As I posted up thread, I’ve maintained my 3.5 stone weight loss for a year and I haven’t changed what I eat - just how much. I still drink alcohol and eat crisps and chocolate
It’s entirely possible to lose weight and maintain a healthy weight still enjoying your favourite foods
This is back to the black and white thinking I’m talking about .
NO ONE is saying that to eat healthily you can never eat chocolate , crisps or alcohol.
NO ONE is saying that you can never eat your favourite foods.
This seems to be a favourite straw man of the chronically overweight and obese.
“ Well you lot of miserable fascist killjoys just want me to survive on one lettuce leaf a day and have a totally unhappy life and never have a biscuit again until the day I die or even one tiny glass of wine at my own wedding . I don’t want that so I might as well stuff my face on junk all day , be 24 stone, have a whole raft of health problems and become housebound by the time I’m 50”.
These are not the only two options.
OF COURSE if you have a basically healthy diet but just eat a little too much then you can lose weight, even lots of it, by adjusting the balance and watching your portion size.
OF COURSE once you are a healthy weight you can maintain that and still eat your favourite foods. But that depends on what your favourite foods are and how much of them you eat.
But that’s not the OP. She doesn’t have a healthy diet now, by any stretch of the imagination, she even refers to this in her OP. That’s why so many posters have suggested ways that she could improve it eg by eating less pizza and a large salad.
Encouraging her in this “ all or nothing “ thinking is very unhelpful and ultimately a bit unkind. She’s young with 4 kids and needs to work on her health or she will have major issues in middle age if not sooner.