the pill.
I really just want it out. I found the contraception push really insulting, I told him I’d had all the children I want and DH has had the snip!

Preop was fine, a bit of scaremongering but mostly just wanting to make sure I'm taking recovery seriously. I'm still taking painkillers from my surgery last week Bean so well done!

Hi Screaming, welcome! I've had to try all the different contraceptives etc, had a coil for a year too. I can definitely understand that feeling. I think they avoid a hysterectomy unless absolutely necessary tbh. They just like you to try other avenues and fwiw the coil did help for several months. Maybe you could agree to try it while you're waiting if they'll add you to the list?

Glad you're managing to potter Bean, I'll be picking your brain next week.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3435022-To-think-my-doctor-should-take-my-mirena-out-when-asked?pg=1&order=

Have a read of this thread, Screaming, and stand your ground.

Recovery is odd.

There’s always the ones who were up and cleaning the bathroom the day after having their head amputated who imply you are weak for taking time off or needing help. And it is bloody frustrating having to ask for help or ask someone to do something.

But after a conversation with a dear friend a few days ago I’m now thinking why shouldn’t I rest? Why shouldn’t I look after my bod? Why shouldn’t I bloody indulge myself a bit and take time to let myself just heal and recover?

It’s not a bloody competition. My op was worse than your op. My recovery was better/quicker/faster than yours was. That really annoys me.

So I am allowing myself to do nothing but recover and heal. And they can stick their competitive martyrdom.

I'll be forced to anyway to some extent as I'm a teacher and not allowed back until signed well by my doctor. If parents see me out and about they'll be asking questions so I'm a bit trapped just now anyway.

I could have gone in for the day today as I'm 1 week post op which is what gynae said I must have off at least and next one isn't until Monday. Head says no though as it would affect the insurance 🤷

You're absolutely right you should rest! My pre op. nurse was very dramatic about recovery yesterday 😂

Screaming can you take your DH with you to an appointment? They only backed down on the you’re young, you might want more children thing when DH said he’d been snipped. I was furious that they listened to him over what to do with my body - but it was getting me what I wanted (and I was sodding paying for it because the NHS were putting lots of roadblocks in my way) so I bit my tongue.

I do feel completely absolutely fine this morning and wondering if I could drive. I need to go to Hobbycraft and get a haircut.

Thank you. Had a coil previously and I bled constantly on it! Best contraception ever as we just didn’t have sex because of the constant bleeding!
I’ll see what they say after the laparoscopy

Glad your recovery is going fairly well so far Beanfield. Hope the stitches are ok.

I have my pre-op on the 19th. Do you think I should take OH with me, or will I be alright by myself? Is there a lot of waiting around? I also wondered if it might be good for him to be there- the gynaecologist is coming along to talk through the op and exactly what she's going to do. Might be good for him to be there.

I normally have a very precise, organised brain. Yet every conversation with a doctor since diagnosis I've felt like words are just spinning around my head, and like they're talking about someone else. It's been helpful to have him with me at meetings so far, which makes me wonder if it would be good for him to come to pre-op.

What do you all think? I'm prepared to concede I might be overthinking...

I haven't had DH with me for pre op but my gynae hasn't been there either. Could be useful if you're getting info!

I be just been weighed, measured, swabs taken and bloods at mine X

She definitely said she was going to be there, and the pre-op isn't at the hospital I'm having the surgery, it's at the smaller more local hospital where she does her clinics. She said it would be a chance to sit and go through everything in detail.

Perhaps she's just doing that as this is all a shock to me? Our last two meetings have been about the discovery of two separate tumours- a lot to take in, and I probably wasn't in the best frame of mind for discussion of hysterectomy.

Maybe I could take DH with me and send him away again if not needed.

It's definitely worth taking him XX

I have a sickness bug 😷 both DDs had it, one last week. One the week before. Both only sick once. I've only been sick once about 10 hours ago. Keeping everything crossed that's the end of it 🤞🤞

I'm not planning on telling the hospital as long as there's nothing more. It'd be almost 3 days from being sick to op and both my girls were fine the next day. I can't change my date, everything is organised with work 😔

I wouldn't still be catching would I after all that time? I obviously don't want to pass it on to anyone who is already poorly.