Has anyone given up on losing weight?

[Peae]

Just that really. I mean, I know for health reasons I should continue to try to improve my diet, but I’m genuinely starting to think I will never shift these stones.

PS the aim of that ^^ was to say don't give up!!

I congratulate that weightloss, but I understand Slimming World doesn’t work, that nearly everyone puts the weight back on, and more.

Late 40's, perimenopause and sedentary job and the weight has piled on.

Been trying to lose for the past few weeks. -5lbs the first week and nothing since.

How much do you want to lose, @Peae ?

@waistchallenge not quite answering your question, but I’m about 4st overweight.

I would love to get the actual stats on Slimming world but yes, I’ve read that something like 95% of people regain within 5 years and many regain plus more. That happened to me. Lost 3 1/2 stone in about 8 months. Got ill and was hospitalised (noted a pattern where I lost weight rapidly and got admitted with abdo pain). Had to go on strong painkillers which increased my appetite…got questioned as to what ‘I was doing wrong!’ at SW when I gained weight! I ended up gaining it all back plus the same amount again. I’m finally back to where I was when I started but much stronger and healthier than I was then.

Did you get a gastric sleeve and then ozempic? I am sorry you have made so much effort and still struggle!

It's tough but we've all just got to keep going, even when we're not getting results or even go backwards. Because when we stop trying altogether it can all spiral out of control, can't it? Or at least it did for me.

Have you had enough "reward" recently? I mean, for me it was wearing my old clothes. I just mean something that keeps you going, no matter how small.

I'm 51 and feel like I've "dieted" my whole life. I go through stages where I think I might as well just accept that I'll always be bigger than average (currently size 20-22, BMI of 41), and then I'll catch sight of my double chin or wrestler arms and thick knees and despair. Then I'll go at it for a few weeks, cutting all sugar intake and being as sensible as I can, and I might lose a stone or so.

The something happens (we go away, or we have visitors, or there's a crisis at work etc) and eating cleanly is awkward or difficult or I just have to fall into cake to relieve stress, I rarely get straight back to it so I relapse for a while and it all goes back on plus a bit more.

The endless cycle is so boring and repetitive, I hate it. I get my dopamine hit from lovely food, everything feels dark and empty when I'm dieting. But if I didn't lose that same stone over and over, I'd be 3 times as big.

Its not willpower it’s discipline. Like working. Even though you lazy, you dont want to do it but you have to. It’s discipline. Start lifting weights. It helps a lot.

But if I didn't lose that same stone over and over, I'd be 3 times as big.

This. This is what I meant about things spiralling, I actually did this and it was a disaster 😔

Can you point me in the direction of evidence that weight is about discipline and laziness? As opposed to our lifestyles, metabolism, environment, UPF etc?

I knew a woman a while back who was a bariatric nurse and always remember her telling me that obesity was a progressive disease so, rather like T2 diabetes or heart failure, one treatment may work for a while but then stops and it needs stepping up to the next treatment. For most of us that is SW then WW, etc but she dealt with patients who might have a gastric band or sleeve but the regain their weight loss and step it up to a bypass and, even after that may need extra help with nutrition or medication.
I have lost and regained ludicrous amounts over the years but am still trying although, I must admit, I feel powerless at the moment

Me. I was 20st 8lbs before. Now i’m 11st. I lost it without any operations. I’ve been fat all my life and always thinking it was because my metabolism and all my family are big. So i’m born like this. But Apparently i was wrong. I’m lazy and always think like you. Its because of this that this that. Its not. As long as you do it and it will come eventually.

what helped me the most is lifting weight. I hate workout. My knee hurts even if i just walking. I dont have will power. But i just do it. Like robot i just do it. And turns out i can.

if you keep blaming other thing you won’t lose weight. Stop blaming other thing and get moving. I’m sorry if i’m sound harsh but i know how it felt, i’ve been there. I really wish when i’m fat someone told me that i’m lazy ass who always find excuses. Plus i got thyroid aswell. So its really hard for me to lose weight. But i can

Are you doing that at home ? Kettle bells ? Weights ?

Yep a sleeve then ozempic.
It's been a tough few years but I feel like I have got my life back. I've lost well over 1/3 of my body weight. I suspect I will be on Ozempic for life. But my health is massively improved.

I'm 58, I tried for years to lose weight, then I hit the menopause and it spiralled out of control, which led to diebetes, high blood pressure, sleep apnea. I decided last year, I'd had enough, and chose to have a mini gastric bypass, it has been life changing, I've lost 5.5 stone, still need to lose another 3 stone, but feel so much healthier, there's no way I'd have been able to lose weight without the surgery. The biggest challenge though, will be keeping it off, it's only a tool, so I will still have to work at it.

