Positive no shame weight loss?

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Ok, so hoping I'm not alone and can find someone with a similar mindset!

I am plus size, have been since I was about 18 (thanks alcohol lol). I'm learning to love my body, it is strong and sexy in my way. I'm fine with that, I can walk for miles and get up stairs so none of this skinny is healthier no matter mindset what here. It's been a long hard journey to begin to like my body and I don't want to suddenly undo all that.

However, I have to lose 4 stone in less than 5 months to start fertility treatment. I'm not doing the paid plans - been there done that got the overpriced cookbooks. I am watching my calories and putting in a lot more exercise and different types.

I want to do my best to stay positive, to actually keep learning to like my body etc. No guilt or shaming. Sooo is anyone in the same boat? Fancy chatting and helping each other through it?

Me too! I need to lose 4 stone for heart reasons. I recently watched The Game Changers on Netflix and so have started a vegan diet (2 days in). It's been easier than I thought so far - quite filling for a small calorie count. I need to move more as well. I tried swimming but my fat butt floats meaning my back is bent so I have to do backstroke. Obviously I can't see where I am going and so keep bumping into people! Yoga was a disaster as I have no sense of balance and kept falling over .. The gymn is too expensive. So, walking it is. This has cheered the dog up no end. Will let you know how the vegan thingy goes - my biggest problem is a lack of familiar favourite recipes. That and the fact I don't like curry and an awful lot of vegan recipes are for curry. With a bit of luck we'll all be mostly sorted by summer ....

I made a delicious basa curry tonight and only had about a third of the rice I would usually and added loads more veg so happy with that :) definitely need to reduce carbs but couldn't go 100% without

Am planning on doing dry January, with the exception of the 6th as it's my work Christmas party so want to make the most of that 😂

Took all the left over Christmas treats to work today to get them out the house before the new year.

I hear you about yoga, I broke my arm last time I tried 😂 would love to swim but not sure when I really could as DH is a chef so works most evenings so I have to stay in. Anyone know of any good exercise programs on YouTube?

My sofa feast this evening consists of a lot of cheese a lot of pickles and a lot of sweets! Not feeling guilty at all just enjoying bringing in the new year in my PJs. Hope everyone else is having a lovely New Year's Eve!

Just home from a lovely Nye party in a friend's house (have to get kids to bed!) Lots of bubbles and nibbles to enjoy with lots of laughs and a fun evening so definitely worth it. Happy new year everyone! 🥳🥂🎉

Happy New Year everyone! Weighed myself this morning, along with DH, and discovered that I'm only 5lbs lighter than he is! As I'm 5'11" and he's 6'5" that's not great! On the plus side, it's a great motivator

I've got a sweet potato dhal in the slow cooker which smells amazing, and I'm having the last of the Christmas leftover soup for lunch with a small crusty roll instead of my usual hot baguette.

Oh, that is motivation, Captain . Great to be making a firm start. The dhal sounds good. I have chicken and veg stew on here. It's my favourite dinner and leftovers will be good for lunch in the next couple of days.

I am holding off on the full diet refresh until Monday as we're going to the panto today and I'm out for lunch or dinner for the next three days. I got out for some exercise this morning. The hilly park where I run was mobbed so I did a hillside step run which was much quieter. It's about 55 steps and I ran (slowly jogged) up it eight times. I had thought if I managed four I'd be happy so I'm delighted to have been able to push myself. I dropped the kids to their friend's house on the way so I'm going to walk up to collect them in a bit. Dd and I have made a new years resolution to walk, scoot and cycle more so getting that off to a positive start today.

Here's to a happy and healthy 2020

Just popping in to wish you good luck on your journey and to say I found it really helpful to start looking into the causes of my overeating etc. Will be different for everyone, of course, a few books I'd recommend if yours are similar to mine are the emotional eaters repair manual and will I ever be good enough. A lot of it then became primarily about healing and living in my body in a positive way rather than weight loss as a goal, just mentioning that because someone talked about the restriction - - > overeating cycle. Intuitive eating is something else I've found helpful in getting away from that, and also from having good always be on my mind, if that makes sense. Anyway, wishing you every success with your goals!!

That's a good plan mother although I'd be lethal on a scooter have fun at your panto!

Wow I'd love your height captain all the women in my family are willowy and tall. I got the other side of the family with short big hipped big boobs. I'm still 5'6" (and a half! Lol) but feels short. Ooh have to share the Dahl recipe. I love my instant pot but never can be bothered to find recipes for it.

I've started working on another of my goals this year. More focussed on my mental health. I'm a total book nerd, did my degree in English. I read to keep my head straight and chilled and happy. So I've finished a book today sat on the sofa and barely moved lol. I'm going swimming tomorrow partly to get me moving also to try and help fix my sons terror of water

I'm also a book nerd, and one of the things I do for my mental health is keep track of the books I've read each year. I draw a little bookshelf and each time I finish one I add it to the picture. It's so nice being able to see the 'shelf' fill up as the year goes on 😊

That's so cool captain I just obsess over goodreads lol.

