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A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

BigMoFos - Week 51

71 replies

JackieNo · 27/04/2007 15:58

New thread for the new week.

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WigWamBam · 01/05/2007 14:51

Hello, Hippi

I spotted your other thread, but Sue was doing such a good job that I didn't think I needed to put my twopennorth in!

Most of us on this thread have a lot to lose; that's why we initially started it. Some of us had tried joining in with some of the other weight-loss threads, but were disheartened by women with half a stone to lose decrying themselves as porkers - so we started the MoFos as a place where considerably larger people could find support. As it's gone on we've come to realise that actually it's not about how much we weigh, it's about our crap relationship with food and the emotional reasons why we are the size we are, and I've felt that the MoFos is helping me work through that.

Don't feel you have to jump on the scales until you're good and ready to; if you want to weigh-in that's fine, but there's no pressure to do so if you're not ready.

Look forward to chatting with you soon.

JackieNo · 01/05/2007 14:51

Hello Hippipotami. Welcome - lovely to have new people.

(Sue - have emailed you - do you want a few clothes for DS? Although you may already have replied - I don't tend to check my non-work email at work)

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suejonez · 01/05/2007 14:55

Jackie how rude - yes sorry I was very caught up in DS being sick. Yes please pretty please, will happily pay postage if you have paypal account.

JackieNo · 01/05/2007 15:59

It's fine - not a problem. I just assumed that, like me, you may have email accounts you don't check very often (I have a JackieNo hotmail account that I've created that I don't often remember to check, unless I know someone's going to send me something). Don't worry about payment - it's not a huge amount of stuff, so will bung in a padded envelope in the next few days.

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hippipotami · 01/05/2007 16:01

Hi guys, thanks for the warm welcome. WigWamBam, lovely to see you here. I read a post of yours on another thread (something about why people are fat) and your reply about the emotional relationship with food rang very true to me.
(Now you are going to think I am some strange stalkerwoman )

Sue, 8 stone is my overall goal too, but to lose 4 stone would take me back to my pre-pregnancy weight. Bearing in mind the dc are now nearly 8 and 4 it is about time I shifted the pregnancy bulk!

To look good, be healthy and according to my bmi I need to be just under 15st. So that will be my loooooooong term target.

I think I will weigh myself next week.
Paul McKenna helps me with self-control a little. I now think twice before I snack, and am able to stop after a few biscuits rather than mindlessly eat the whole packet.
Not sure how long-term a solution he is though...

WigWamBam · 01/05/2007 16:18

I ought to keep off those kinds of thread really ...

WigWamBam · 01/05/2007 16:25

I think, from what I know of the Paul McKenna thing, it's about breaking old habits, and forming new ones. So in that respect it has a chance of working in the longer term.

But if you're anything like me, those emotional aspects need addressing at the same time. Talking on these threads has helped me to work out where a lot of my emotional eating comes from - which has to be a good start.

hippipotami · 01/05/2007 17:56

The thing is, I have no idea why I emotionally overeat. Hope to find out though...

I think the PM thing is going to help me change my eating habits for the long term. (now I sound just like one of his CD's)

I am thinking about hypnotherapy too, but am worried that I won't be able to be hypnotized, am a bit of a control freak and don't 'let go' easily.

suejonez · 01/05/2007 19:15

hippi - I have tried hypnotherapy for my exercise aversion some years ago and it did work. I too am a reknowned control freak and won't deal with certain things even under hypnosis but it worked just fine for the exercise thing and worked for years.

I overeat for a number of reasons (one of themof course being the good old fashioned reason that I like food). One of them is that I was trinaed to over eat by my mum, food = love when I was young and active I could get away with it but over the years with a sedentary job and insulin resistance the weight slid on insidiously. I think it then became a vicious circle - felt crap about the extra weight and not attractive so eat to comfort myself. Eventually it became an addiction and I'm learning to deal with it. I have realised that once an addict always an addict and I have to learn ways to cope with it, learn to get back on the wagon every time I fall off and be kinder to myself when I'm not being perfect. Thats where this group has helped me over the past year, I think I am generally easier on myself on the whole, accept that I will always struggle with my weight and that the battle is won in small victories.

WigWamBam · 01/05/2007 19:50

You don't necessarily have to "feel" hypnotised for hypnosis to work - the subliminal messages and programming don't rely on you "going under" or going into some kind of a trance to work. It's worth a shot.

I don't think I really fully appreciated the reasons for my overeating until I started talking on these threads. Like Sue, a lot of my eating problems come from my mother - but in a very different way to Sue's. For a number of reasons, my self-esteem is on the floor - and a lot of that is down to my mother. I've gone on ad nauseam about her abusive nature, and I have spent my entire life trying to please her because nothing I did was good enough for her when I was a child. Part of my emotional eating comes from the lack of self-esteem, which in itself stems from abuse - there was abuse of a different kind from my grandfather too - and I continue to abuse my own body by overeating because I don't value myself. I'm trying really hard to change that mindset though, but it's very hard.

