New Mum seeking new body by Christmas!

[CoraBear]

My baby boy is 6 months old and I am quite overweight. Ok, I'm alot overweight (takes deep breath) I'm 15 stone. At 5 ft 7 this is waaay to much. I am sitting here in the one pair of trousers that fit me and my DP's tee shirt because none of my tops fit properly. Basically my stomach looks like a deflated paddling pool and my thighs are so big that I'm fairly sure that if I sit down too much longer they will burst open.

After I had the baby I took the very grown up approach to weight loss and I hoped that if I ignored the problem it would go away and somehow I would have a body like posh spice-because all new mothers lose all the weight instantly don't they? Turns out they don't, and surviving on mini aero's didn't help. I weigh more now than when I gave birth.

I have a serious lack of motivation but I decided to see if I could lose some pounds before Christmas, as I'll be seeing people I haven't seen since I was pregnant and want to look casually fabulous. So are any of you interested in holding my hand, kicking my arse and generally helping each other to stay on track? I really want to do this but I know if I'm not answerable to others my resolve will slip.

I have my first weight watchers meeting tomorrow, which I'm dreading as it will mean that the leader will weigh me and know what a tubby fecker I am. So, if any of you weight watcher followers or followers of other plans would like to come and join me and share stories of jogging up and down while eating maltesers so the points are being eaten and burned off simultaneously or just have a rant about how unfair the world is when you're hungry, you are welcome.

Right, I'm off to remove all the biscuits, chocolate and sweets from my house before tomorrow. That's right, when I say "remove" I do of course mean "eat them".

The dress you like was £25!! reduced from £129.

I swear we are cyber twins (from different continents!!)

That's some reduction. We are ridiculously similar. If you could only move next door we could go for coffee .

I know what you mean about losing and gaining the same few points, it's irritating. I'm determined to get my shit together and make a long term change to my weight. I often day dream about doing a really extreme diet and dropping 10 pounds in 4 days but I reckon if I can't stick to weight watchers there's feck all chance of me sticking to a very expensive, very restricted plan.

And can you imagine how grumpy I'd be without my snacking!!!

What about really sticking to weight watchers for the next two weeks? I mean really rigidly. I'll do it too and we can have a weigh in on Friday in 2 weeks and see how we get on. I've been going over my points a little every week so I need to reign myself in a bit.

Yes let's!
I will weigh in tomorrow, I think I will have gained 3 lbs ish in 4 weeks of indulgent eating!

It would be great if we were real life friends (I mean that in a non stalker way!)

Hangs head in shame. 4lbs gain…. Right starting today again (again!).
We did have a very good holiday though :)

Ah feck it! A few pounds are what you expect from a good holiday. You can kiss that 4 lbs goodbye, they will be hitting the road after sticking to weight watchers. I'm feeling very positive that this will work and it will be the push we need. How many points are you adding to your daily points because you're breastfeeding?

I've had a pizza for dinner which has used up the majority of the points. I really haven't eaten all day, I was planning to have sushi for lunch but DS ate it all on me. He's a pretty good diet aid.

Friday weigh in should be good. I'll head in to every weekend feeling trimmer. Now, I might need you to kick me in the arse the odd time when I start to slip. I need tough love, not cake.

It would be good if we were friends in RL but I think we would be a dreadful influence on each other. I have visions of us sitting in the sun drinking prosecco, laughing our heads off while our kids play.

I think you could be right but both prosecco and laughter are essentials in life so win win really :)

I think I am going to do a saturday weigh in, reasoning that I won't then have nights off on both Friday and Saturday. Saturday should work out a good no points day for me (although I am going to stick within points for the 14 days at least). I am alloying myself 33 points as still bf 3-4 times a day, does this sound reasonable? Will try not to use the weekly points. Day 3 tomorrow, always find it's easier after that.

I feel like I am worrying too much about everything at the moment so trying to make some positive plans re going back to work/long term life plans. I'd love not to be a worrier…

Not had a very exciting weekend, cleaning, shopping and cooking!
DS in nursery tomorrow so thinking of taking DD for a browse in John Lewis.

