Fat and Grumpy

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Not sure why I am going to gain about getting this out on here but here goes

Im 40 in 5mths - and for about 20years Ive struggled with my weight - im not massive, I hold it all quite evenly but at 5.7 and 13.4..I am uncomfortable

I have tried Slimming World for years and years - but I cheat

Tried Weight Watchers and just felt hungry all the time and never made normal dinners

I have a gym membership - maybe will swim once a week - they are earning a bundle out of me

I am forever thinking tomorrow I will change - but it never ever happens

I need a kick up the arse - but I have nooo willpower

Im sure Im more grumpy for being overweight

Sigh - feel better already for getting that out

HELP

It's such a viscious cycle isnt it though? Every time I eat something rubbsh I feel low shortly afterwards...which of course makes me look for my next sugar or carb hit.

I have dropped 2 dress sizes since NOvember or sometime before...and I have not been on any official diet. I can't tell you what I weigh now but back then I was almost 12 stone...and at 5.6 that was too heavy. I was a size 16...all I know now...and I won't weigh myself...is that I am a 12 again.

My weakness was/is sugar and carbs. I would eat things like a large bar of galaxy and two or three packets of crisps in the evening....about two ot three times a week. I was also having the odd pasty or cake at lunchtimes...as well as takeaway Chinese food once a week.

I started to have porrige as soon as I woke up...to kick my metabolism back into working order...then a LOT of fruit all day.

I have a whole bag of rocket when I feel bingey..with a drizzle of olive oil and Balsamic vnegar...it does something for me...I stopped grating cheese onto my pasta and got one of those dried parmesan pots so I could have only a light sprinkle.

I have dry popped corn now and then with salt when I want crisps.

I;m not saying I never fall...I had a pack of maltesers today and last week I had chips and curry sauce! But I try to keep away from the Galaxy, pasties, chps and crisps.

also got a push bke and ride it around 2 miles daily...just to the shops...it must have done something!

It is hard when you're not huge...but not at an ideal weight but it can be done.

What are your weaknesses?

Oh...and my health has been better too! I had Plantar Facilitis...which is like an inflamed area on the bottom of the heel...VERY sore..and due to to much weight! That has gone. have more enrgy too.

I am 39 btw

Dinners have not changed that much but we do tend to avoid carbs a lot..we have thngs like meat and salad...if we still feel hungry then we have some cheese or more salad..nuts or popcorn.

thanks for all your little tips chastiitybeltup - my weakness - is chocolate and energy drinks (I feel better for having one mid afternoon - diet by the way) and then more chocolate.

I am a total comfort eater

How about doing some exercise? Do you have any exercise dvds? Or just go for a walk egularly.
The 'happy hormones' from exercise can help you with your grumpiness and then puts you in a more positive state of mind for dieting.

You and me both twin. Comfort, bored, tired, grumpy, happy eater here. 40 this year too. I am focusing on eating goid for me foods and started doing 20 mins exercise a day. Can't promise never to gorge myself on chocolate or chips but...

Why don't you give the energy drinks a miss and swap them for something like fizzy water with a splash of pure juice? You can phase them out later...not sure if that would do much for you but it mght help...which energy drinks do you favour?

As for the choc...I feel your pain! It's the lift you get...I can only say to swap what you are having now for a small bag of maltesers...one a day...187 cals or something...and get some nice grapes and other berries to pick at.

Again...you cn phase the mltesers out...what meals are you eating? If you need a pick me up from high enrergy drinks and choc it is proba bly that your not getting the right balance of food.

I've lost over a stone since Nov, just by slightly altering my eating habits and retraining myself not jsut to reach for biscuits/crisps when I'm tired/cross etc. My problem was eating in the evenings...just so nice !! 3 months (and to be fair, I've been doing exercise 3-4 times a week), and I feel great - had a takeaway yesterday lunch and didn't feel guilty at all, but just more aware that it I didn't need to eat so much later on.
It sounds simple, and to begin with is quite a new way of operating. My friend read a book which talked about the difference that one biscuit can make in shifting the scales towards weight loss or gain - small differences can make all the difference....

Go for it !!

ChastittyBeltUp Im trying to follow Slimming World - so if Im good I will follow the plan, but no portion control with this plan at all. Weekends are out the window. Im so stressed at the weekend!

Comfort eating is such a misnomer! Do you ever actually feel comforted when you've demolished a bar of Galaxy and 3 packets of Frazzles? No, I bet you feel disgusted and wish you coudl turn back the clock.

You need to find something that really brings you that lovely 'Ahh thats better feeling'. a hot bath, a really good film, a shag, I dont know, just not food! I bet you woudl lose 4lbs in aweek if you started that TONIGHT

Go on, I dare you

Dont bother with Slimming world either

As you said in your OP it doesnt work and you cheat

I'll do it with you. I want to lose about 4 lbs. Lets see if we can together

I eat too much crap too

Hello, try cutting out carbs completely after 3pm. Use wholemeal bread when you have a sandwich/toast as it is more filling and better for you. Avoid white bread completely. Try to find a diet shake - perhaps a chocolate flavour that you like - not a meal replacement but just a supplement shake that you can have mid afternoon when you are looking for a snack - this should curb your hunger and also satisfy your chocolate craving. The only way you can lose weight is to burn off more calories than you consume, this can be done by eating fewer calories and also exercising. If you belong to a gym try to use it. Even if you are only walking on a treadmill, set yourself a target - perhaps to walk/jog 5 kilometres. Start off with 1K and gradually increase either distance or speed, try to get there at least 3 times a week. Another great way of getting to grips with your diet is to keep an honest food diary - I say honest as it is amazing what yor mind forgets when you think about what you have eaten. Keep a diary for a week and then look over it to see where and when you are weakest, the following week consciously try to avoid slipping into old habits and have healthy snacks to hand to curb your hunger. I appreciate it is much easier to write this than to actually do it but even a small change can make a huge difference! Good luck!

