how/why have I put on a stone?

[takingbackmonday]

Yet not increased in size?

I haven't done any exercise really for a month because I was abroad/lazy and I weighed myself this morning, I've put on a stone but am exactly the same size (measured, clothes fit the same etc) aside an extra 2 cup sizes. Surely they cannot amount to a stone and if not WTAF? Where have they come from? I haven't been eating any more and have pretty much stopped drinking around the same time I stopped 3 x week gym. CONFUSED.

Gym today. I feel like beast.

Let me get this straight: you've put on a stone in a month but all that's changed is your boobs, which have increased by two cup sizes?

Right, could you send me a list of everything you've eaten and done in the last month please?

On a serious note, have you used the same scales?

Up the duff?? :)

Same scales.

Seriously. I now look like a mammoth slut in all outfits. I'm a size 6/8 (small bones, fortunate metabolism), and was a happy 32C. Now around a DD and cant keep them down.

Went to Australia for 5 weeks, danced a lot at hippy festivals with no phone signal and lots of vegans , taken up eating avocado with vegemite on toast every day, drunk 4 tonnes of coffee to get through a PhD deadline, stopped drinking because of same deadline...

Oh dear fuck I hope you're wrong.

Deffo pregnant!

seriously is there any chance you could be pregnant as it was always the increase in cup size that told me I was up the duff :o

Have you weighed yourself at the same time of day? Different clothes? Time of cycle? Sometimes just eating one biscuit per day, or an extra glass of wine can make all the difference. Maybe its just hte lack of exercise that has made the difference.

Deffo duffo!

ohhhh shit

do we take that as an oh shit you is a bit pregnant ?

POAS time!

very pregnant.

Also 23, unmarried, 1st year phd, poor and terrified.

How do you feel, OP? Taking away the "fear" factor, is your gut feeling positive or negative about it?

Positive.

But there is absolutely no way I can have a baby. Christ this is the wrong place to talk about this. Somehow got a dr appt this afternoon, 7 weeks. Oh dear god.

Thank you for helping me find this out. oh dear bloody fuck.

what noway said the poor 1st year student bit is not an issue here,how you feel about it is

it is an issue.

as is the fact i'm not married (to me, archaic i know)

my family... i cannot tell them

i'd imagine my uni will take away my scholarship. either way it's so bloody hard single with lots of energy and no distractions.

plus i was drinking like a fish plus god knows what else during that festival - doesnt bode well.

oh christ.

so how do you feel about termination then,look at it that way round

is that something that is an ok thing in your head if needs must

not at all. i've always said if i was gang raped by terrorists i'd keep it. until now. oh christ. oh dear fuck.

OK don't panic. Talk to your uni they may be a lot more understanding than you think. I ended up pregnant with ds (now nearly 8) at the start of my final year at uni. I was 20, un-married, poor and living in student digs. Uni bent over backwardsy to help, offered to give me a year out, offered mitigating circs to up my grade if need be etc. They really were very understanding. As it worked out I gave birth to ds 3 days after i handed in my dissertation and things have worked out fine in the end.

Only you can make the right decision for yourself, but don't make a rushed decisions that you may regret. Talk to someone close to you - friend, sister etc and speak to uni and weigh up all your options.

Also many people smoke/drank like a fish etc before they found out they were pregnant so don't panic about that. Good luck with your decision whatever it might be xxxx

I found myself pregnant with my ds,had always been a staunch anti abortionist,but I did consider it with him,relationship was on the rocks,was past the magic age of 35,already had 3 dc....

I went to a counsellor to discuss my options,I kept him but it made me think about my pre- conceived ideas

Will your family really be horrified,mine are oh so sensible and very staid in their thinking but they dealt with me being a single parent,took it on the chin,yours may surprise you

my mother died when i was young, i'm an only child with a great relationship with my dad but he has such dreams for me and i cannot bear to see the disappointment in his eyes. I don't want him to have to take it on the chin, I want him to be proud. He's always said marriage first, kids after - old fashioned etc maybe but he has given up everything for me and I'm finally making him proud.

Re DP: this may sound a weird reason but we have something very new (2 months) but have been very close friends since I was 16. I thought/think it is for life. He is so supportive - entirely my decision but if I want it we have it, if I don't he supports etc... But - and this is so, so selfish - I want to see how it progresses with us without being forced together by this. I want to look back with I'm 50 with my planned babies knowing I made the right choice marrying the man entirely right for me who I CHOSE to be out of love not circumstance.

I want to finish my PhD and travel the world a bit more and have a glittering career in academia then politics. I want so much, that was just starting to appear possible. It's all intensely selfish and I am intensely evil for even considering not keeping this baby. I don't know what to do. My dr said it was 9.23mm. That's so tiny. So helpless. But also so far from being a baby. I do not have a clue. I am emotionally illiterate and emotionally incompetent, only just off years of ADs and on off counselling from PTSD and bi-polar, largely resulting from losing my mother so young. DP and I are surprisingly solvent for our ages (23 and 28), own our own houses, he has his own business etc but still I couldnt give it the start I had - totally irrelevant i know but a concern to me.

This is a shock. Horrible and confusing and scary shock.

taking you are not even in the slightest bit evil or selfish.

You have just explained very good reasoning why having a baby would not be the right thing to do.People do keep babies all the time when sometimes they should not.

You have been totally honest,you want to live your life before you get married/have babies and that is to be admired.

Look in the yellow pages,find a clinic/counselling service and make an appointment,then go and speak frankly,they will not advise,they will listen and as they don't know you they will give impartial advice on your options.Then make your descision.

If you do decide to terminate then it will be hard but it does heal in time,my son and his gf fell preganant when they were 16,toughest descision ever but they knew that they could not offer a child the right upbringing at that time,they are still together now,married and still not thinking about babies yet.They have dealt with all the emotions and still believe they made the right descision at the time for them.

You will do the right thing,let the shock subside and then do your clear thinking

But i dont want to kill my baby

sorry for over emotional. i want to die.

this does e

oops explain why i havent wanted to be anywhere near alcohol for a few weeks