Oh and I also have a few occasions where I would like to look good.
DD's christening (although not arranged yet!)
DS's birthday and my birthday and also a wedding in June.
Hope this will be enough to keep me motivated. I need to think , just 2 months of being really strict could be enough rather than years of being on and of a diet!!

I don't think 33 points is enough. I would be thinking that you should be having 38. The minimum per day is 29 and you should be having 9 extra if you're breast feeding a few times a day, you should definitely be eating more. How are you not starving, maybe that's why you're finding it hard to stick to the plan?

You need to focus on the occasions to spur you on. Imagine how good you're going to feel when you see the results. It's hard to get over the hump when you're stagnating at the same weight - mine was 14 stone - I'd swing over and back, 5 lbs either way and it's hard to lose the weight and keep it gone.

Your trot around John Lewis sounds lovely. Think of it as cardio!

What are your plans with regard to heading back to work? Is your maternity leave nearly up?

Well I strayed in to my weeklies a little this weekend, we had a very food focused weekend with a birthday party and lunch out. But I was fairly strict, I didn't have any alcohol or cake or the goats cheese laden meal that I really wanted...so it was kind of good . I also skipped on the cappuchino and chocolates at the end of the meal.

My size 16 trousers are sagging a little on the thighs and there's another reduction in my waist so I feel like I'm finally seeing my body emerge.

Anyway, it's back to weight watchers tomorrow.

Really Sol? I was able to have 40 when 3bf, thought it was 7 points less when introduce solids?

I am a bit hungry, but I miss eating loads of chocolate the most - I have such a sweet tooth. You are so right, I need to lose a stone and then goal will be within reach, at the moment it's few lbs off, lose motivation, put on weight then lose the same lbs!!!

Sounds like a lovely weekend. I think it's good to go over points some days as it fools the body
That's good news re the trousers! Keep going Sol, I think you are almost at wedding weight??

Back to work mid May. DC will be in nursery 3 days a week. Feel terrible about it, but my working means we can provide so much more for them and also have money for nice holidays etc. We also may want to move house in a few years, I have never felt this was our forever home (Don't know why as it is a lovely house). It will be easier for us to save if I keep working.

I was told by a leader that it's 14 extra pp per day if you are ebf and then halve it when you introduce solids and reduce your feeds. But you're still feeding 3-4 times per day, that's alot of milk to produce. I would up the points if I were you, even for a week an see if you find it more manageable. I would have presumed that reducing the feeds would mean you were doing 1-2 feeds per day because the baby was established on solids.

I was unable to eat at all today due to TinySol being very out of sorts (projectile vomiting, not sleeping and insisting on being held, I felt very sorry for him) and LittleSol being very active. So I'm hanging on 'til dinner time so as not to blow all of my points. I took LittleSol out for a cycle on his bike which meant I ended up doing quite a bit of jogging alongside him while pushing the buggy - surely that counts as some form of exercise. We were out for about 45 mins and had a lovely time.

I know that you must feel guilty about working but the children are going to benefit way more with you working - but there's nothing like a bit of Mummy guilt to break your heart. I know what you mean about a forever home, we rent so I'm constantly feeling like no house is ours. But when I find a perfect house for us I'll know. I have a dream of finding a great character house and doing lots of renovations and making it perfect for us. I also think I'd be great on Grand Designs!!!

Oh no - poor tinySol and poor you. Hope you had abetter night. Well done for getting out of the house and that definitely counts as exercise.
Could you have some food ready prepared in the fridge to grab quickly?

Day +4 in the ww house..! Going ok so far although I have been eyeing up an iced biscuit in the kitchen.

I would love a character house but we'd be rubbish at doing renovations, perhaps we could hire you :)

What will we call the new thread??????!

STEP AWAY FROM THE ICED BISCUITS!

Unless of course you plan to point them accordingly, if so, then help yourself. It will be worth sticking to the plan, I promise. I'm thinking of trying to work some exercise in to my day, even if it's just heading up to the shop. Unfortunately the weather here is crap so I can't plan to get out regularly. But I'm hoping we might start getting out to the park soon, it also has the benefit of tiring out DS 1.

