Walk of shame at swimming pool.

[BigFatFuckNC]

So I’m at centre parcs at the mo. There’s a ride where you have to be 18.9 stone max, apparently I missed the scales at the bottom of the stairs and walked all the way up and was weighed by the life guard at the top. Weighed too much. Had to walk back down in front of everyone in the queue. In my swimming costume. If I’d have spotted the scales at the bottom my dignity would have been spared. My mistake totally and the lifeguard was doing his job completely. Also he was really polite. Nice young lad. Mortified.

I’m also a big fat fucking fuck. I can’t tell you the last time I got on the scales, but the cut of is 18.9 stone. So the best part of 20 stone. Fuck me.

I’m a binge eater, totally unhealthy relationship with food. I will eat a healthy breakfast, lunch and tea. I’ll eat a fuck tonne of hidden snacks, every time I go to Asda I eat a massive bar of chocolate in the car. I know it’s wrong but I don’t know how to change it.

this is my wake up call. Please help me change. Give me pointers about where to start. Please.

That must have been so hard for you.

The first thing I’d do is get rid of all the hidden snacks. Start doing online shopping so you can’t be tempted by the big bars of chocolate. I can’t resist crisps so I have to not have them at home.

I’d try and build in some exercise too-swimming might be a good one to start with.

Right - I’m a few weeks ahead of you in the lifestyle change. I got a notepad and wrote down all the days of the week. Every day I succeed in having NO snacks except unlimited fruit and veg I get a tick. If I fail I get a cross.

I seem to be crazily motivated by these ticks and crosses! I’ll turn down the muffin because I really want to put my tick on the page before bedtime 😁

Just start there. After a few weeks make other tweaks but to start that’s the ONLY rule. No snacks except fruit or veg. Normal meals allowed.

Go!!

I found the book “atomic habits” (I had the audiobook) really helpful in getting me exercising regularly, and making small changes that don’t feel like a big deal, but which do make a difference when they’re repeated every day and every week.

Having an exercise buddy or joining a weight loss group is also helpful as other people help you along.

I've been where you are and heavier! So have a lot of people. It's mortifying when you're forced to face up to it when you're not ready though.

Slimming World was a good start for me. It gave me a plan and I followed it. I lost about 4 stone, which was enough to give me the confidence to start exercising.

Oh and I’m sorry if people reply and I don’t. I’m really bloody upset and trying not to eat my pain. Which is also something I do apparently. Fat fuck.

Well done for making a start. If you can cut out the sugar and high fat snacks you'll find after a few weeks you won't crave them as much. It will get easier. Swap the snacks for nuts, strawberries, low fat yogurt, falafel ... you can still curb hunger.

Oh you poor thing

I try to remind myself that Every snack you resist is worth recognising and celebrating. So that Starbucks Frappuccino Or croissant you skipped? Well done. You only ate 1 wispa not all 4 in the multipack? Well done. Every little helps and even little steps. I totally agree with @PurpleDaisies try online shopping to remove the shop trigger/opportunity if that’s your issue. Stock up on apples or prepared ‘nice’ fruit like melon and stuff So you have something good to eat when you need to. I have used my fitness pal in the past, it’s great when you are doing well be really demoralising if you have a binge and are truthful. Therefore I’m ignoring it at the moment as I have the self control of a gnat. Loads of friends have done really well on slimming world or WW but everyone us different.

Good luck

I weigh 18 stone and I am less than a week into cutting out snacks.

I think most of us who have got to this level of weight have got similar embarrassing stories to tell. I am the person who couldn't get the table down to eat my meal on the plane - I am the person who when DS was pointing me out in a crowd to a new friend was asked 'Oh! Your mummy is the fat one.'

Losing weight and keeping it off is hard bloody work, society makes it hard with crisps and chocolate at every turn. But we have to say enough is enough and make a start. My plan is to tackle one thing at a time. So at the moment I am tackling evening snacking. Once I have eradicated that (I inhale chocolate/biscuits etc as a treat once the DC are in bed as a reward for a long day!) then I will start on something else - I think I will introduce porridge for breakfast next. So I don't feel too deprived as I can still eat what I want for tea without guilt.

Why don't you thing about what might work for you and just make a start?

for the day you have had

Please don’t call yourself a FatFuck. If a friend was in this situation would you be calling them that name? If they were calling themselves that name would you agree?

I know this is easy to say (I am overweight and I say horrid things to myself), but it just really stood out to me.

First step is to be kind to yourself.

Oh bless you. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Congratulations on making the decision - it really is the most important part.

I find weight loss is about regaining control. So, not thinking ‘I can’t eat that’ but rather ‘I don’t eat that’.

For the rest of your time at CentreParcs, can you make one sustainable change? Something small and almost insignificant that you absolutely know you can achieve? Because I think that’s the start. Having success right from the beginning.

Maybe you halve the amount of sugar in your tea / maybe you walk on the spot for five minutes as soon as you get up / maybe you drink a glass of water before every meal - whatever is achievable and makes sense for you.

Each small change will contribute to an overall healthier lifestyle. You can absolutely do it - even if you don’t believe yourself right now. Small, sustainable changes are key.

Be kind to yourself. You are overweight but that is it, everything else about you is unrelated to the weight. We are brought up seeing fat as bad, naughty, greedy, and other unpleasant words. You aren't those things at all you are just overweight. If you can I would read the obesity code as I think it's life changing.

