Sudden revelation. Hate myself.

[Elfina]

We've been out and about today and I've just seen some pictures of myself. I've been kidding myself that I look just like I did before DD (18m) and that the extra stone and a half is just due to breastfeeding.

I'm so disgusted in myself. I have no self control what so ever. I feel like if I've not lost it yet, I never will.

Exactly the same thing happened to me just after Christmas (except I was 2 and half stone overweight).

I joined the gym and started calorie counting. I'm now down 2 stone and just 6lbs left.

It's been hard work but I feel so much better. It's not even taken that long really.

You can do it :)

Out of 10, how much is your motivation to lose weight right now? With 1 being low and 10 being high?

Motivation feels low as I feel like I can't do it. I've started calorie counting or low carbing or 5:2 several times and I don't get past a couple of days.

With calorie counting, low-carbing and 5:2, if you fall off the wagon, you just got to get back on again. Every time you will manage to stay on longer. You will get there! Participate daily in motivational threads here.

Typical food day is

Breakfast = Porridge w. Banana and toasted almonds
Lunch = Salad from local deli, this is pretty hearty with carbs like rice, beans lentils etc
Dinner = usually something like fish, veg and potatoes or quorn stir fry.

All of the above is okay. My problem is that when I get I from work at about 5, I cave and eat a couple of pieces of toast with jam, or a bowl of cereal. Then after dinner and baby's in bed, I've been having pudding, which I never did before she was born.

A big part of my problem is tiredness - being tired means that I struggle with will power...

Thank you! The encouragement is really helpful. I think that I just feel I'm sick of calorie counting etc, as I've done it for years. A part of me thought I could just go without watching what I ate, but turns out I'm naturally greedy and will eat a lot of sugar if I don't self-regulate. I think also that I thought because I'm so tired and working so hard that I "deserve" a treat, iyswim?

Fortunately I do exercise. I'm also a runner, and I love it (small mercies, I guess).

OP, I opened this thread and read your post and it could have been me. We've had the most fantastic day ou t but I just look like a heifer in the photos I've just seen. Dd is 19 months, and I kid myself that it's ok because I can fit in pre pregnancy clothes, but that's only because they were baggy in the first place. Something has to be done. It's takeaways and snacking here. And being more active. Will get out walking with dd and the pushchair. I have to look better, I just have to.

hi there,sounds like same thing happened to me today!I've now got a pic of me on my phone screen as a reminder of how i don't want to look!i defense know what u mean about the tiredness&feeling like u deserve a treat.but u also deserve to be slimmer (&with that,healthier too!).
it might help to write down all the pros&cons of staying as u are vs losing weight&then reflect on that at start of each day?weight loss isn't easy but if u want it enough,u can do it!

And me!
Dh took a pic of me yesterday and today while I was out he has out it on the wall, I look awful in it! Had felt better about myself yesterday too as had been getting back on track with food and exercise but the picture shows me I've a way to go.

It is possible to lose it, I did it last year with slimming world (recent depression has resulted in re gaining that and more though) and it is starting to come off again its just hard sticking to it, we can do it though !

I just feel so weak. Am I so pathetic that I can't say no to myself? DH can have a pudding on occasion and be pleased about it, but not bothered if there's not one forth coming. I want treats all the time. What's wrong with me?

Indians you can eat whatever you want but you have to only eat when your truly hungry and stop as soon as you are satisfied. Not continue eating just for the sake of mouth hunger. You can lose weight this way too as its sort of "body led calorie control".

Elfina Whenever I have started a diet in any shape or form in the past it always resulted in me bingeing. Eating mindfully only when you are truly hungry and stopping as soon as you have satisfied the initial hunger (often for me this is after about 3 good mouthfuls) savouring the flavours and textures. Look at most threads and you will see that most people (not all) find that diets of any kind fail them as they are setting themselves up to fail through depravation and hunger and psychological issues too.

Thank you, everybody. I'm feeling a bit more positive today. I've started 5:2 again, as this is something that has worked well previously. Also did a gruelling but brilliant run this morning :) I might have a look at the motivation and support threads as I think that will help when I'm struggling at my trigger times.

I think that you may find the Food/recipe one best. Not sure. There are several including a 5;2 one I think. If one doesnt work, try another if you want to.

When I asked about motivation[nc] I perhaps didnt mean motivation exactly. More, how much do you want to lose weight.
People say that it has to be at least wanting to lost weight 7/10 for anyone to try and keep to it.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/food_and_recipes/2044442-Come-forward-EatBetterers-and-unite-its-the-second-happy-healthy-eating-thread?

Good Luck Elfina you have to try things a few times before realising whether or not they work for you for life.

Elfina perhaps we can buddy up. I need to lose 1.5 stones which has crept up due to a v stressful year, stopping walking and eating to comfort myself away from depression. My downfall is probably portion sizes. We didnt have enough good growing and whilst money is no issue any more, whenever I think of past traumas I do tend to eat more.

I'm back on 5:2 today and have been on a long walk this morning. Maybe we can help each other?

Let's, cheeky how's best, on here? PM?

Thank you all. I think I'm at a 9/10 today!

I want treats all the time. What's wrong with me?

Processed sugary treats are addictive. They are manufactured to be. And as with all things that are addictive some people become more addicted than others. This may be why your DH can enjoy a pudding every now and again while you constantly crave more.

Don't beat yourself up that you find it difficult to limit your intake of treats. The food industry makes millions on making things addictive.

If you can face it try going cold turkey on the treats for a while. Yes the first few days are hell but once you get passed them you should notice the cravings start to lessen. Unfortunately as soon as you have them again the cravings come straight back but I find it helps my self control to know that.

Elfina we could start a support thread in the weight loss forum here and then try and motivate each other every day?

Sounds like an excellent idea!

Hi elfina how are you today?

I went for a walk yesterday but felt v low. I managed to have a good fast day although I had a v bad headache all day. I've restarted my running today and I'm feeling amazing. I did c25k last year and stopped running 6 months ago. Did my first run in ages and managed to run for 30 mins.

Your post really inspired me yesterday, I hope we can support each other. For me, even if I don't lost weight (I tend not to when I exercise) I find exercise restores my mental health which in turn eradicates my need to comfort eat. If I lose a stone or so I will be delighted. How are you getting on?