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summers on it's way.

can we lose it? yes we can!!!

he's gone.i feel completely empty.i have cried on and off for the whole week but it has made me realise how miserable he makes me

OMG - is that why you went away, to give him time to clear out? So sorry, but if he makes your life miserable there is no point carrying on...

OMG Wow, at least now the decision is made you can start a fresh and only do the things that make you happy

i went away so i could have the space to think.
i'm just heartbroken.i know i have made the right decision but i used to love him so completely that it has left me feeling empty.

how long have you been together?

1've known him 14 yrs and have been in love with him since the day i met him but we have been together for 5 years and married for 3

OMG Katy - are you ok??
i guess the break made you both see things a little clearer.
How are the dc doing..??
hugs to you my lovely xxxxxx

Has he always been like he has been recently? Any idea why he has changed if not?

the dc are ok.it was them that made me make the final decision tbh.when he came to pick us up this morning he didn't even say hello to ds1 or ask him how his holiday was.he just flung the cases in the car and moaned about how much petrol he had to put in.
he is selfish.i have given him a million chances to sort himself out but he can't be bothered.
i did say this week would be make or break for us.
he was booked to come with us but decided that he didn't want to stay in a caravan with kids.
i watched all the other dads playing with their children and realised that my life was never going to be like that

if you are/will be happier without him, then you are probably better off.
It can;t be easy Katy, but to be honest, you have been a great shoulder for us to lean on here for all sorts of reasons, always keeping us positive, so you are probably stronger than you think.

If yo have been looking after dc on your own all this time then you can keep doing it!!

We're here for you my lovely.

maybe he;ll realise what he;s missing soon and come back a new man.........

{{Big Hugs}} we are here for you xx

thanks girls
now if only i could find a man that took me out occasionally,was great with the dc and made me feel special i would be one happy woman.

You ok katy? Wanna talk? (i do think you made the right decision fwiw)

I've been weighed and...........lost..........2 and a half pounds! I am officially now 9 stone 12 pounds and a half! So chuffed!!!

morning.

well done lovemygirls
your in the 9's!!!!! do you feel great?

i've woken up this morning still knowing that i have done the right thing.i ususally wake up and text him as i have missed him but i don't miss him.i'm just so sad right now

morning,

I do feel good BUT still need to get rid of my big tummy and love handles! I really thought (when i was 12st) that when i got to 10st I'd be ok to stop but now i'm less than that and still not ready to stop! This time I want to keep going until I can say I'm happy with how i am. I'm definitely feeling fitter and more energetic!!

This week's goal is to go swimming twice as well as areobics and aquafit and to see if I can lose another 2 and a half pounds!!

It's only natural to mourn the loss of a relationship, you are sad because you had idea's of how it would be and the man you fell in love with and that is sad but in time you will heal and be ready to find someone who can treat you and your dc's the way you all deserve to be treated in the meantime be kind to yourself xx

WOW well done LMG, that is fantastic

LLL - just a shame my boobs are dissappearing quicker than my tummy!!

Same here I was a DD back in Jan, I'm now between a B & C

The thing is I used to be a G about 5 years ago (I got down to 10.7st from 11.7) but when i did lose weight it never came off my boobs at all so I had a breast reduction, I said I wanted to be a D but the consultant would only do it if I agreed to go down to a C, given the choice of a C or a G I decided to go for it.......now my boobs have decided since having dd2 they will shrink when i lose weight. So i've gone from having mahoosive norks to practically nothing (to me iyswim) ah well you can't have everything i suppose! I'm lucky in lots of ways though, my skin is a lot clearer these days, I've lost a lot of weight and in a couple of weeks I'm going for a romantic weekend away with dp after having my eyebrows, hair, nails and fake bake done so I'll hopefully be feeling body confident in no time! (if all else fails I'll just wear a gel filled bra sod it! (never thought i'd need those!)

lol - I think I would rather lose weight than have big boobs, you can always wear padded bras or chicken fillets. Plus with small boobs you can wear little tops that you couldn't wear with big norks Hope you have a fab weekend. I am off for a child free weekend with DH to London on the 30th May, I want to lose at least 3lb by then

loss of norks would lead dh to sabotage diet!

sorry to hear he didn't pull his socks up katy.....i left my ex when i was 30 after 10 years together....gutted at the time but best thing i ever did....was like a weight had been lifted....been with dh for 14 years....we have our moments but at base i respect him ....every relationship should be built on that.....you deserve and will get a better man!!!!!

he's been here since 8.30 am and he's just gone.
i don't know what he expected but i didn't crumble .i'm crying again now but it feels ok.

ps i've got no norks now either.still enough for a liberating nork swing though

You are being so strong katy xx

i don't feel it

well done katy...you sound upset but like you have made a final decision....they say crying is good for the soul........how are the kids doing?