I am 9 ish stone down today.

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I am so proud of myself.

I don’t really have anyone to tell in RL and I’ve had a LOT of stick for my weight loss recently.

December 2018, I was pushing 23 stone (I gave up weighing myself at 22.7 as it was too depressing, but I got bigger after that, so I’m guessing 23 stone) I’m 5 foot 4 and was a size 22/24. I had gained 12 stone in 4 years because my life went to shit, basically, and I ate crap and drank lager to escape.

Initially, I lost 6 stone and I fell pregnant December 2019 at just over 16 stone. I suffer from HG in pregnancy, so I don’t gain an ounce in my pregnancies due to sickness for 9 long months. I stayed 16 stone until May this year when I decided to change my life.

I cut out all processed food and cook everything from scratch and do intermittent fasting - which isn’t as dramatic as it sounds as I was diagnosed with coeliac disease two years ago, and I don’t want/like (and can’t afford!) the gluten free alternatives, so it’s been easy because I just have to. The option of gorging on McDonalds, pizza and cake after a crap day has been medically removed from me 😆

Today, I weighed 13st 13lb and I am so happy. I know 2 stone since may isn't exactly setting the world alight, but like I said, I’ve changed my life and attitude to food, I don’t see myself as being on a diet. I enjoy food, and enjoy cooking as does my husband (who has lost 30lb since may and is now at his “goal” weight).

I can move so much more freely now. Even at 16 stone, the walk up the hill to school used to leave me sweating, unable to talk and panting. Now, I hardly notice I’ve got to the top and it’s so liberating.

But, I can’t seem to tell anyone in RL. Everyone seems to be so negative. I’ve had friends come out and accuse me of using weight loss jabs or accuse me of having WLS and lying to them about it. It’s so hurtful. I even got told I was too skinny and that I looked ill the other day. I’m a size 14/16. I am in no way skinny!

I just wanted to say to anyone struggling that it is possible. Something just clicked one day. I am 43 and I feel better than ever. I want to get back to a healthy weight of 10 stone, but I know I will now. I’m no longer fighting against myself.

Congratulations 🥳
Bollocks to those people , probably jealous.

I’m another 3lb down this week!

So 13.10 this morning.

Well done!

Lots of people on here are proud of you, so never mind your so called friends (get some new ones)

You deserve to be very very proud of yourself - well done! Very inspirational.

Well done, really inspirational (get some new friends).

Wow, that's amazing. Well done. I don't understand the negativity from your 'friends'. Must be jealous.

I know I always blather on about her on the weight loss board but the YouTuber Kiana Docherty has made a video about this downside of weight loss and basically any other success (spoiler alert: your success is a reflection on them in their opinion, they see in you what they could have for themselves and are jealous).

This is an absolutely huge achievement and I don't need to know you personally to know that you absolutely 100% should be in awe of yourself, I'm proud for you!

Yes, I get that. And I know even though they aren’t overweight themselves, it’s the comments about “you’ll put it all on when you eat normally again” that get to me. They know I have had to change my life for medical reasons and just because I want to now and that for me now, this is normal eating.

It’s just so bloody hard though when I feel like I have to defend myself. I’ve actually pulled away from them, the little dogs were making me so down.

Little digs I mean. Little dogs make me happy!

Hello! I didn’t want to start a new thread.

Well, I am another stone and a bit down since I last posted. Currently 12.13!

But man, Christmas and new year was just a spiral of negativity from family.

Things I’ve been called/told:

”Skinny Minnie” (let me remind you that I am 13 stone and 5’4” - there is nothing skinny about me.
”You’ve lost too much”
”you look like Skelaltor”
”you are only going to put it all back on and more”
”when you finish your diet and eat normally, it will all come back on”
”you are depriving yourself, you’ll end up binging”
”you’ll make yourself ill if you don’t eat sugar”
”you’ve clearly got an eating disorder”

and my favourite, “you are so boring, going on about weight loss and dieting” 🤣 Nope, not me, never mention it, infact, I try to steer the subject away every time! it’s everyone else who is obsessed!

ON and ON and ON!

