DIET FAILED AGAIN thread 5. Everyone is welcome to join our very supportive and friendly group without any judgement.

[poorpaws]

Thread 5, everyone welcome!

I'm.not looking forward to tomorrow weigh in... yesterday I did a challenge with my dsd. As the oldies on the threads know ..she has very brittle anorexia and I'm her main support/ carer.
She's home for a few days from treatment centre which is lovely but exhausting. She is doing so well. Her challenge was to go out to eat and choose from me reading the menu..so she tried to choose just what she feels like eating and not compromising because she can see the calories on the menu.
I promised I'd do the same...so my DP read it out..we went Italian..huge challenge..I had carbonara...and garlic bread...
And then tonight as I'm on my own..my DP is driving her back to treatment..I have eaten a whole pizza...feel so bad and guilty and full of self loathing.
But...I have avoided the gin or wine and I had only had two thin bits of toast all day...
But just feel like an amorphous blob ...

@thenewaveragebear1983 ..half off is half off...
Pics of puppy please

@Theredjellybean reading your post has made me so sad. You would not talk to your friend and say those things about her so don't do it to yourself. You are lovely and so giving, you have helped me so many times, so many I can't count.

You have always been so kind and caring towards me, you need to be exactly the same to you.

Deep breath, start again tomorrow. Your dsd is very lucky to have you.

Well!

I've just scrolled back through the whole of thread 4 to the 28th May where I discovered :

I've lost

2 inches off my waist
1 inch off my hips and boobs
Nothing off my thighs
And I'm too lazy to measure my arms.

I also found:

I've been fannying about with the same 3 pounds since July

6 months ago I was a stone heavier than I am today.

I had some dark and frustrating moments and you guys picked me up and encouraged me and helped my carry on.

Seriously. The support on here is amazing and you are all wonderful despite the trials and difficulties you have all been through over the last 12 months too! Thanks so much.

Reading back was also a good reminder of what i was doing when i was actually losing weight and the need to get back to that.

I haven't weighed anything that I've eaten for months. I haven't tracked the calories on my app since before the summer. It's no wonder I'm not getting anywhere. I've stopped trying! It's definitely time for me to kick start my weight loss and actually put some effort in. You lot have inspired me yet again so thank you. Here's to being 13.13 by Christmas. Only 11 pounds to go!

So in reading through the last thread for the past 20 minutes I totally failed to catch up with the new stuff. I am a bad friend!

@Theredjellybean I think you are doing a wonderful thing for your dsd supporting her through her eating disorder. You are not an amorphous blob. you are a wonderful and loved human being as evidenced by you being the main carer for your dsd! You are not defined by a set of numbers on a scale. And we all need pizza every now and again.

If you are anything like me then stressful situations (such as supporting a struggling loved one) naturally lead you to eat. I have a difficult and emotional relationship with food and will always reach for unhealthy choices when I am having a tough time. I accept that I am flawed and that sometimes I will eat 3 slices of cake for breakfast. I'm not proud of it but it happens (Today in fact)

By which I mean - don't be so hard on yourself. Tomorrow is a new day and at least there's no leftover pizza for breakfast.

Thank you poorpaws.
That has made feel better .

@Theredjellybean I agree with the sentiments above. I can’t imagine how hard it is to have a child with an ED and please don’t beat yourself up 💐

and of course, if you insist, I will pay the puppy tax
if it makes anyone feel better, Maggie has gained a whopping 1.6kg in 9 days, which I think deserves some sort of food based reward

@Theredjellybean don’t be so hard on yourself, it must be unbelievably stressful supporting your DD.

@gluttonousgoldbug good luck with next stage in your weight loss.

Not making progress here, DH has the cold now but it’s hit him hard (asthmatic who had pneumonia earlier in the year). Three of us coughing now!

@thenewaveragebear1983 thanks for lovely puppy photos.

i had a really good day on track yesterday. I only had 3 Syns, didn’t drink alcohol, went for a run and my meals were really good. I batch cooked so I made scotch eggs and a chilli for the weeks lunches, and a cottage pie. The weekends are always a danger zone for me and I know if I can get through on track I’ll have a much better week overall so I’m going to do the same today. I want my loss this week!

