24. Shameless: How I ditched the diet, got naked, found true pleasure... And somehow got home in time to cook dinner by Pamela Madsen
I stumbled across this book on the website of a podcast I listen to (Sex with Emily - she is witty, honest and has some great ideas). The writer has been married to the same man her whole life, is stuck in a sex rut and feels something is missing and goes on a journey. So far so good, I'm interested in this journey and what the take home for me might be.
Well, there's nothing in it for me! She heads off for sensual and then erotic massages with men, and finds herself in the spiritual side of things where the men who massage her first do a bit of talk therapy, then massage but somehow after a few sessions the massage becomes spanking.
She tells herself she isn't cheating on her (completely unaware husband) and if you consider penis in vagina sex is the only form of cheating, she's correct. But she gets naked with others (sometimes a whole room of people!) and they make her orgasm, and to me that is cheating.
I carried on reading past all the new age waffle basically to find out if her husband thought she was cheating or not. Spoiler alert, he was confused but ok with it! There, I saved you the read.
She did have some great things to say about appreciating the body you are given, finding attractiveness in all people, that women have permission to seek pleasure and prioritise it but her journey is not going to be my journey.
What I decided to do next, is make my husband watch Sex in the City and we'll try out some of the positions. I feel very unadventurous compared to the writer, but it's definitely not cheating!