Two Self Helpy Type Things :
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Reasons To Stay Alive by Matt Haig
Matt Haig's account of his breakdown in Ibiza and the years of depression that followed.
I think this book is so important, but more so for Men's Mental Health as depression tends to be more fatal in men. It is very "male perspective" naturally, but a lot of Mental Health Basics really resonated, particularly the way people treat sufferers of depression and the comments said to them that they wouldn't dream of treating /saying to someone with a visible illness.
Like others on the thread have said before me, I much prefer Matt Haig The Person, to Matt Haig The Writer, whose fiction is frequently a bit twee.
It's a simple book of personal insights into depression and I would say worth investing in if you have a Struggling Young Male in your life.
For me, most of this was Preaching To The Choir and I do feel like most of this would be of more benefit to someone supporting someone, particularly a male, with depression and struggling a bit
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The Power Of Now by Eckhart Tolle
So this was a bit hit and miss. It's very New Age Vibe and has a lot of value in certain ways. Eg I totally resonated with his thoughts on overthinking, obsessing on the past, and damaging the future by creating scenarios that don't or won't happen and feeling disappointed. I am totally guilty of this. He also talks about situations that only bring pain and anger that you feel trapped in and how to positively walk away.
I find he is less helpful on drama, believing drama exists because the ego allows it to be created. In some instances this is true, my former best friend cannot seem to exist without entirely self generated drama, hence former. But if you have people in your life who create unpleasant and unnecessary drama, it cannot be said to be your fault, and yet you still have to deal with it, and just "surrendering" and "focusing on your own inner peace" isn't necessarily always doable.
I also think that if there are serious problems unresolved in your past or you know they are waiting in the near future, focusing on The Now can be an insurmountable challenge.
Some good content though, and definitely worth reading as an analysis of toxic thought processes.