Hi all. I thought I was doing ok then saw myself in the lift mirror. I was horrified so having a rethink of my ways.

Love to all ❤️

@TalkToTheHand123 i think lift mirrors go in the same category as changing room mirrors. Awful lighting, completely flat, can’t get far enough away from them. Should be banned! I’m sure it’s a deliberate ploy of shopping centres to make us so miserable, we spend more money.

I'm going to get in the lift with a slim person and check again. I'm going to try do some more exercises and yoga and try get into more of a routine.

That sounds incredibly tough @Theredjellybean. Anorexia is such a terrible illness. Just keep doing what you're doing. Your DSD is so lucky to have such great support from you. Not quite the same thing, but my 11yo was diagnosed with OCD around this time last year. He waited months for therapy to start and it's going very, very slowly. His illness has taken over all of our lives in ways we could never have foreseen. He's a lovely wee soul, eager to please, and is trying so hard, but sometimes it's one step forwards, two steps back. So, just sending some solidarity your way as our DC try to overcome these truly awful difficulties.

I fear my weight is starting to creep back up now that I'm over the lurgy. But I'm just glad to be feeling better, so won't dwell on it too much for now!

Hi lovelies

I have been reading but I've had a busy week so not been posting as much as I should.

@TalkToTheHand123 You know exactly what I think of changing room and lift mirrors, to the skip with both of them. Honestly it's best not to luck because they are dishonest little buggers who snatch your confidence.

@thenewaveragebear1983 I love Maggie, she is gorgeous and I just want to squeeze her and kiss her nose (yep I'm mental).

@Theredjellybean I hope you are feeling better now. You really are doing so well and your mood will improve about yourself . Please remember how wonderful you are to dsd and we will alll get to where we want to be with the support on here.

I've really been on it until last night when I was overtired and grumpy so had a granola bar and Double Decker. I am not beating myself up about it, I had had a really good week and decided I deserved a treat.

I've lost 2.5 lbs this week but I don't think I can keep such a strict week up again for a while. It means I am well on track for 7/7 so as long as I don't go mad now (which I usually do) I'm hoping I will make it to the finishing line 😁

Keep on 7/7ers we are over half way (7 weeks has never been so long) and I'm never doing this again, it's so difficult.

@TalkToTheHand123 Ha look not luck, there is no luck whatsoever in those mirrors.

This was a couple of days ago when we were out in the rain. I thought it might make you all smile, she was soooo pissed off.

That's a great loss @poorpaws.

I forgot to weigh myself this morning😬 Will do it tomorrow.

Well done @poorpaws .

Well done @poorpaws

i’ve had a good day but I feel really tired and I could eat and eat. I’m going to do some yogurt and frozen fruit for an evening treat.

I really miss running. I’ve barely moved since having the puppy (ironic, as I was dreaming of country walks , I know this will come….) and I’m really due on now as well so I felt really wound up and on edge.

food tomorrow, not sure yet. I normally go to the office on Tuesdays but tomorrow I am doing a really long and boring admin task, so I am wfh. I may try to use that opportunity to get out at lunchtime, or first thing, for a run. I have chilli in the freezer for lunch, I could do with eating some veg as I’m lacking a bit in that department today! I want my weight loss this week so I am going to plan my food and not leave it to chance.

Thank you everyone..it's is so tough and tessisme..ocd is horrid. Does he has intrusive thoughts?
My dsd has intrusive OCD related to thinking of she eats I will die or her DF will die..but these are so much better with therapy. Keep going it's such hard work! But will get better.
I lost 1/4 of a pound...so I'm 3.25 lbs down..reckon I can still do the 7/7.
Exercise is starting again this week after my COVID convalescing and I'm on my own at home so I'm going for filling but low calorie dinners.
Tonight I made a spinach and cauliflower coconut curry...no rice or poppadoms ..and the hugest bowlful was only 280 calories.

