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When shall we three meet again? The not quite NT, not quite weightloss thread ......

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moosemama · 12/03/2012 20:22

We were full up ladies, so we finally have our very own weightloss-ish thread! Grin

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moosemama · 05/10/2012 20:53

No, not wrong. I kind of hope ish it does myself, just to finally get it seen by someone, anyone who knows what they're looking at.

Dh managed to get some really good photos of last night's foot episode, which really show how bad it was, so I'm hoping that they might help them work out what's going on when I finally do get to see someone.

Still, tonight I have all three dcs in bed, 2 out of 3 asleep and the tv remote to myself, so it's not all bad news. Grin

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madwomanintheattic · 05/10/2012 21:18

Woo! Get you!

I'm going out for a curry tonight. Ssssssh! Two in two weeks! It's thanksgiving weekend here, too, so long weekend and we have friends coming from out of town. I may even have a glass or two of vino. I know, I know, but I am so bloody relieved about the job. All I could see was everything getting worse and worse into the future... And I feel brighter already. I've already had a 'yep!' from my childcare standby to cover the training period, so I just need them to confirm my actual hours and I can organize.

I am praying to god my credit check is okay. That would totally feck everything.

moosemama · 05/10/2012 21:32

Spoke to soon. No sooner had I typed it than dd started screaming "Mummy, Mummy I can't get my pyjamas back on". She was working herself up into a right state with me hobbling up the stairs to get to her.

She'd taken her feet out of the bottom half of her sleepsuit/onesie thing to remove the fluff from between her toes and somehow managed to get herself all tangled up.

No sooner had I sorted her out, then dh arrived home, so that's it for my peace.

Enjoy your curry and thanksgiving weekend. Don't think about food, calories, weight or anything, just enjoy your celebrations. I have been eating Thorntons chocolates this evening that I ordered with my Tesco shop in a temper at dh being out tonight and Monday. Feel a bit sick and very daft now that he's come home early. Blush

I'll keep everything crossed for your credit-check, but I'm sure it'll be ok. Afaik they only care if you've been declared bankrupt or done for fraud.

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madwomanintheattic · 06/10/2012 15:28

Grin she must have been panic stricken! Grin hopefully you managed five minutes with the thorntons!

Enjoy having dh around (and make use of him!)

We are off to the zoo today. Yesterday there was a bear wandering around at the bottom of the road, which caused great excitement. It makes me chuckle to know that there'll be another one sitting in a gurt big enclosure today. Grin

moosemama · 06/10/2012 15:57

Dd was ok, daft bat that she is.

I saved the rest of my chocs for tonight.

Food really bad today, so trying to remain horizontal with it positioned atop a pile of multiple cushions. Unfortunately dh had other ideas and has been out nearly all day so far, leaving me with first 3 and then 2 dcs. I have resolved to make him suffer for it this afternoon, by enrolling him as my personal servant for the rest of the day. Grin

Enjoy your trip to the zoo. It is rather weird for them to have bears etc when you have them wandering around the vicinity anyway. Do they not do more exotic animals?

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TheLightPassenger · 06/10/2012 20:56

hello again, yay to new job, mad. I also have a baffling career history, my manager doesn't understand why I am doing my job Grin. I have told her about the pre-schooler with SN stuff, but not the mental health stuff. (anxiety disorder and borderline AS/NT in cutthroat professional environment do NOT mix well). Am dreading possible redundancy and having to be regarded with suspicion as overqualifed when applying for new jobs.

Sorry you are still having ankle troubles, I hope you find a more helpful GP.

moosemama · 07/10/2012 11:57

Morning folks.

Hope your Thanksgiving weekend is going well Madwoman.

Hi TLP, sorry to hear things aren't any better workwise.

I have started a thread in health about my shonky foot and added a photo to my profile. Seriously fed up of it all now.

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TheLightPassenger · 07/10/2012 20:13

have caught up re:ankle moose. might it be worth a private physio session, as that will be relatively cheap by comparison to private ortho?

moosemama · 07/10/2012 20:38

I daren't book a physio appointment until I'm sure there isn't any tendon or ligament damage though.

From what I've read it really depends on the type of injury as to whether immobilisation or physio is the right course of treatment.

I may well consider private physio if further tests show no structural damage though. Based on the useless physio ds2 had recently I don't think it's going to be worth bothering with our local NHS team.