And the constant stream of cakes/biscuits/mince pies being wafted under my nose with the “go on, have one, it’s Christmas” - none of them were gluten free and I’m coeliac, couldn’t have eaten them if I’d really wanted anyway!

Oh and the alcohol. constant attempts to get me and dh to drink, go on, just have one drink, it’s Christmas. Dh especially has done so well. he was an alcoholic since he was 17. 20 years of drinking two bottles of wine or 10 beers every night. Every single night without fail. when I had my health scare, he finally started to take it seriously as he didn’t want me to die, him to die and our young children left alone. he’s been completely sober 16 months now, turned his diet and health around too, I am so proud of him, and to have drink’s constantly offered was quite hard for him.

I have explained until I’m bored of my own voice that I’ve lost this ten stone now because I changed everything about how I feel about what I put into my body. There’s no end date where I will suddenly think, “yay! Now I can eat KFC and biscuits again!” It’s just not going to happen, for many health reasons, and just fact that I just don’t want to. I enjoy what I eat, it’s not a chore or any hardship. and I am still met with “well, when you start eating normally again…”

And I certainly didn’t deprive myself over Christmas. Dh and I had a couple of days of bloody amazing, very expensive steak, lots of vegetables roasted with garlic and pancetta with a cheese topping, loads of onions with the steak, a fabulous lamb tagine with all the roasted veg and homemade hummus. I’m not fussed on sweet food anymore anyway, but dh made a really lovely mousy cake thing from double cream, butternut squash and dark chocolate- it was actually amazing!

But such negativity everywhere! It’s like people are willing me to shoot back up to 23 stone again so they can say I told you so.

Bloody bloody bloody brilliant x

These people are awful! I've lost loads of weight and absolutely nobody is trying to force me to self sabotage!

You are amazing.

I’m just surrounded by it. Everyone is so negative. I think it’s because I was so large for so long (about 8 years). Some people have only ever known me to be very big. I was a size 24 for a long while, most people I know now never knew me when I was slim before I rapidly gained weight.

Congratulations!! That's incredible!

Some of the family commenting sound spiteful but a few might be unintentional. If you've been overweight for years, the change in your face is going to be a surprise. Of course they're going to think you've overdone it until they get used to it.

Google Billy Gardell (the actor from Mike and Molly). I saw a photo of him recently and he looks like a completely different person. I wouldn't be surprised if his family made similar comments. It's only when you look at him as if you've never seen him before that you realise he looks really good.

Massive congratulations! Shame your family are being so negative. Smile and nod to them?

Well done, you are amazing.

You are justifiably proud of yourself, so perfectly acceptable in my view.

Well done you, that is a spectacular achievement.

You are fantastic and have done amazingly! Don't listen to the idiots in your life that want to criticise, your real friends will be your cheerleaders.

well done!!!

Well done OP for your success in becoming healthier and happier- and keep ignoring the nasty jealous voices of people who have lost the opportunity to give you was was clearly faux sympathy for your press loss self, and who perhaps enjoyed comparing themselves to you to make themselves feel better. Their attempts at sabotage and comments are really mean. You have and continue to do brilliantly in achieving goals that matter to you !

Delighted to hear your inspirational and very positive updates, OP.
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Ignore the negative comments - you’re doing this for all the right reasons, for immediate and long term reward. Please keep posting about your success. 🎉

Brilliant. You deserve to be proud of yourself.

That's fantastic! Well done you. Rememeber, you're doing this for your own health and well being, and NOT for anyone else's.

You will face resistance, because you being out of shape made people feel better about themselves. But what you feel is important, so don't quit.

You're amazing.

And while I'm here I just want to add my disgust as those trying to get your husband to drink again. The offer of food to you when you have said no is boring and unkind. The persuasion to get your husband to drink is dangerous. Shame on them.

I absolutely LOVE this thread! Thank you so much OP for posting. xx

I was recently diagnosed with coeliac disease as well. It made me realise how much I mindlessly grabbed bread or chicken nuggets or whatever to snack on!

Hoping to lose 2 stone so I will follow your tips of cooking from scratch etc.