Still losing weight when don’t want to and peoples comments.

[RoadTrippers]

Last September I went on a diet and exercise regime and I’ve lost 14 kg. I was very overweight, BMI of 29 and whilst I have always been fit and into exercise, I was struggling and out of breath. I was convinced I was heading towards diabetes type 2.

I reached my goal weight of 63 kg in Feb but since then I have struggled to keep my weight up there. I’m in maintenance mode, but it keeps creeping down bit by bit and today it was 60kg. I don’t want to drop below this.

I’m not sure what I’ve done, but I eat loads. In fact last week I drank quite a lot of wine and treated myself to a family size pack of chocolate buttons and still lost weight. I’m eating a lot, but it’s like what I ate on my diet as I don’t want old habits to derail my efforts.

I’m doing about 5 workouts a week including weights and cardio.

I’m worried that I may have messed up my metabolism. I’ve never been able to keep it off this successfully before. I’ve been maintaining it since Feb.

The other thing is I’m sick of other people’s comments. I’m now 60kg, size 10, and 5 ft 3”. I’ve had a few nice comments and some pretty intrusive ones. Some people ask me what I’ve done, and are now doing it, but quite a few people at work, who I don’t even know have said things like “you are wasting away, you need to stop now, you are too thin”. Someone walked past me on the stairs and shouted “you are wasting away”. I don’t even know them.

I’ve asked trusted people what they think and they assure me I look ok. I also know where to stop. It was 63 KG, but 60 is definitely the lower end of where I want to be, hence the thread.

That makes you 9st 8 and you’re quite short? Sounds fine? I’m similar height and that is a completely healthy weight.

If you don’t want to keep losing up your calories and have full fat instead of low fat.

You’ve obviously overhauled your diet and you’re now eating lean protein and no UPF. Honestly that’s amazing, congrats.

Just ignore people. I ask people not to comment on my weight as it’s usually a thinly veiled insult.

At your height, I don’t think 60kg is a problem. I’m similar and think I look fine. In fact I used to be at a lower weight and looked fine then too. It may just be that people are used to you being bigger so are making rude comments. I’d ignore what a stranger says!

Ultimately you should carefully look at calories in and out and work out your maintenance calories from that. If you are training hard, then maybe you are not eating quite enough. As others have suggested, go to full fat dairy etc. It tastes better and is less processed so arguably better anyway.

If you continue to lose weight and you are worried about it, then worth seeking your GP. Doesn’t sound like you need to worry but obviously rapid weight loss and an inability to keep weight on can be linked to various health conditions. But seems unlikely from what you have said.

Those figures make your BMI 23.4 which is the higher end of normal weight. It's pretty much the same as mine and I definitely don't look like I'm wasting away! I'm an average size 12

To help you maintain your current weight without going back to your previous eating habits; Add some healthy high calorie / high fat foods like nuts / avocado / hummus made with olive oil / oily fish. You could also switch to whole milk (if you don't drink it already) and add some full fat greek yogurt for desert.

people here are forgetting everyone has different shapes.. BMI is very inaccurate for me as I have a wide skeleton so I was classed as anorexic while bmi said I could still lose another stone. OP might be the same

You have done amazingly well, maintenance is key with weight loss as many of us know. Just carry on for a few more weeks noting calorie intake (generally not to the exact figure) your body will be finding your set weight based on intake and new exercise regime. However if you notice that you are thirstier, passing urine more frequently and your weight falls below the healthy range speak to your GP.

They’re likely all thinking you’re taking weight loss injections

People also here forgetting it’s not their place to make assumptions and comments on someone else’s body.

I would see the GP now if you are losing weight when you shouldn’t be. It might be your thyroid, for example.

Yes, I’ve had a lot of comments about I must be taking them.

It’s really not on the Lower end is it OP? 5’3 and 60-63kg?

@RoadTrippers sorry, have I understood this correctly - a complete stranger walked past you and shouted "you're wasting away?" They wouldn't know that you've lost weight.

Anyway, you'll probably balance out. It might just be that your body is doing a new set point and it'll do it for a while.

You might want to get a health check just in case, but maybe give it time, if you feel fine.

Someone walked past me on the stairs and shouted “you are wasting away”. I don’t even know them

you aren’t even close to being even mildly underweight

5’3
female
60kg
on the higher end of “healthy” towards overweight

60kg is the lower end of what I want to be. A size 10 is now a bit too big for me.

Well that is odd given you are closer to being overweight than underweight

either way, all a bit odd and they’re clearly being daft. Don’t give it any further thought. In reality most will think you’re fibbing about not being on weight loss injections and have mild and fleeting curiosity

Good Lord people are rude! It's none of other people's business! The only time I lost a lot of weight was when I was quite unwell, yet people insisted on commenting and I had no idea what to say 😔

You don't sound dangerously thin (though of course as pps say BMI is a pretty poor indicator). However I don't think they actually think you are "too thin" they just can't keep their big mouths shut 😠

Fwiw from my pov the most important things are maintaining bone strength (and fertility if you are at that life stage so-still menstruating etc)

For your bones the advice is to eat plenty of protein, and include weights in your exercise routine somehow.

Building muscle will help you look healthy and strong, hopefully. It also gives you an excellent appetite!

(I have finally yaken up strength training in my 60s after an osteoporosis diagnosis and I love it - but wish I had started sooner)

If you go on losing then some point yes go to the gp as there maybe a throid or digestive issue. But honestly in that case it's even less anyone's business!

Im in the same boat, set myself a target (60kg and 5ft 2 ) and finding maintaining a bit of a struggle a year on, and the comments of " you've lost more weight!! You are wasting away " etc

What I tend to do is eat to my new normal Monday to Friday, and eat what I want on the weekend - within reason - I usually hover either a kg either side

I just ignore the comments tbh. I know what Im happy with

Any other symptoms - itching, night sweats, raised temperature? Weight loss can be a symptom of lymphoma. Very unlikely, but since I'd had it for 2 years before diagnosis I always mention it just in case

If you are still losing weight then it's likely one of two things:

Your body is still reaching it's natural weight for when you eat/exercise healthily.
or
You have an illness/deficiency which is causing continued weight loss.

I'm small size 8 still on the healthy BMI range.

I bet your portion sizes are smaller now too and you just eat less generally.

Definitely, it’s a strange feeling when you realise how observed you are that even a few lbs gets comments and looks.

If you are just wanting it to stop, then obviously eat more or do less.

If you are worried you have a health issue, you could work out exactly how many calories you are eating, have a guesstimate at what your workouts burn, and using your tdee calculate whether you should be losing on your current diet. If you should be losing, no worries. But if you should be gaining, I'd probably see the GP for unexplained weight loss.

I’m 52kg and 5ft3 and nobody’s ever said to me I look too thin so not sure what’s happening with people saying it to you.
Anyway you’re probably unconsciously eating a lot less than you used to and moving more so losing weight. I doubt you’ll lose much more to be honest.