Oh don't get me wrong Choos, I would be dreadful at renovations, but I'd be good at hiring people to do them. I don't have the patience to put together an Ikea wardrobe so there'd be no hope of me building a house. I love decorating though - perhaps not crazy about getting my hands dirty - but I always walk in to houses and mentally redecorate them.

We had a crap night last night and it's shaping up to be a bad day, TinySol is very pukey, I'm wondering about silent reflux but he really doesn't have all of the symptoms.

I've been thinking about the new thread title too. Still fat and want to chat? That's not a very flattering title though. What about: Seriously now, it'll be this Christmas that we're thin...No really, we swear.

LitteChoos ate the biscuit so that is now out of temptations way. I was good, day +5 now, I have cut the carbs, still having a couple of squares of chocolate in the evening but well within points.
I have decided my goal weight is 9 stone12. (although if I got stuck around 10 and a half, it would not be too bad).

How is TinySol? Hope you got some rest at least.

Re thread: I think something along the lines of, it's definitely going to be this Christmas!

Do you think the two of us will be here for ever?!

I'm having a shit day today. Really shit.

Decided to go and buy a new weighing scales in Lidl yesterday (last of the big spenders eh?). I stood on it this morning and I'm just under 14 stone according to it. I'm livid.

So I ate a pile of junk food and now I feel even worse. Had some bad news regarding a family members health too so I just feel shit on top of shit. I JUST WANT TO BE SKINNY!!!!

Ugh.

Ok.

So self-indulgent rant aside I am genuinely surprised that I am back to 14 stone. I'm hoping it's just water retention (or milk retention because I've stopped breast feeding) and it'll be gone in a few days.

Sorry I broke the "Let's stick to ww" pact Choos. I will stop eating crap today and do some exercise to burn off some of my indulgence. I'm such an emotional eater. Not that that's any excuse.

9 stone 12 is a great long term goal, but focus on the 10 and a half first Have you ruled out all carbs? I don't really eat bread, rice or pasta but I love noodles. I think we will be here forever, we'll need a place to rant about how hard it is to be so thin .

oh no, it's just a blip. Ignore what the stupid scales say! Forget about what you have had to eat, maybe give yourself today off and start again tomorrow. New weigh in next week.

Sorry to hear you had bad news to, not surprised you ate stuff (I;m an emotional eater too). Hope things aren't too bad. Pm me if you need a cyber ear.

I went over my points yesterday, I had a really hungry day.

Just been to tumble tots got back to the car to be greeted with a parking ticket! my ticket must have flipped over in the wind, just about to send a grovelling email but not holding much hope :(

I reduced my carbs but still having cereal for breakfast and sometimes a little with lunch (about 1/4 of a portion !)

Sorry you are having such a rubbish time, fingers crossed for brighter days :)

Thanks Choos.

Feeling much better today. We all had a family day out in the dry weather and brought the kids to the park and playground. It was a massive walk and I can really feel it in my thighs and legs. I even went to the shops and didn't even buy the chocolate that I really wanted. I only ate half the lunch I made and I've been trying so hard to watch my portions.

That sucks about the parking ticket, did you manage to get out of it? I'm such a bad parent, I never go to any kids classes. I look in to them every so often and swear that I'll go, but I keep getting distracted by the fancy coffee shop across the road . I've been trying to line up kids camps during the summer though because I reckon DS1 will be bored once he is out of school.

I'm having a hungry day today, why can't our bodies learn to cope with the lack of food quicker? DH stood on the new scales and he is 6 lbs heavier than he was on the other scales too. He's been watching his diet recently and was seriously unimpressed when he realised he hadn't dropped all the weight he thought he had.

So glad you are feeling better. Maybe you should minus 6lbs form the new scales as they are obviously wrong!

I go to groups with LittleChoos to keep sane, he needs a lot of entertaining ands it's actually easier to go out with him. Unfortunately he is a bit of a bolter, so I choose carefully where we go as it's a bit of a juggle with the buggy and him sometimes!
I have to post my ticket in and they will 'consider' my case. It's only £25 but still….

