Mourning Loss of Luscious Body

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I am 56, 5 foot 1 inch tall and weigh 14 stones. I have had a belly since having my c-section many years ago, but even that hangs in an aesthetically pleasing way. I like the way I look. My body is in proportion (hourglass) so I carry my excess weight well, but it is not about looks. I have reached an age whereby weight loss would be the best option for me in view of age related health conditions which I am more likely to develop due to my weight. I am however starting to mourn the loss of a luscious body, in advance of this happening. My excess weight has gone mostly to the "right " places and very nicely, so I know I am fortunate in this. I have always loved the way my body looks and I love seeing my body. I dress modestly, so this isn't about getting approval from other people. I won't let these feelings stop me from losing weight. I am just wondering if any other women can understand how I feel.

And tbh I agree with her. Past a certain age heavier women have prettier faces.

Interested in this.

When I was postpartum I was 11 stone at 5ft 1. I had huggggge boobs and bum and I look back at photos thinking "wow"

At the time I thought I was hideously fat - but it actually went in the right places. So I know what you mean OP - I weigh eight and a half stone now and my boobs are not as good!

Unnecessary

Yes. This is true. They are longevity studies But you won’t find a sanctimonious wrinkled prune anywhere who will acknowledge it. 🤣.

Here for the excuses.

You have done irreparable damage to your body already. Your bones and joints are carrying double what they should. Your heart and lungs are doing double work. Not sure how one describes a BMI of 39 as luscious and not dangerous.

You say you were raised to appreciate yourself for the individual that you are, and that you have high self esteem. So whilst you might quite like the way you look now, presumably you will also be able to appreciate the way you will look with less weight too? Of course it might take a bit of adjustment, and even if you plan to loose a significant amount of weight it won't happen overnight anyway so maybe it won't be an issue for you.

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And tbh I agree with her. Past a certain age heavier women have prettier faces“

Morbidly obese not generally so. There’s a happy compromise.

Hi OP, I am 26 and feel the same - I am obviously a lot younger but I am a ‘well defined’ 13 stone 11. Hourglass figure. I would look very unwell before I even started to reach the bottom end of a healthy BMI.

I am overweight and very clearly carrying too much but it is in the right place and I don’t ‘jiggle’ so don’t feel so bad about it.

I am losing weight because I have to for health reasons. I’m a carer and can’t afford to risk health problems due to obesity.

I lost a lot of weight a while back and my boobs were awful. They swung in the wind like balloons, that’s how they looked anyway! At the moment, they’re full and round

But I don’t look bad carrying the extra weight. So it is a strange feeling.

My mum is about 15 stone something last time she told me her weight. She has the most amazing, flawless skin and genuinely looks a good 15 years younger than 53 because of it.

Absolutely vile response.

no ,they don’t, they’re surrounded by wet wipes who got no balls to tell them the truth, the op is carrying about half a forest

This. I'm confused. I'm taller and lighter than you, and classed as obese, and I look it.

I don't think it is helpful to talk about 'irreparable damage'. Doing something for one's health later than might be ideal is still WAY better than doing nothing at all.

Pre-diabetes can be reversed with diet and exercise. There have even been studies suggesting that actual diabetes can be brought back to pre-diabetic range. Look at books such as The Sugar Solution and Postdiabetes.

Losing weight will ease the strain on the joints. Exercising - with help of a physiotherapist if seriously overweight, old and/or unfit - can lead to a much more active way of growing older.

Fucking hell.

Wow! You're an obnoxious twat aren't you! Many women actually look fucking incredible when they're carrying a bit of extra timber, some women can be within guidelines for a healthy weight and look emaciated. You've no idea what the OP looks like.

Tbf, at 5ft 1 and 14 stones it’s a bit more than a bit of extra timber.

OP: at 50 after having cancer I set out to lose weight. I was 5ft 8 and weighed 15 stones after having our second baby at nearly 40 and I was fat. I took a year and lost nearly 6 stones. Looked better than I had since my twenties. Slowly, surely, eating well and lots of exercise (just walking in my case but distances, eventually up to 10 miles most days which by then I could do in less than 2.5 hours). My face was great and my limbs really toned for actually the first time in my life (I was skinny when I was young but never exercised).

Take your time. There’s no massive rush at your age. Eat really well. Lots of oily fish, veg, don’t skip on the dairy, lots of water, limit your alcohol but give yourself a night off every week. Promise you, in a year you’ll be really pleased that you did. You’re pretty and luscious now. You’ll still be in a year. Just healthier and less likely to fall prone to ailments.

