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Sister saying she's fat

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KarenMarlow3 · 05/02/2021 22:26

My sister is really getting on my nerves. She's small like me, with a lovely slim figure, but keeps on telling me how she can 'only just' squeeze into her size 10 jeans and how she needs to lose a stone. As I'm about the same height but a generous size 16 with a bum that you can see from space, this is really pissing me off.

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PurpleDaisies · 05/02/2021 22:29

Maybe she has put weight on through lockdown and doesn’t like how that’s made her feel?

Have you told her you find it annoying?

HelloThereMeHearties · 05/02/2021 22:30

Perhaps she thinks you're happy with your weight? So doesn't have to modify her language around you.

SirB0bby · 05/02/2021 22:37

She's put on weight, her clothes are tight and she feels uncomfortable. Just because you are bigger doesn't mean she's not allowed to feel that way.

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KarenMarlow3 · 05/02/2021 22:57

She knows I'm not happy with my weight.

OP posts:

PurpleDaisies · 05/02/2021 22:59

Does she know it annoys you when she talks about her own weight?

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KarenMarlow3 · 05/02/2021 23:00

I just see it as an indirect boast, 'look how thin I am.'

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PurpleDaisies · 05/02/2021 23:02

@KarenMarlow3

I just see it as an indirect boast, 'look how thin I am.'

She couldn’t possibly be u happy about her weight?

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 05/02/2021 23:05

She wants to take pot-shots at you, OP. The only way she can do this without you giving her a righteous smack in the gob is to talk about her own figure.

Play her at her own game and tell her to do something about it then if she's that bothered. Then change the subject.

Bluntness100 · 05/02/2021 23:08

Ok if you don’t think she’s unhappy as she’s put on some weight then it is all about you ans she’s just having a go. Just tell her you know her game next time and to sod off.

FinallyFluid · 05/02/2021 23:11

I am size 6/8( in jeans)(mostly 8) it has taken me ages to find my style, I was previously 14st.

I do not want to put on weight, I don't want to put on weight full stop, but I am particularly buggered if I am going to outgrow my clothes in a pandemic and have to figure out a whole new fashion sense.

You sound jealous.

Picktionary · 05/02/2021 23:18

I can imagine it is annoying but I assure you it is about her, not you. You are just hearing it as boasting because you are insecure. It does sound insensitive to moan to you if she knows youre unhappy with your weight. Neither of you are being unreasonable!

I complain about my weight (flabbby 12) to a friends who is very overweight/obese ... I do feel bad about it but he hasnt ever said anything. I am only worrying about myself. A bit selfish I guess.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 05/02/2021 23:18

@FinallyFluid

I am size 6/8( in jeans)(mostly 8) it has taken me ages to find my style, I was previously 14st.

You sound jealous.

OP doesn't sound jealous, she sounds quite happy in her own skin. OP's sister sounds as if she isn't happy with her sister being content in her own skin.

Unless you bore on about dieting all the time what makes you so snippy towards the OP thinking that she sounds jealous? What has your weight to do with OP's situation?

Mintjulia · 05/02/2021 23:18

So if she's put on a few pounds and her jeans are uncomfortably tight, she isn't allowed to say so?

Have you considered that your reaction says more about you than it does about her.

FinallyFluid · 05/02/2021 23:23

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe.....Lost my weight on the two primaries in five years cancer diet, believe me, I know, narky, snarky, and jealous when I see it.

The sister and yourself are stacking up nicely in the begrudgery corner.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 05/02/2021 23:29

FinallyFluid, the OP is getting fed up of her sister mentioning it. If her sister were posting I'd be supporting her if I posted.

We're all responsible for our own weight . It's extremely tedious to listen to somebody banging on and on about it and doing nothing to tackle it. With respect, you sound as if you have a few hang-ups yourself.

PurpleDaisies · 05/02/2021 23:30

It's extremely tedious to listen to somebody banging on and on about it and doing nothing to tackle it.

Who says the sister is doing that?

There’s a lot of projecting going on here.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 05/02/2021 23:37

@PurpleDaisies

It's extremely tedious to listen to somebody banging on and on about it and doing nothing to tackle it.

Who says the sister is doing that?

There’s a lot of projecting going on here.

It's in the OP's first post, no projection required.

PurpleDaisies · 05/02/2021 23:39

It's in the OP's first post, no projection required.

Perhaps you could highlight the part where the sister is doing nothing about it? I can’t see that.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe · 05/02/2021 23:42

OP says that sister 'keeps on telling her' that she (the sister) can't fit into her jeans. If sister realised that she couldn't fit into her jeans she would do something about it and not keep saying it, surely, because there would be no need, she would be fitting into them?

I can't believe I'm arguing the toss about this nonsense. It's been a really long week so I'll leave you to it.

MoiJeJous · 05/02/2021 23:44

I think she is probably genuinely talking about herself and feeling uncomfortable with her weight gain. I’m a size 10 and struggling to fit into my clothes these days. Just because i’m not a size 16, it doesn’t make it any less distressing.

Hopefully you can try to see her side OP. You can support each other!

PurpleDaisies · 05/02/2021 23:46

If the sister realised that she couldn't fit into her jeans she would do something about it and not keep saying it, surely, because there would be no need, she would be fitting into them?

Perhaps you could give me the secret to this magic, immediate weight loss? It doesn’t just disappear for most (any) of us.

I can't believe I'm arguing the toss about this nonsense. It's been a really long week so I'll leave you to it.

In other words, you’ve realised the op’s posts don’t back up what you’ve said and are flouncing.

AccidentallyOnPurpose · 05/02/2021 23:49

My best friend is a size 10 and I'm a size 18. She frequently moans about how much weight she gained. She actually is miserable about it and uncomfortable in her own body. She's lost weight several times but it goes back on, especially with lock down.

Sometimes we bitch about it together. Sometimes we egg each other on to exercise,diet etc.

Her being unhappy with her weight and her body is never about me. It takes a high degree of arrogance and self importance to think it is.

LimitIsUp · 05/02/2021 23:51

@FinallyFluid

I am size 6/8( in jeans)(mostly 8) it has taken me ages to find my style, I was previously 14st.

You sound jealous.

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ScottishStottie · 06/02/2021 00:07

Surely you can see that your sister doesn't need to be heavier than you to be upset about her weight?

She has put on weight so.she is heavier than her normal, if you are close then dont you want her to be able to talk about something thats bothering her without making it all about you?

FluffyBlueJumper · 06/02/2021 06:57

If I follow your reasoning, you should not be allowed to be unhappy / complain about your weight because some people are a size 22? In this case, no one but the fattest person in the world is allowed to feel fat?

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