I would try and do time restricted eating as you will lose weight without much effort on you part. Simply try and restrict your eating to certain times of day and a number of times. So breakfast, lunch and dinner but no snacks. Or start eating at 10am stop at 6pm. At your weight it is likely you are insulin resistant so having a longer period of time with no food will help deplete you glycogen stores and get your body burning fat. Accept now weight loss takes a long time and it won't fall off overnight.

I really feel for you. What a horrible experience. I’m the same with eating. A whole box of chocolates at night. I even eat as I’m falling asleep past midnight. It’s my comfort. Last night I resisted the urge to eat but I had a hot chocolate drink at 01:00 which is restrained for me. Also last night I was happy so there is a link to my emotional state and my eating. I don’t know what to offer as advice because I’m getting steadily fatter.
I hope you can enjoy the rest of your holiday and try not to let this dominate it.

Well today was day two. My sister was there when I was turned off the ride and she’s sworn to secrecy.

Today is kind of day one.

No snacks.

Lots of booze, but that’s not the norm at home. No snacks is my first step. Thank you for being kind. I needed that. Because I wasn’t being that to myself.

There is a brilliant podcast called Weight Loss Made Real. It deals with emotional eating . I’d highly recommend it . Try and enjoy your holiday .

Since you're at centre Parcs I'd do some nice walking. Good for the brain and soul. If you dont have a fitbit you could get a pedometer on your phone. Whatever steps you do you need to.increase by 500 each week. I read this somewhere.

Also myfitnesspal is free and easy. It gives me control.

Years ago I weighed in at weight watchers and I was so heavy I just laughed at the ridiculousness of it. I had no idea I could even be that heavy! I knew I would never be that weight again so it didn't bother me too much. I actually lost my first stone in 2 weeks. The weight does want to come off and it will.

I'm a binge eater too. I try and have drinks instead of food. If I'm bored I'll have a tea. If I'm out and fancy something sweet I'll have a diet drink. Not healthy, but it's not putting weight on either, and I only do that in weak moments.

Good luck! This could change your life. It's exciting!

Does it help if I tell you I got kicked off a ride at a kids theme park in April?

I’m 3st 10lbs lighter now and still going. You can do this!

Eat less food. It’s as easy and as complicated as that.

Find a way that makes you accountable- ticks/crosses/SW/a mate whatever it is and then stick to it. Tell yourself you are going to do it for a year if nothing else and see where you get too.

I’m someone who has built themselves a fat cloak. Unhappiness, stress, bullying, death and other joys made me eat my misery and served to make me invisible to the world.

It has to stop. But I’m struggling as I love the anonymity my fat brings me. I’ve learned to love life in the shadows.

I also need to be able to get off the floor without clinging to something heavy duty.

Watching with interest.

But be good to yourself Op.

I’m in a complete mess with emotional/binge eating and I think healthy eating/diet advice without addressing the emotional side of things is not enough. I’ve seen this book recommended many times:
www.amazon.co.uk/Overcoming-Binge-Eating-Second-Program/dp/1572305614?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

I say well done for getting your cossie on and wanting to go up that slide. Also for making the recognition you want to change. What might work for you? I quite like slimming world. I have to drink almost no booze to loose weight (sob), but the meals are nice.

Ok you're lucky in a way because you already eat and enjoy healthy food, it's just the snacking that needs sorted out. You've got your motivation now, your Center Parcs moment, and you know exactly what to do.

Stop buying chocolate. You don't need to starve yourself or live on dust, just drop 90% of the excess crap from your diet. I did it this year and lost two stone while still eating a pretty normal three meals a day.

And no need to cane it in the gym (unless you want to, and you might) just walk absolutely everywhere. Get a pedometer app and beat your previous target every day.

You'll see results straight away, there's nothing more motivating than that. You can do it!

Please stop calling yourself a fat fuck. Self hatred will just makes you eat more. It's going to take time to turn this round so please don't try to lose 5 stone by Christmas.

I'd start by cutting down on your snacks. East some fruit instead of the chocolate bar in the car for example. Maybe just a small bar instead of the large one I expect you bought (going by what I do).

Hi there ,I too am not exactly Twiggy! ,I am trying to "eat healthily " ATM and will try to substitute fruit for snacks (love raspberries ,so will have those instead of Choc Bar if poss ).You are not "A fat Fuck"! You are a nice lady who is trying to lose a little weight . My Cousin eats porridge for B/F , Ryvita for lunch and a proper whole meal in the evenings .I favour boiled eggs ,but something along these lines may help you ,If you can ditch the "diet" word I find I feel a bit more positive and easier to maintain .Good Luck and there are lots of us "larger Girls out there!

Ah god love you. That’s very hard. I’m very overweight myself. I went to the doc recently due to constant headaches & being very hormonal. Anyway turns out I have very high blood pressure. Blood tests ruled out every other cause so the only reason is weight. The doc weighed me at 232.2lbs (so 16.5 stone) and was very stern with me. I’ve been given 6mths to sort it out & hopefully get off the meds. They are keeping a close eye on me & I had to go back after 1 mth (which was last week) and then again in December & again March. All for weigh ins & BP check. The one very helpful tip the nurse had was apples! She told me to have a bag in the house/car/anywhere I am, and if I’m hungry to have one. They are sweet which helps with sweet tooth & also are good for the metabolism. I’ve also halved all my portions & cut out all snacks (other than bloody apples lol). I try to do a 30 mins walk every day but this doesn’t always happen.
In 4 weeks I’ve lost just over a stone! The nurse was fierce impressed with me last week ☺️
I think I needed the fright of the doc visit to give me that push. For you it’s this swimming pool visit.
Just know that you’re not alone.