No, I don't feel like I can give up even though I feel sad and hopeless about it. Losing weight would be the single most transformative thing I could do for my health. I will reduce my risk of dementia, cancer, heart disease and all the other nasty things.
I feel like I've tried everything. I'm size 20 and about 5-6 stone overweight for my height. Just started checking my blood sugar several times a day in case it's pre-diabetes or poor blood glucose control, but it looks like it's not that as I'm well within normal range.
Done every diet going, I usually mange to drop a few lbs before they stop working and I give up. My current pattern is water fasting for 36 hours once each week, lots of veg and pulses, limit meat, I watch portion sizes, everything is cooked from scratch. No fast food and extremely limited processed food for the last 30 years. No sweets, no chocolate, I only drink water. Dog walk every day at least 30 mins. If I'm not hungry I don't eat. I get enough sleep and I wouldn't say I'm overly stressed. I'm not losing weight but I'm also not gaining currently.
The last time I successfully lost weight was on a vlcd meal replacement diet a few years ago. I dropped half a stone in 2 weeks but put it straight back on when I went back to normal food. I don't have time for a gym, and quite frankly lack the energy and motivation to exercise, I've a very busy job and lots of other commitments. I live in a rural area with no street lighting or pavements and on a busy road so in the winter it's not safe to walk outside after dark.
I'm currently waiting for the docs appointment I booked 4 weeks ago to roll round (2 weeks more to wait), I'm planning on asking for a weight management referral and HRT (I'm 50).
It is truly shit, but I can't give up. There's that quote - the definition of insanity is to do the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. I'm just going to keep trying until I figure it out. Or I'll go back on a meal replacement diet and do it for longer this time.
I really don't want to have surgery or take the new weightloss drugs, but won't rule them out. Weightloss could save my life.

I’m an evening snacker, I’m only this because DH starts it, every night, and I have no will power. It’s there because he buys it.

then after researching all sorts of things (for another health reason I decided my gut needed a break) I’ve decided to 12 hour fast, as soon as I’ve had my evening meal and a cup of tea with milk that’s it, I try make it 6.30 to 6.30am, the strange thing is I don’t even think about DH snacking now and I’ve found it fairly simple to do.

as part of my gut health I try and eat thirty different plant foods a week or eat the rainbow. Early days yet so not sure if it will help my allergies but in theory I should lose some weight.

ive decided I need to find my own thing to do so I’m looking at all sorts of health kicks and picking stuff I think will work. I know bread and potatoes are my pound pilers after junk crap so I’m looking at ways to not have them in my diet as much as possible.

and I’m no longer as active as I was in my younger years, the chiropractor said to me that I need to move a lot more, so when no one’s looking I wiggle, I dance, I run on the spot, making the tea, in the shower, cooking the dinner,

tbh I have no idea if any of this will work, I’m about a week in, my feet.
no long hurt in the morning when I get up and I’m not as exhausted come 5pm.

I did SW five years ago and was very successful, I put it back on because I went back to old habits and no longer followed it properly. I lost the most weight when I was eating lots (of the right) food. I’d do it again if it weren’t for an odd autoimmune issue with healthy foods I developed last year.

i have periods of time ranging from 1 month to several where i take my eyes off the scale and eat whatever.
but inevitably one day, one item of clothing or one upcoming event causes a lightbulb moment and i resume my generally (months and months at a time) healthier eating and fitness routine.
march was cold and flu season in the curls home soooo tomorrow i'll weigh in and meal plan meal plan meal plan oh and fit in some fitness.

I just about have!

I've spent all my life putting on a stone & losing a stone but at 57 I'm finding it impossible to lose the stone which has now turned in to 2!

I had an accident last year which meant I was incapacitated for 2 months which didn't help!

So what I'm doing now is getting fit again & trying to build on that fitness & trying to only eat food that has some sort of nutritional benefit!

So I'm doing Body pump, swimming, power stretch & walking!

I'm sort of hoping I might lose some weight but not making that the priority outcome if you know what I mean!

Ive almost given up.

Went from 63kg to 47kg in lockdown. (im 5’2), however im now back up to 60kg. Pretty much put it all back on this past year. I stopped weighing myself and counting calories which was my downfall.

Going to have one more go from tomorrow, and eat around 1000 calories per day. I did feel so much better in myself and look better at a lower weight, but going to aim for 55kgish this time.

I like food too much, and need to accept ill never be super slim.

have you tried the Wegovy injections before resorting to surgery?

I resorted to WL meds after being overweight since 14yrs old and just getting bigger in the last 3yrs, something had to change and my "willpower" lasted 3 days.
Currently 29lbs down and feeling great, i love the gym. I'm stronger, have energy, my knees don't hurt and I don't get out of breath like I used to.
It can be done, I just had to resort to medication as it just wasn't happening on my own. Incredible, like a switch turned off all food noise and it no longer was something I thought about.

@Sureaseggs44 No i go to the gym. Doing home workout do nothing for me. I’m gonna be lazy again. I go to the gym because i fed up with my self and walking is very painful. I lost all that weights in 18months. Now i still lifting. My goal is another 1 stone to lose.