The one thing my mother did do was feed us - her philosophy seemed to be that if you love something, you feed it. Don't show it, don't tell it, just feed it. And I find comfort in food because that was the only thing I could find in my mother that gave comfort - she fed us. So food equalled love, and still does.

I know that I'm my own person, and that I can't blame her forever for my choices, but she set the pattern which defines my choices. And while it's me who controls what I put in my mouth, too often the "me" that does the controlling is the 6 year old girl who is desperate for love and comfort from the mother I am still desperate to please.

And now we all need cheering up a bit ... sorry, that was all a bit maudlin

suejonez · 01/05/2007 19:58

cue Philip Larkin poem, WWB?

WigWamBam · 01/05/2007 20:01

Most definitely

Something about tucking you up, wasn't it ...

suejonez · 02/05/2007 16:20

JackieNo do you realise that you have been nominated as Mumsnet role model what have you been doing???

JackieNo · 02/05/2007 16:27

Have I. Can't imagine why. Most often around, due to lack of rl, maybe?.

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suejonez · 02/05/2007 16:42

over here

JackieNo · 02/05/2007 17:32

Thanks Sue - I found it. Still don't know why though, but very nice of her.

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littlemisssensible · 03/05/2007 10:50

Hi All,

Sue, I hope your DS is feeling much better now and you're finally getting some sleep!

Welcome to Hippipotami! I'm sure you'll find this thread really helpful! Whilst I don't have as much to lose as some (and its getting less every day )I do have lots of emotional issues around food and this thread has been very supportive and helpful in helping me recognize and deal with those issues!

I'm sorry I'm not posting much but I have been lurking! The house buying/selling is taking over my life I'm getting demented just trying to keep the place looking perfect for viewers and dd is getting fed up with a manic mum screaming at her not to touch/move/breath in case she messes up the house!

On a more positive note I lost 2lbs this week! Probably the stress!!!!

agalch · 03/05/2007 11:49

Morning all

Welcome Hippopotami,the girls here are a nice bunch.There is no bitchiness or anything so you will love it here

Hi Cheesyfeet,yes i am an old married woman.Everything went well,it was the most perfect wonderful day for us and the kids.Think Jackie did a link to some wedding pics for me last week or the week before if u can be bothered to look.

Am terrified to go to class tonight again in case i have put on.I feel my eating is getting silly,having to put things up high to stop myself eating them etc.Not felt like that for ages so a bit worried.I could easily put 3st+ back on really quickly.If i lose tonight i am sure i can feel motivated and positive.

Had my 2nd bit of root canal done on Tuesday and it didn't hurt at all,i am amazed i was soooo brave lol.One last bit to do in 2 weeks and thats me.

Will post weight later on tonight.Have a good day all xx

JackieNo · 03/05/2007 11:53

Well done littlemisssensible. Excellent loss. Agalch - I was thinking of you yesterday as I was in the dentist's chair - I loathe going to the dentists - have to make a real effort to breathe through my nose, and not to panic and gag all the time. I used you as a way of thinking 'this isn't so bad, it could be worse, I could be having root canal like agalch'. So thank you for that.

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CheesyFeet · 03/05/2007 12:36

Well done LMS

1½ lbs off this week for me, my grand total is now 16½ lbs. While I was away from MN i pretty much stayed on an even keel, losing a pound one week and gaining a pound the next. I've now started to get back on track which is great. Typing posts stops me from comfort eating I suppose.

Still eating sackfuls of chocolate but mainly lean meat, fruit & salad otherwise. It's (sorta) balancing out the calories

EllieG · 03/05/2007 14:06

Stayed same this week - am quite pleased actually cos I ate all the pies this weekend while was away so was expecting a gain. Went to gym this morning and have been healthy, so back on track now though. And have managed to avoid SD malteasers which have been winking at me all morning.

suejonez · 03/05/2007 14:14

I've lost a pound despite being tired and living on cake. Have ahorrible feeling the cake is going to appear next week. I have to go out to a work dinner tonight so DS is being put to bed by my mum for the first time. I'm ridiculously sad about it!

Its particularly ridiculous given that any number of random people put him to bed for the first 11 months of his life!

EllieG · 03/05/2007 14:21

Well done suejonez - don't worry about DS he will be fine with your Mum. Though is very sweet you miss him so much.

suejonez · 03/05/2007 14:36

I know he will be fine really, I just hate the thought that he's too young to understand why I'm not there and that I will be back. I'm so paranoid about him feeling stable and secure after the start he had. Doesn't help that he has been unwell and so is a lot more clingly than normal.

JackieNo · 03/05/2007 15:39

Sue - he's coped with being looked after during the day by your mum and the CM, hasn't he, so hopefully he already knows that you'll always come back. But your knowing intellectually that it'll be fine isn't the same as feeling it emotionally, iyswim. I know that feeling. Sending good vibes for you, and for him.

Have weighed, and stayed the same. I weighed 2 days ago, and had put on, yesterday had lost, so I have no idea what my body's playing at. Just goes to show what fluctuations there can be even day to day.

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