@thenewaveragebear1983 .. gorgeous puppy ....I showed my three ddogs...the two spaniels yawned and the nervy hound hid his face in a cushion..I think he has some form of doggy neurodiversoty

@poorpaws .. fantastic well done....you can do another good week. Do not test on your laurels..mostly because they are a bit prickly and two they'll get squashed...yee ha..this wagon is rolling

I'm really struggling guys.
I have spent the whole year battling my weight. Highs and lows, mainly lows.
I just cannot stay motivated and I can't see any results past about 3 pound loss.
I started the year, disgusted at 11am one and a half and now I'm over it :(
I'm SICK of calorie counting. I feel so restricted and it's making me feel stressed which has the adverse effect!
I love slimming world and the SW diet and have been really successful on that in the past but I can't consistently get to groups due to being a single working mum with 2 children so it's just failed.

What can I do to get a kick start? It's my birthday in a month and I just don't want to feel like this.

I've got to the point where i don't think I can do it anymore :(

Aww @midnightblue12 , I'm feeling a bit the same although never calorie counted.

I've made some veg soup and cooked a bowl of veg. I've made a salad also. I'm determined not to waste it this time so hopefully will stop me binging on junk food.

I've been getting a bit more sleep in and exercising a bit more.

@midnightblue12 i know exactly what you mean. I was just rubbish at calorie counting, I was hungry all the time, and I never ever ever stuck to low enough calories to lose any weight. I did for maybe 2 days, but to do a week at 1300 cals was impossible. I was always being told to eat more, loads of social media stuff about exercise and calories- half saying basically exercise burns nothing, never eat the calories; the other half saying you need 1800 calories a day… and I was steadily gaining/maintaining my weight. I was miserable to be honest. I decided to rejoin SW because I knew it was something I could stick to properly, and I’m really enjoying it. I am eating properly again. My weight loss is small (1lb a week) but I don’t have loads to lose so that’s ok, but it’s really helping me actually. I’ve stopped weighing myself daily. I’ve really stuck to the plan, I have even managed to lose after having a weekend away because I just got straight back on it, and I’ve actually allowed myself to have a treat which, if I’d been calorie counting, would have just spiralled into a binge because I could never afford treats within my allowance.
I know Sw isn’t for everyone, but it’s dead simple and the basic principles are solid. If you’re hungry, eat real food. I don’t buy any sweetener filled rubbish, the ethos of the group has changed a lot since I used to go years ago. The recipes are excellent. I hardly eat any processed food, you don’t have to have mountains of pasta or rice with everything. They have what is essentially a low carb plan if you want it. What I’m noticing is that now after 6 weeks, my appetite has totally changed. I’m not constantly thinking about food and I’m being totally honest about what I’m eating which I wasn’t being before (even to myself) Honestly I would suggest in your shoes, find a group, go down for the new member talk and get the Books and see how you feel. I think there’s a free membership offer if you’re a previous member coming up.

I shall stop sounding like a consultant now 😂

Just tried to weigh myself and the battery has died in the scales. Or maybe it played dead at the thought of me stepping on😄 We have a guest staying at the moment, so it has thrown me off my whole way of going. I'm managing to more or less stick to my 8 hour eating window, but the food choices definitely aren't always the healthiest. Ah well, it could be worse and hopefully I'll get back on track when things are back to normal.

Yes @Theredjellybean, DS has intrusive thoughts. He sometimes tells me his fears and will hint at his thought processes, but I know that what he says out loud is only the tip of the iceberg. We're just ploughing on with the therapy. It has made me wonder how on earth my mum coped with it all when I went through OCD as a teenager myself.

It's really hard to keep going @midnightblue12. I don't calorie count as I would never ever stick to it. I hate anything to do with maths and keeping track of things😆 Have you ever tried intermittent fasting? I do the 16:8 version and find that, most of the time(!), it helps me stay aware of what I eat without all the calorie counting.