I need a weight loss buddy! PLEASE

[mumofone1980]

Im nearly 42, 5ft 2 and 14 stone.

I keep trying and failing to loose weight.

I think I need a buddy to help me along and vice versa.

I want to get down to about 11 stone as a start point and see how I feel from there, I am so miserable I just cant go on like this and being overweight and living in jeans ANOTHER summer. I say next year I wont be big and uncomfy next summer and here I am 😞

Is anyone up for it?

You sound exactly the same as me and like you say self sabotage!

Ohh the carrots and chewing gum tip what a good idea!!

Im really beginning to get myself down about this we sold our house back in December knowing we had a move day end of July, I wanted to move to new home fitter happier and healthier and Im still the same I am so cross! Wanted it to be a fresh start of me feeling good about myself and here I am sad and miserable x

Set yourself a new small goal that’s achievable. Each day is a new day, we all have slip ups. I had to be honest with myself and log everything even when I had a stuff my face day. Long term I could see that the odd bad day didn’t really matter as long as the overall trend was down.

as I keep telling everyone read 'The glucose revolution', im now 60 and ive lost a stone by this method, still eating most of what I would normally. also im wondering if the HRT is finally helping.

Im going to look into this thank you x

This is what I am going to do from today LOG EVERYTHING that makes so much sense the odd bad day will happen but I need to then convince myself its not a bad week just a bad day or a bad meal etc x I wont lie I didnt weigh in today Ive only just remembered! I have lots going on I will set a reminder on my phone to do this tomorrow then every thursday there after! I know I will have gained tomorrow but will get back on the horse so to speak.

Hi all,
When you've missed a couple of days and read over the messages it really strikes me how much shame we all feel - the constant feelings of wanting to be happy in ourselves, hating the heaviest we've ever been, hating ourselves for self-sabotage or failure in the choc/crisp department.

And that's the thing that makes me the angriest about this weight journey - the sheer energy I waste hating myself for something that should really be so unimportant. It carries such a disproportionate level of space in my brain and my emotional life. I can't relegate it to its proper place. I don't feel about other overweight people the way I feel about myself.

Why are we so hard on ourselves - I'm sure the problem is exacerbated by the cycle of shame. When I fall off the healthy eating wagon I guiltily make it worse by a mindset of "Oh f* it! I might as well stuff my face for a few days...which then turns into weeks or even months and all the while I don't love the tastes and indulgences the way I would if i had a normal relationship with food. I almost do it to make myself sick.

Sorry if that's a downer and not very helpful. But it gives me rage!!! And I weep for us all as I read us all struggling with the same unnecessary sh**!

Anyway, in other news I weighed in this morning and I have lost 3lbs which I'm obviously delighted by. That amounts to a 15lb loss in total and takes me very nearly to an 18 stone something landmark having started this at 20 stone 2 lbs.

Interestingly I nearly blighted myself on Monday by feeling so good at how the weekend had gone i did a cheat weigh-in one evening for encouragement and i was the same as early morning the previous Thursday and this thread and a bit of stern talking to myself managed to derail my own self sabotage whereby I felt discouraged and lost all commitment.

Hope you all can live with the readings on the scales and know not to judge yourselves on such a narrow and boring measure of success. Equally if you've kept to your goals and been rewarded - Bravo!

Wow!

This has hit home!

Its so true, I was so slim after I has my son 15 years ago, then when he was about 4 I started putting weight on!!

This post has made me realise that since then I have been battling with food and hating myself! What a sad life to lead 🙁x

You super star well done! I forgot to weigh today! Head is in other places supposed to exchange today and Ive been on phone before work trying to sort out my physio referral but its another 16 weeks on top of the 12 weeks Ive already waited! I think now I will weigh in again next week to save the disappointment! Ive set a weekly reminder xx

We’ll done @ThistimeIreallymeanit i was busy and forgot to weigh myself this morning. Couple of celebration meals out (end of A levels and college for my 2 DS’s) but I’m not beating myself up about it, it is what it is.

