Weight question - pic attached

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So yesterday I was out doing my daily jog and a man shouted over from the other side of the road "you need to go faster than that if you want to lose those pounds". Obviously I didn't respond and just carried on but it's been playing on my mind all night. This isn't the first time someone has commented on my weight recently either - last week an old man shouted over "keep going girl and you might be in a bikini by summer". I don't think he was being mean just more one of those sexist comments the older generation sometimes makes but I'm now left feeling very insecure about my weight again. In my head I KNOW I'm not fat but I'm also not thin, just more of a medicore medium at a size 10/12. I've never been one of those people who has been happy with their weight so I know the issue probably lies with me - I hate the top of my legs, the tops of my arms, need to tone all over etc and this got worse after having 2 kids! I've always struggled with my weight and had to eat well/exercise otherwise the lbs just creep back on but we all know that during lockdown there may have been a few more cheeky snacks than usual! I guess what I want to know is do I really look that bad as for random strangers to comment on me in the street??? (Outfit worn is like what I wear when I'm out jogging oh and please ignore the bad walls, skirting and floor we are mid-decorating!)

I have a theory. I know anecdote is not data and all that. But in my experience, men seem to take digs at women's weight more when they're actually slim than when they're overweight. I see it a lot on Mumsnet where horrible partners are taking digs at women who are objectively very slim, or men are shouting abuse at women exercising, even though they are marathon runners.

I've battled with my weight since my mid 20s, so around 20 years. I've never been huge but have always been big enough to be in no way considered slim, by anyone's definition. I've never ever had a man comment on my weight in that time.

But I did have people comment on my weight, say I was too fat to wear X, Y or Z when I was less than 8 stone as a teenager.

I've come to the conclusion that the sexist arseholes assume that the only reason women are slim in the first place is to attract the oh so important attention of males, therefore comments on your weight will hit you where it hurts, in your view of yourself as attractive or unattractive to them. Whereas once you're a bit bigger, they must think it's a waste of time commenting because you've clearly let yourself go and it won't have the desired effect.

I know it's wrong to let other people's opinions affect me so much but it's how I be always been. I've tried to not let things get to me but it never works. I'll never be the confident type unfortunately it's just my nature to self doubt and worry

You have a lovely figure!

Wow from looking at your photo I would assume they were being sarcastic, you clearly don't need to lose weight but some CF just to comment to annoy people (they probably think they're hilarious )

You look normal, not slim but definitely not fat.
The men are arseholes.

Not slim

I wouldn't say thin but that's only because I associate that more with underweight. But you are most definitely slim and honestly have a cracking figure!
I'm currently in the obese BMI range (not that that measurement is particularly reliable) but to give you a rough idea! I'd really like a figure similar to yours.

Pay no attention (easier said than done, I know) but those who comment are often projecting their own insecurities or just misogynistic twits

madamf give over.

The op is slim.

Your idea of slim I fancy would be an unhealthy model type look. Size zero. Stupid. Damaging.

Madame F - normal is size 16 - she is slim. She's similar to my size and I am always getting told there is nothing of me. And when I lost some weight a year or so ago my manager said people were asking if I was ill.

I'd kill for your figure

This is Mumsnet where no matter how slim and healthy you are (and let's face it, the healthy bit is what should be more important) someone will insist you are overweight but you just can't see it.

I appreciate weight is subjective - one persons slim is another ones fat. For me I think I just need to work on my self esteem - I'll be the first to admit I have no confidence at all and not sure how to actually get any confidence either

Men just see weight as an easy target I think. I remember when i was about 19, and a small size 6, and some idiot in a van drove past and shouted something ending in 'fatty' at me 🤷‍♀️ Even back then with all the insecurities of a teenage girl I knew it was ridiculous!