Ok so I just got an extra boost to hit the ground running this week. The day I found out about my infertility I got a tad emotionally hammered. Just a tad. Scrolling through fb a totally safe activity. I saw an advert on one of my plus size groups for a burlesque photo shoot aimed at helping women learn to love their bodies after negative experiences etc. So I apparently entered and won

I've now got a full burlesque photo shoot at the end of the month. Only told my best mate

I'm not using this as a "I must lose weight" but definitely an extra boost to be more confident and happy in my body

I would like to join in. I'm doing a bit of Slimming World (just copying meal ideas from the magazines), a bit of Hairy Dieters but mostly not drinking Coke (a weakness for me) and snacking only on fruit. I've been eating far too much chocolate and too many crisps recently, and the quality of our meals has slipped. I'm on no added sugar muesli and skimmed milk for breakfast, and already missing my sugary Crunchy Nut and porridge with Nutella. I am optimistic that cutting out the rubbish food and snacking less will make a big difference initially. 2019 was a tough year for me - new house, new job - but 2020 is a new beginning. We want to have another baby and I'm not prepared to try until I've lost a stone (I had a tricky pregnancy at points with our first baby and I want to minimise any risks). I'm a stone over having a healthy BMI but more like 1.5 stones from where I feel comfortable. Considering this more of a lifestyle overhaul than a diet - welcoming all positivity coming from this thread and wishing everyone luck along the way.

Hi helia

How's everyone been getting on since the new year? I've been swimming and did 750m in half an hour which is an improvement on my 500m last time! I've also been for a walk each day. I did however have a generous helping of leftover chocolate and hazelnut Christmas pudding last night lol. It needed eating so I ate it

Hi helia

Watch, I missed your post about your photoshoot! Sounds like fun .

The 5k I did last week combined with sleeping on the couch and floor with sick children since Christmas have aggravated a shoulder/ back injury I got this time last year and I am in pain. I was at my magic healing woman on Thursday and going again today so fingers crossed I'll be in a better place to exercise next week 🙏. I am, however out for dinner and cocktails tonight. The restaurant is about 6km away so I'll try to walk over if the massage later works.

Ooooh I do like cocktails 🍸 😍 have fun! Hope your shoulder is feeling better soon! Don't push yourself too fast in the meantime maybe do little and often workouts instead of big ones.

Honestly I'm terrified but determined to do it lol

Greetings from the USA! First morning here but managed the long flight well yesterday. Had plenty of room in my seat and the belt buckled easily with room to spare- would not have been able to say that this time last year.

Broke my step record yesterday with a big walk around the shopping area near my hotel. Keeping up the low carb regime. Found a Trader Joe's just across the street and have a fridge in my room so have bought in some low carb staples and most importantly my unsweetened almond milk so I can enjoy my coffee maker!

Have several restaurant dinners out coming up with colleagues so trying to keep on track on the days I'm dining alone. Had some delicious lemon pepper chicken for dinner last night so feeling positive!

Where are you in the US Chequer? Sounds like you have a good plan to manage your meals while you're there. I'm going to Paris for a week in March so I'll take any tips for how you get on this week.

I really enjoyed last night. I walked there so I'm counting it as 5km. I don't know if it was the sports massage yesterday or the bottle of wine with dinner, but my shoulder is vastly better today so I went for a run. Well, the kids wanted to go to the park so they cycled while I ran plodded behind them. Keeping up with the bikes made me go a lot faster than usual .

Hi please can I join? Never posted on mumsnet before. But I'd really love some company losing weight, and no shame. It's been very hard to learn to like my body and I'm not quiet there all the time but I try. But I do feel uncomfortable and there's loads of clothes I'd love to fit back into. Plus, I graduate in July and I really really want to feel comfortable having pictures taken. Every time I try to lose weight (about 2 stone I would like to lose), I feel shame and then I just emotionally eat. So no shame might be a good start!

I don't exercise to be honest but I need to. I live in a shared house and there's barely room to stand in my bedroom so home exercise routines are difficult and I love love love swimming but my nearest pool is 40min walk away (I don't drive) and deeply grotty. Also hate running.. I bought a second hand bike though and I think I'm going to start commuting to work on it. I might even do Couch to 5k..

I definitely need to eat more fruit and veg. I can manage healthy evening meals fine, but my main problems are portion sizes (huge) and lunches (making salads at home is lovely but often much more expensive than sandwiches and I'm on a budget). And when I see my boyfriend on the weekends he loves getting takeaways and eating out but we're going to start cooking at home instead.

Sorry for a massive post!!

Hi abbidabbi. If you decide to start c25k let me know, I'm thinking of doing it again (I used to be able to run 10k ) so we could buddy up if you like.