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madwomanintheattic · 08/10/2012 16:25

Lots more exotic animals! They have a new hippo, three baby tigers, a new giraffe, and a penguin that has laid an egg! (The penguin exhibit only opened in the spring, so it's big excitement). Due to get pandas in about four years (the Australian enclosure was closed last year so that they can sort the new buildings and habitat.) still a bit weird to have bears and elk, I think!

Weekend v lovely, and I may be a teensy bit muzzy of head this morning... It's fair to say the entire weekend was a dieting write-off!

Hi TLP, the job thing hasn't been much fun, tbh. Completely uninterested employers who didn't even bother to consider me, with the odd one that looked promising, but then I lost out with no direct experience, just bucket loads of transferable skills. Have met some startlingly rude and dismissive hiring managers...

Will pop and look at your other thread, moose.

moosemama · 08/10/2012 17:43

That's good then. Not just local wildlife after all. Grin

Glad you had a good weekend and didn't worry about the diet.

I rang GP this morning for a cancellation and couldn't get one. Receptionist last week told me to call at 8.30. Called at 8.40 when Mum took the boys to school and was told off. Apparently I should have called at 8.00 if I wanted a cancellation. Last I knew the surgery didn't open till 8.30 am and they've always had the answerphone on if I've tried to call earlier. To say I was a tad disgruntled is the understatement of the century.

I was so fed up with it all that I actually chucked my crutches across the room after I came off the phone and have been hobbling around without them all day. I figure it's kill or cure. Either it will make my foot so bad that no doctor could possibly deny me proper treatment/referral or it will loosen it up and it will start to improve.

Not really expecting it to improve, as I know weight-bearing always makes it worse. It's already really hurting and dh is off to a conference over two hours away this evening, so I'm on my own - again. Hmm

I have to try again for a cancellation at 8.00 tomorrow morning. Not the easiest thing to do when we are in the throes of getting the boys ready for school and I'm on my own with all three dcs. Hmm

More school based crap to do with ds1 as well.

Feels a bit like I am never going to shake off this bad mood. Poor old Mum has done her best to try and cheer me up today, but I think I just ended up bringing her down instead. Blush

Having my hair cut tomorrow. If that doesn't go well I swear I will take to my bed for a year and not come out until I'm sure it's safe. Grin

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madwomanintheattic · 08/10/2012 18:05

Grin I have to say that some days you just need to wallow in it. All this forced getting on with it stuff needs an antidote. Grin

Hope you feel better in the morning and manage to get an appointment x

moosemama · 08/10/2012 18:07

Thanks madwoman.

Feel like all I've done for weeks is wallow really. I probably need a good slap!

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madwomanintheattic · 09/10/2012 13:56

Did you get an appointment today?

moosemama · 09/10/2012 18:29

Yes, saw one this afternoon ... but it wasn't great.

Doc was very sympathetic, went on about how a bad sprain can be worse than a broken ankle in terms of pain and recovery time and how they tell people 9-12 weeks for a bad sprain (strange how the timescale I'm told extends every time I go back Hmm).

Showed her the pictures of my foot and she agreed they looked bad, especially given it's nearly 9 weeks since accident.

She asked to see my foot and said it looked a bit swollen and not right. Then I took my other sock off, revealing my lily-white, normal other foot and her face fell.

Next she proceeded to examine me to the point of agony. At one point she grabbed my ankle so tightly I thought I was going to faint. The swelling meant that where she grabbed me her fingers left an indent and the blood didn't flow back into it at a normal rate, but she said she was checking for odema and it didn't seem as bad as the pictures at that time.

Told her the whole story from the start and she said that as the xrays said no fracture, she wouldn't refer to orthopedics, as they are all surgeons and would just want to operate. Confused Surely they will only want to operate if it needs operating on? Confused

I explained that it's getting worse not better and she said something about plantar fascitis (which it simply does not fit the symptoms for) and it being caused by not walking on it properly. I pointed out that I can't weight bear on it, so I can't walk on it properly, although not for the want of trying. I explained that I've done all the exercises you are supposed to do and was walking on it for the first fortnight after the injury, but it's getting worse and worse the more weight I bear. Also explained that it only feels better with prolonged rest and raising and every time I try weight-bearing again it sets the whole thing off again with pain, swelling etc.

Then she looked at the pictures again and became concerned that it could be a dvt due to the swelling going up my leg, so had to remove trousers while she measured and examined my calves. As I was expecting, it's not a dvt. Hmm

In the end she said it's soft-tissue damage that's obviously struggling to heal and there's some bleeding etc still happening as a result. She said she can only refer to physio, but they will order scans if they think it's necessary. She also said the physio waiting list is massive, so I may not be seen for some time.