Agree...don't bother with slimming world...try eating a good breakfast of porrige and fruit...cut the carbs WAY back...one or two slices of wholemeal bread a day...knock the butter out...any snacks need to be fruit or veg based...raw...and meals should be lean meat or fish with a handful of carb...if you need a hit of choc...as I say...have one...but leave it at one...try not to do it daily.

Er yes I do feel comforted BUT feel much more energised, sleep better and look better when I eat properly and move my butt!

I refuse to diet. I hate anyone telling me what i can and can't have. I also refuse to weigh out x ounces of tuna whilst cooking food for family. Sooo I am having fruit and/or yoghurt for breakfast, salad for lunch and normal dinner. I am also doing 30 day shred each day. (it's only 20 mins). I have lost 3 1/2 lb in a week and a half.

Here's to the next few stone!

I have to say wolfie that your diet isn't great...you need a big breakfast and then meals that decrease in size...so a lunch with a lot of protein...and salad...and then a small dinner/supper...soup and a salad or somthing with no carbs...even another piece of meat is fine...

Sorry to hijack but Cyb! You're talking such sense... and OP I could have posted your post, was coming to these boards having spent the day inwardly grumbling about being (a bit) fat but eating too much anyway. Like most days of my adult life, actually. I'm 35

I have done WW and SW (my mum took me when I was 12. She does love me really); calorie counted, been a vegan raw foodist, starved myself except between 5 and 6pm; read Susie Orbach, Geneen Roth, Paul Mckenna, tried hypnotising myself, starving myself, running like a lunatic. What is wrong with me? I am a grown woman ffs, can't I just stop eating when I'm not hungry? Or putting crap in my mouth? Or hoovering up every scrap of spurned food DS doesn't eat, as if I were an effing rubbish bin?

I am so ready to change. I know what I'm supposed to do - eat when I am hungry, stop eating when I'm satisfied, plus avoid foods that are liable to distort those signals. But since I don't know how to feel them... yikes. Yikes. But I'm going to do it, because I'm just not prepared to go on in this endless cycle any more. No more diets! No more eating-and-exercise plans that stand in for fixing-your-life plans! Chocolate whenever I (really) want it - and I will not eat it ever again in place of something else that I want (love, comfort, entertainment, relaxation, distraction etc.) That's my plan. Anyone on for a non-diet?

Sorry but with a job and two kids I have not a hope in hell of eating a big breakfast. I don't see how you can tell me that my diet is unhealthy when I haven't itemised everything I eat. Surely it's better to do the best you can. ( my previous diet was full of chocolate, crisps etc so I'd say this is much better)

Sparkly my non diet started today. No crap, more frut and veg, no sugar, no white bread

I know it works for me and I'm about to book my hols so this paunch HAS to go

If anyone cares to join me, go right ahead. We can help/mock each other

Wolfie of course we can all only do what we can do...but you are doing it backwards. Breakfast like a King, lunch like a prince and supper like a pauper...or something...but the idea of it is that you eat most at the start of the day to kick start your metabolism in....then you have your fuel in for the day....

it works....SO many of us...eat naff all for most of the day and then make up for it in the evening when we have time and it's a killer for the metabolism as we're sitting and sleeping on a pile of crapy food.

I have a job and 2 kids too...I just make a massive pan of porrige and the kids eat some with me....and belive me I often dont' fancy it....not at 7.30am! All I want then is 4 coffees.

But I have made myself...and Ive dropped 2 dress sizes since NOvember and I didn't even be "good" over Christmas.

I eat the porrige with something on top like strawbs...and raisisns...then I do the school run...at work at 9.30 I have a banana...then I don't need or want anything tll lunch when I have something like tuna wrap...no butter...or a big green salad with chicken...I might have a roll if I am starving.

Dinner...we've knd of knocked carbs in the evening on the head...it's meat and fish or salad with noodles or pasta for the kids as meat and salad doesn't seem to satisfy them.

I even have some icecream or a small packet of maltesers in the evening about three nights out of the week. And water...and tea andd coffee.

It has worked for me.

I did quite well today, but noticed that I'd rather go hungry ALL DAY than give up tea/ hot drinks. Mental. Am working up to have a whole day of cold water only. Seriously panicked at the thought -wtaf? Anyway, have eaten lovely food and not mindlessly popped anything into my mouth. Felt slightly obsessed about it though - has anyone got a 'get over your obsessive thinking' plan/ tips?

Who says you can 't drink tea? I drink tea like a LOON, all day. Theres no point cutting stuff out like that , its unsustainable

if you ahve 2 huge sugars in each drink,or 3 chocolate digestives with each cup, that's a different thing

And alsoSparkle, I think you will always have to be mindful of what you eat.

Its the unconscious stuffing in our gobs that got us into this mess in the first place.

Nothing wrong at all with making considered decision 'Do I REALLY want to eat this?'

Yes yes, cyb, but! I am a bit compulsive about the whole hot drink thing - it doesn't have to be tea, hot water would do in a pinch. I just wonder what would happen if I couldn't have it . Only one way to find out...

Sparkly I'm with you on that. I love my hot drinks. As you said, even hot water is preferable to a cold drink of water sometimes. Even horrible bitter Green tea...especially in this weather.

But I'm really trying to move towards drinking normal water as all the experts advise.