Hope you house exchange goes through smoothly @40somethingx

Well done @ThistimeIreallymeanit , that's amazing! I also forgot to weigh last Thursday so will wait until next week, although I highly doubt anything would have changed.

@mumofone1980 I totally get you, I have set so many mental deadlines and passed them all, mostly heavier than before. It's frustrating but we need to be kind to ourselves. I'm trying to go day by day now rather than a big date to reach.

I watched an interesting video by Dr Ekburg which talks about the science behind burning fat. I'll put it here in case anyone else enjoys that kind of thing 😁

Just catching up, I've been so busy this week I've been struggling to find the time to check in but I've just done my last weigh in for this week so I can do my first 'weekly weigh in' as I now have 2 full weeks worth of averages. I have lost 1lb which I am happy about considering the amount of chocolate cake I have eaten this week and all the DH plate ganache leftover from making it. I also wasn't managing to get my steps in (although thanks to bumper days Friday and yesterday I only need 7k to get to 70k today so should actually meet my target after all) and only got out on my new bike once as they have closed the cycle path I would usually go down due to a festival and I'm not confident enough to go on the roads properly yet .

The next two weeks are going to be hard for me because of said festival and lots of alcohol but I'm going to really try not to self sabotage and continue eating healthy meals during the day even though my evenings will be bad. Me and DP also have some annual leave booked so on those days we will either go out for a long walk or on our bikes.

@ThistimeIreallymeanit I have just noticed the same when catching up on this thread and your post really resonates with me, I'm really trying now we have this thread to change my mindset and that's why even though I'm not doing perfectly I'm going to try and find positives each week for what I have done as it's so easy to get bogged down otherwise. Also well done on the 3lbs loss! You are doing brilliantly and helping me keep going knowing that despite how hard it is it is possible!

Ill give that a watch thank you!

House didnt exchange again! Im in a mess its all getting too much now!!

Hi all,
So this could be a tricky week for me. Just weighed myself and I've only lost a lb and that was by moving the scales around the floor and standing on tiptoe etc.

I had been very in control this week - accounted for every calorie and walked a hundred thousand steps so i was feeling smug - all the more so as I hadn't had a sneaky peek beforehand - so the underwhelming message from the scales was an extra hard slap.

Now I know one day's weight doesn't mean a thing, and that after such good losses the past two weeks i was due a bit of stabilising. But I'm still cross and still in danger of derailing.

I've been controlled today so far and think i will manage to stay so this evening. I just need to be watchful for the week and if next week is minimal I am in very real danger.

Hope you've all had a better week.
x

I could really do with a buddy!! I’m very similar 5ft 3. 14st 7 and have the same issue EVERY BLOODY SUMMER ☹️☹️☹️

Im so sorry girls I have been useless!!

We have ALOT going on now were packing to move house!!

Sorry I've not been on in a while. How is everyone doing? Weight and life wise? How is the move going @40somethingx ?

I'd like to set myself a 5 day challenge (today to Friday) to not eat any bread or processed sweet stuff- would anyone like to join me?

I will be going mad by 11 today, guaranteed, but I want to prove to myself I can do it. However it's always easier when I know someone else is counting on me too!

Hello lovely!

Move is ok just so much to do!! It was my birthday yesterday but I didnt over eat etc!

Id love to join you but I suffer with IBS and most things trigger it off so I have to have a white tortilla wrap for lunch as thats one of the few things I can eat without flaring up lunch wise! x

Happy birthday for yesterday! Hope you had a lovely day 😁 hope things start settling down soon for you in the new house.

My dh has IBS so I totally understand not wanting to with mess your diet. Feel free to join in with whatever works for you, I'm just doing it to Friday for now as we have a weekend of birthdays next week!

Hi please can I join. I'm 5ft 1 and weight 10st 11 which is the heaviest I've even been. Realise I'm much bigger than my mum who's same height as me which has really got me down. I can totally relate to all the self sabotaging thoughts and feelings of shame and obsession withy weight. I was slim until my late 20s 7 1/2 stone for years and could eat whatever u wanted! It's tough.

Whatever I wanted.

thank you!! IBS the bain of my bloody life!! xx