Weight question - pic attached

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So yesterday I was out doing my daily jog and a man shouted over from the other side of the road "you need to go faster than that if you want to lose those pounds". Obviously I didn't respond and just carried on but it's been playing on my mind all night. This isn't the first time someone has commented on my weight recently either - last week an old man shouted over "keep going girl and you might be in a bikini by summer". I don't think he was being mean just more one of those sexist comments the older generation sometimes makes but I'm now left feeling very insecure about my weight again. In my head I KNOW I'm not fat but I'm also not thin, just more of a medicore medium at a size 10/12. I've never been one of those people who has been happy with their weight so I know the issue probably lies with me - I hate the top of my legs, the tops of my arms, need to tone all over etc and this got worse after having 2 kids! I've always struggled with my weight and had to eat well/exercise otherwise the lbs just creep back on but we all know that during lockdown there may have been a few more cheeky snacks than usual! I guess what I want to know is do I really look that bad as for random strangers to comment on me in the street??? (Outfit worn is like what I wear when I'm out jogging oh and please ignore the bad walls, skirting and floor we are mid-decorating!)

How tall are you op?

I'm 5 5 and weigh 9st 6lb so normal bmi x

OP you're not even close to being 'big. Honestly I would kill for your figure.

Does anyone remember that scene I. The inbetweeners where they are driving past the bus stop and they shout 'bus wankers'? Well something like that happened to me.....i was jogging and someone shouted abuse put the passenger window. They then had to stop for traffic lights so as I ran past I emptied the contents of my water bottle in the passenger window then carried on with my jog. Felt a little better afterwards. I could have strung him up but thought better of it. Oh, I'm a bloke by the way.

People are dickheads. Guys more so than women on the whole. I'm sorry they shouted that to you OP. You are not fat and look great. Ignore those a$$holes. One day they will do it to the wrong person and get a smack for it.

I too would like to be your size! You are slim.

Wear headphones.

You look fantastic the men shouting were probably fat c---ts

That's pretty cool R2519,

You look great! These are silly bullies that enjoy picking on women runners.

They are hoping for a response - something along the lines of "Oh, I'd love you to put some sun cream on my back for me whilst I'm wearing my bikini" would be ideal.

Please ignore. The comments are actually nothing to do with your size.

You look amazing

You know you look fine. Why on earth would you let these comments play on your mind?

Bus wankers is the only acceptable street abuse.

@R2519 ha ha that's amazing. I wish I was so brave but I'm the least confrontational person ever!

You look perfect. Spot on. Next time shout back "no amount of anything will stop you being an absolute bellend" and carry on your way.

I've been shouted at while out running too - I do triathlon so I am by no means fat!

I agree with PPs - it's nothing to do with your actual weight and more to do with:-

A) an assumption that if you're running it absolutely HAS TO BE because you want to lose weight

B) men think it's their god given right to give their unsolicited opinion to women and we should be grateful of the attention and hilarity of it all

He's a knob. HTH.

You look fantastic! Great shape!

Tbh it’s not just a man on woman thing (I’m female) it’s just a control/rude person/attention thing.

Even Chris Whitty is getting his appearance/mannerisms ripped to shreds by some idiots (this is an oldish white guy and he’s a scientist/medic - hardly a celebrity or a singer auditioning for the X factor ?!)

I’m in my 30’s and have had negative comments made (explicitly) about my:

• facial expression
• voice (BOTH too quiet and too loud)
• apparently I both flaunt myself and am after attention and aren’t pushy enough it’s like Quantum physics , two event happening at once
• I’m too slim and too fat (again, the paradox )
• too overdressed and too underdressed

I actually genuinely enjoy fitness/clothes/playing with my appearance and always have done - not bragging but I’m slim and overall I think I look fucking great.

. I think that’s often the motivation of these commentators - so that when I’m choosing what to wear and how to think and act my internal narrative is one of fear.

You look great, not too thin, not over weight (obviously!), I would describe you as normal slim. Like someone else said, you look like the weight loss after picture. No idea what the men shouting at you were thinking, rude idiots.

If you need to hear it you have. FANTASTIC figure and look healthy, strong and slim.

I cannot understand why anyone would need to shout that comment. It’s so rude and weird and stupid.

Headphones all the way now.

1.there are lots of stupid men around

1. your body looks absolutely fine !

You look absolutely normal, OP. You have a great figure.

It's sad that you can be so affected by rude random comments like this - and sad that you worry about things like your skirting boards. I think you're too self-critical.

I spent my entire life wondering why men do this, until someone v. clever on here said that it was an attempt to control a woman's behaviour (ie by getting a reaction) and control her right to occupy public space, and that really struck a chord with me. I don't believe, now, that these comments have anything whatsoever to do with a woman's appearance. I think they are made by inadequate men who feel that they don't have sufficient status, power and influence in their own lives - so remember that next time, OP - anyone who says things like that is a weak, powerless loser in his own eyes. Now I just say, "Loser!" with as much scorn as I can manage.

Just tell them your OH will be along shortly and that he needs someone to test his new weights routine on. Half joking but basically these are beta males who pick women as easy targets, and they only really respond to a fuck off from another guy.

Most people would kill to have a figure like yours. You look very slim.