Sorry, hit post by accident! Sounds like making small steps will suit you (like me). The take aways thing is definitely going to be hard here. Can you try leftover from dinners as lunches so you have food you really enjoy more cost effectively?

I'm braving cycling the school run tomorrow. I'm in awe of people who cycle their commute!

How did the first "real day" go for everyone?

I'm happily back into 8:16, I started over the weekend as I just wasn't hungry either Saturday or Sunday mornings. I was definitely feeling it more today but a giant mug of herbal tea tided me over until 12 when I had my brunch. I did fall and eat three chocolate biscuits but that is the massive downside of working from home. I'm actually going to donate what's left of the Christmas biscuits to the PTA coffee morning cupboard tomorrow so I'm no longer tempted!

The weather was awful (raining sideways) this morning so I couldn't do my run as planned. Instead I did a 15 minute hiit routine when I got home from the school run. Luckily I'd had the foresight to put the scooters in the car, so I cycled to pick up the children while they scooted home. So all in all, about 30 minutes exercise. Not sure how I'll manage tomorrow as dh is away, I've meetings all day and a late one so I can't even do anything after the kids go to bed. I'll see what I can come up with.

Hope the new year is being kind to you all.

I didn't do too badly today. It's my birthday so it's always a bit rubbish going back to work!

I had porridge for breakfast, and then a banana at break time (studiously ignoring the iced buns in the staff room!), ended up missing most of lunch because my 1:1 was finding the transition back to school difficult. I'd taken ryvita for lunch and that's not the easiest thing to eat quickly - crumbs everywhere 😆

The plus side of the missed lunch is that I had plenty of wiggle room at my birthday meal. I had a cookie dough pudding and it was lush!

Happy birthday Captain! 🎉🎂

Sorry had a mental few days with back to work!

How's America chequer?

Sounds like you've done brilliant Mother! Using the kids as a workout routine is genius lol. I know what you mean about having a house full of food being too tempting!

Hi abbi of course more than welcome! Little steps is always a great start. We're definitely takeaway obsessed in this house so I focused on getting quick easy meals in. So staples of noodles, rice, pasta and then an array of low cal sauces and meat/alternatives so I can knock a meal together. I also dug out my instant pot which makes cooking a doddle. If you're struggling to get exercising you could start with limiting calories etc for now and see how you get on?

Happy birthday captain I work in education too it's a nightmare trying to find time for dinner when you've got kids needing you all the time. I usually end up with the last grotty chips and gravy out of the kids canteen so need to stop that!

I've been swimming twice and Pilates since new year. Pilates last nights nearly killed me. Planking is hell I hate it.

Hi. I've just found this thread and would really like to join in. I need to lose around at least 3 stone and I know from experience that I really don't do well with organised slimming clubs or restrictive diets. I love food, there's just so much to taste and try and all my free time/social events are based around food. Anyway, I've now the heaviest I have ever been and feeling very uncomfortable with a wardrobe full of clothes that are too tight.

My weight has always yo-yo'd but I've never been this bad before. Eight years ago, I started running and lost a lot of weight and became really fit and healthy. I've been looking back at photos from that time and I want to be that person again. I've got out of the habit of running but I definitely plan to start up again. I started doing C25K before christmas but the timing was a bit stupid - I live in a fairly rural village with limited street lighting and the pavements get very icy so not the best time of year to be going out running.

I completely agree with the PP who said that they need to start a robust exercise regime first and then the healthier eating habits should slot in alongside. This is what happened to me previously - once I started seeing the results of the running, I was more motivated to eat in a complementary style. Right now, the idea of restricting food/calories just makes me want to gorge on pasta and cheese.

I have a demanding job and often work long hours as well as caring for an elderly/ill relative so I tend to stress eat plus I'm left with little time for exercise so I'd be grateful for any tips on how to incorporate activity better within my lifestyle. I tend to leave the house around 7am, hardly ever take my lunch hour (and lunch is almost always a sandwich or something else that can be eaten on the go between meetings - before this job, I used to make salads and have time to sit and eat with a knife and fork!) and am home again around 8-9pm. I'm usually starving so dinner is a priority when I get in but that really doesn't leave time for exercise and all I really want to do is flop on the sofa for a couple of hours before bed.

I signed up for a zumba class and went along yesterday only to find out it had been cancelled. This felt like a massive setback after really psyching myself up to go. For some reason I now feel even more daunted about trying again next week. I've also bought myself a swiss-ball, weighted hula hoop and 2kg dumb-bells and plan to give myself a bit of a workout every day at home (get up 15 mins early, do it while dinner is cooking etc). There's a parkrun near me on a Saturday morning and I'm considering signing up but as so unfit and out of shape right now, I might need to aim for that later? I did go swimming at the weekend (30 lengths of 25 metre pool) and last weekend I walked 3 miles (mainly hilly route) so at least I've made a start...