I asked what I'm supposed to do in the meantime, weight-bear, use the crutches, use one crutch, raise it, ice it? What? First she said, "Do you need the crutches?" er ... no ... of course not, I just think they're a cool fashion accessory. Hmm I explained - again - that I have minimum 3 school runs a day to do, plus three dcs to look after and that I am trying to walk in the house, but won't get to the end of the drive, let alone the school, without the crutches.

She then shrugged and said I should try to raise it whenever I can, but other than that she's not sure, as she doesn't know what's wrong with it. AAARGH!

In fairness, she did say she would fax my referral through and try to get them to push it through quickly, but that she didn't hold out much hope. Hmm

When Mum picked me up she said she thought I'd been referred to physio, as it's cheaper than a referral to see a consultant and of course if physio refer for scans it will come out of their budget, not the GP's.

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madwomanintheattic · 09/10/2012 18:47

Oh Lordy. Any chance of you calling the physio once they have the referral and crying for a cancellation? Or biting the bullet and going for the private ortho referral? It can't get any longer a wait...

TheLightPassenger · 09/10/2012 18:49

sorry you wer5e fobbed off moose.

moosemama · 09/10/2012 19:15

Separate post as nothing to do with foot! Grin

I had my hair cut today - had almost four inches off and it's still past my bra strap! Shock

While I was having it cut (at Mum's not in a salon) my phone went and there was a mysterious text message from dh saying "don't worry about the school, I've spoken to them and they're going to sort him some food". Confused

Text him back, but he called me at the same time.

It seems that when dh made the lunches at 6.00 am this morning, he was a touch too tired for the job. He put two sandwiches in ds1's lunchbox, but forgot his fruit and cake.

Ds1 apparently opened his lunch box and announced that someone had stolen half his lunch. He ate both sandwiches, but had a total panic and ran around telling the dinner ladies and a random teacher he found in the corridor, that not only had someone stolen his fruit and treat, he was now starving to the point of fainting as a result.

He was sent to find his teacher to tell her and she said she didn't know what to do, but suggested he phone me to bring him some more food in! wt actual f! He then wandered out of the class and went to use the staff phone to call home! Another girl from his class came along the corridor, asked what he was doing and told him he wasn't supposed to use the phone, he had to go to the office. So he went and related the story to them, they then called first the home phone (first time I've been out of the house in a week ffs), then my mobile, which I didn't hear because I was having my hair cut, then dh at work! Shock Dh couldn't believe what he was hearing, but realised what he'd done, explained and just asked them to give ds some fruit or something, which they eventually managed to do.

Ds then came out of school and told Mum and I that someone had stolen his lunch.

There was no note from his teacher about it, nothing in his feelings diary and the teacher didn't approach or ask to see Mum when she went to collect him.

There's zero school to parent communication going on at the moment, ds is only having half of his timetable explained to him in the morning, the maths teacher has completely robbed him of all his confidence in his abilities, more and more issues with each day that passes and he is falling apart at the seams when he comes home from school every day.

We are getting, pacing, ranting, flapping and tic-ing for over an hour every day when he comes home and he clearly isn't coping.

I am so Angry I thought getting a statement would put a stop to this sort of crap, but so far this year is shaping up to be worse than year 4 and that would take some doing. I want last year's teacher back. Sad

I can't leave it like this, I am going to have to phone/go in, but I don't know how to approach it without them pulling the shutters completely down.

Think I will have to contact Parent Partnership again tomorrow and ask their advice.

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moosemama · 09/10/2012 19:17

Thanks folks.

Just don't think a private ortho appointment would be any good unless we can afford to pay privately for scans etc as well, which just isn't possible.

Going on past performance, I don't expect a letter from physio until a week or so before the appointment date.

Foot is blooming killing me tonight after being tortured examined by that doc. I am already on the co-codamols so excuse if I'm spouting complete nonsense.

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madwomanintheattic · 09/10/2012 19:24

Do you look gorgeous though? Wink

I did lol a bit at the text message. I did similar to dh when dd1 broke her arm. As we were there for hours, I left a few messages. But the first ones he got were the 'just leaving the hospital now, call me at home', followed by the 'in x ray' etc etc. he didn't actually have a clue wtaf was going on until he called me and worked out dd1 had broken her wrist.