I'm a size 18 but 180cm tall. I was a 24 due to steriods. I have lost 34kgs in two years. I have no baggy skin. My boobs are not great due to lots of breast feeding but I don't care after being very ill last year. I'm late fifties. Because my weightloss was slow it has not been hard. I'm now overweight but not obese. I shall carry on for another 20-25 kgs. I don't drink anymore and gave up the cheese and crisps that went with it. OP take it steady and you will be fine. I'm always an hourglass whatever weight I am. Good luck.

Mrsredlipstick · Today 19:30
I'm a size 18 but 180cm tall. I was a 24 due to steriods. I have lost 34kgs in two years. I have no baggy skin. My boobs are not great due to lots of breast feeding but I don't care after being very ill last year. I'm late fifties. Because my weightloss was slow it has not been hard. I'm now overweight but not obese. I shall carry on for another 20-25 kgs. I don't drink anymore and gave up the cheese and crisps that went with it. OP take it steady and you will be fine. I'm always an hourglass whatever weight I am. Good luck”

Absolutely. Slow and steady is the way. Enjoy a really varied diet too, nothing is off limits. Just sensible. Ie, cheese board today, chicken cacciatore and brocolli tomorrow. It’s lasted for years.

Do you feel better about yourself when you insult someone like this?

The op has acknowledged she needs to lose weight

Wow.

Yeah there is something about weight that brings out unbridled unkindness in certain types.

The odd thing is people talk about weight loss as though it’s the golden ticket to never getting ill or having an unfortunate demise. Aside from the longevity studies declaring overweight ( though not obese) to be the “ healthiest” category in that respect, life is for all of us just an accident away from death. And thin people get terminal illnesses too. What strikes me as important is living while you are alive and trying to love every minute of it. And if OP is loving how she looks, why take that away from her with the sorts dire assessment of her weight that posters above have done? The lottery of life is such that op might be alive and kicking way after they are in their grave. Suggesting it might extend her life is not justification for derision.
I was very struck by Michael Moseley’s death, I think ( besides him seeming a nice guy) because his work ( which was wonderful) had been so focused on health and longevity. Here was someone who had helped so many to “ improve” their outcomes and who knew as much as anyone about healthy living perished too soon - and ironically probably getting in his steps a day. It was desperately sad but did contextualise for me that no diet or lifestyle is a guarantee; there’s way more of a roll of the dice involved in it all. So don’t be unkind under the pretext that it’s “ necessary.” We’re all mortal and won’t necessarily kick the bucket in order of bmi.

I knew this thread would just begin to talk about thin women having lizard faces and skin 🙄 and bigger women are voluptuous and soft.

I do understand when I was larger I had really big boobs and I was able to feel sexy at times but when I hit nearly 16st I stopped feeling sexy and attractive and just felt breathless and struggled to walk up a slight incline. My back and knees hurt and I was pre diabetic, none of those are very sexy or luscious tbh.

So yes I do feel much better now I am a normal weight. And no, I don’t look like a deflated lizard.

the obesity paradox is this: it is better in OLD age to be a healthy BMI, the top end rather than the lower end of very slim. If you fall you may not break something. However, it is not beneficial overall to be obese or overweight as yes, you may survive on your fat stores longer than a very frail person, but obesity and overweight raises your risk factors of illness far higher than someone with a health weight in the first place. So no, it is not better. And studies show this.

It is not vile to point out that obesity has negative health outcomes, it just does in terms of medical science. You can’t measure your own health visually and usually overweight people are healthy in their 30’s, but hit their 40’s and 50’s and start to have early health related issues that you wouldn’t have expected to see until a lot later. The western world has an obesity health crisis it is not a secret

at the end of the day living longer and your best life should be more important than what you look like or what you think others look like.

some of the comments on here are awful about women looking emaciated or like lizards, is this trying to justify life choices? It’s horrible

If you'd like to keep a similar look, I think the answer is weights, in addition to dieting.
You'll build up some muscle and probably retain a smaller layer of fat over that, filling out your clothes nicely and also feeling a little firmer.
In addition, you'll probably feel more energised in everyday life.
You can look into different exercises to build different parts of your body. For example: deadlifts for a prominent Kardashian style arse.

Weightloss at 14st isn't going to cause significant sagging unless you crash diet. Everyone sags eventually, even with a stable slim weight skin will wrinkle from aging, hormones and sun.