School just seems beyond crappy at the mo, moose. I think you do need to go in and talk through... Has he seen the asd teacher yet this term? I know she was going to drop him - is it worth asking her to get involved and get the new lot up to speed before she does?

moosemama · 09/10/2012 20:00

According to my Mum, who admittedly is extremely biased - yes! Grin

Ds has seen his ASD teacher only twice this term and we've been told to expect to lose her completely after half term as she has had her job expanded to include all newly dxd children in the borough. I asked her to come to the last meeting, even said we'd arrange it whenever she was free and she made it clear she wasn't up to it. She said her diary was too fully, but I suspect it was partly loosening ties as well. Sad

She is supposed to be giving phone and email back-up once she leaves, but that's to the school not me. Can't see her having the time to do that properly, given her ridiculously overloaded new workload.

Supposed to be parents evening next week, but I don't think we are getting to see ds1's teacher. I get the impression that either we are being kept apart or she doesn't want to work with us. Just like the year 4 teacher.

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moosemama · 10/10/2012 19:33

Well, I was in the worst agony last night after that bloody doctor examined tortured me. Full dose of high-strength cocodamol, plus high-strength NSAIDs and I was still sobbing with pain and unable to sleep all night. Poor dh didn't know what to do, bless him.

Been on co-codamol, plus omeprazole and Naproxen all day today and basically off my head due to the side effects ... and it has still been agony all day. Can't put my foot to the floor at all, even after all the pain killers.

It's really bad where she compressed my ankle joint and it didn't blooming well hurt before she did that.

BUT ... I have, via my friend Mr Google, found a podiatrist and physio team who happen to run a practice in the next village on Thursday afternoons and Saturday mornings. They offer a free 15 minute assessment and will either advise on treatment, which is about 30-40 a session or tell you who else you need to see if it's not something they can deal with.

So, I'm going to call them first thing tomorrow morning and book whatever slot I can get. If they say it just needs physio, I will perhaps book an appointment to get some advice to keep me going until NHS physio appointment comes through. If they suspect there's something more going on I will pay for them to write a letter to my GP to get me seen and dealt with properly asap. Have discovered I can choose and book with a foot specialist at the local Priory hospital if it does turn out to be something more serious and they will see you within 7 days of a referral.

So, feeling a little better now I feel like I can take some control of the situation.

All I have to do now is get through the night.

Really hoping they can fit me in early tomorrow afternoon, before my parents leave for their holiday, as it will put my Mum's mind at rest (she is so stressed and worried about me - and was in tears herself at the state of me this morning) and also set me on the road to getting it properly dealt with asap.

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madwomanintheattic · 10/10/2012 20:17

A plan. Grin that focus will help - the never ending nature of it all is worse. At least if you know the next step is to get to the phone tomorrow morning, it gives you something to focus on.

And I am glad you're gorgeous (if a bit off your head on painkillers). Grin

I've had another interview offer this morning. I might pop along to see, as it's on Friday.

I'm going to re-look at the Daily Apple stuff. It's growing on me as a concept.

Fingers crossed they can see you ASAP x

moosemama · 10/10/2012 20:28

Thanks madwoman. Have established that there's no-one around to get me there tomorrow, so it will have to be Saturday. Really hoping they have some appointments available.

Good luckk with the interview. Just think, only a few days ago you were fretting about not being able to find work - now you're beating them off with sticks! Grin

It dawned on me today that I need to get back to dieting properly and stop all this wallowing and comfort eating. I suddenly realised that in all likelihood dh's new company will have the dreaded 'Christmas Do'. Where wives and girlfriends will be dragged out and paraded around. I got away with not going to the ones at the last company, because, well basically they didn't give a toss about their staff and were anything but interested in the fact they actually had lives and family outside of work. I get the impression this places is more touchy, feely than than. Dh says he's had an email invitation, but hasn't read it yet, so doesn't know if it's staff only or staff and partners. I am of course praying for the former rather than the latter.

I'm actually sick of eating crap now, but finding it hard to prepare healthy stuff whilst standing on one leg. Hmm Grin

Am resigned to no exercise for the forseeable future, but can at least start eating some decent healthy food in the meantime.

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TheLightPassenger · 10/10/2012 20:36

Evening! God news re Interview, Madwoman, less good news re:ankle. Think its a great idea getting a private physio to look at it.

Moose - remember , however much you weight, it always manages to be less than me Grin