Well I weighed myself this morning and I STS. I was so disappointed, I did dip into my weeklies but was otherwise good. I was reasonably good today but didn't count points, strict again from tomorrow. I am so tired, LittleChoos still Bf 2-3 times in the night, think my body must just be clinging onto all my fat, but honestly, I have more than enough to feed her for about 2 years!!!

Sorry that you have stayed the same, that's very frustrating. But thankfully you haven't put on anything (unlike me). I'm not going to weigh myself for another few days, I can't bear to.

I want to get DS in to little dance group but they are soo expensive here. And you have to sign up for 10 weeks at a time. He wanted to do ballet (he saw it in Despicible Me) but it was nearly 300 euro for the 10 week class and the uniform that is compulsory - so he's not doing that!

I think your body is holding on to weight and breast milk weighs a frickin ton. If I weighed myself prior to a feed and then after there was nearly 7 lbs weight difference. Since I stopped expressing I have gone down 4 bra sizes (from an F to a C) in a week and my back measurement has gone from 40 to 38. Breast feeding makes your body do weird stuff. Would you consider expressing milk so your DH can feed TinySol and you can get a nights sleep? I really do understand the bone crushing tiredness you're experiencing, it's awful.

DH was going to weigh something he knows the weight of to ensure the scales is right ie. weighing a pound of sugar to make sure the scale registers it as a pound, but I thought that was taking it a little too far. We are simply heavier than we thought. I'm thinking I'll keep the old broken scales and stand on it when I'm having a bad day and I'll be instantly 7 lbs lighter.

Both my children have a virus so I have spent the last few hours cleaning up sick and endlessly washing laundry. I wonder how many points I've earned? Sadly, I will have spent any earned ones on the shite food I have eaten as a result of not having a minute to myself (both boys are napping now). They look so teeny tiny when they are sick - even my hulking great big, nearly 3 year old.

BUT (and here's the clincher) I have been getting rid of all of the high points food in my house so I can start my Easter Challenge. I'm going to lose a stone by Easter by following weight watchers to the letter and trying to exercise every second day. I'm very motivated because I will see family at Easter that I haven't seen since I was pregnant and I want to look good. Last time they all saw me I had a 50 inch waist so I'm sure they'd notice the difference anyway.

SO:
No more excuses.
No more blaming someone/something on the fact I ate too much.
No more being uncomfortable in my own skin.
No more 14 stone.

I have some point free soup in the freezer that I made at the weekend so I'm getting a little more organised. I have cous cous and quorn in which are my pro points staples. I know that having a goal such as Easter will focus me, I like to have an end in sight. I need to change my eating habits now so that when the warmer weather comes in I'll be in smaller sized clothes and hopefully I'll be able to wear some fab outfits. The thought of my bare flabby arms in t-shirts for the world to see fills me with fear.

Oh no Solitude, hope they are both better soon. It's so horrid when they are unwell and both at the same time, that's just rubbish.

But you sound really motivated now. I will join you - a stone off for Easter! I am going back to a Monday weigh in after my disappointment on Saturday, it must have been the day that wrecked my weight!!

DS1 is on the mend but the baby is feeling rotten. There is a constant sound of whinging and crying in my house today. My poor head. I'm also kind os hoping to catch the no-appetite side effect of the bug the kids have, I could do with a few days food-free.

Yay! I'm glad you're up for a stone off by Easter. Wouldn't it be nice? I am pretty motivated, I need a kick start. The weather is improving here so I'm hoping to get out for walks with the buggy while DS1 is in school.

How are things? Hope Tiny is on the mend as well now.
So I weighed myself this morning and of course I am exactly the same (could have been worse the amount I have been troughing!). So I am not going to weigh myself for a week now, Might get DH to hide the scales.

I feel like I am in constant angst at the mo - I need to find a way to stop worrying about everything. Do you do this? maybe it's a mum thing?!

Still the house of illness here. I have had Tiny in my arms since he woke up this morning and he weighs a frickin ton, my back is killing me.

I am quite an anxious person in general and motherhood has definitely made it worse. I drive DH insane worrying about every scenario and how things can go wrong, so I tend to go inside my head a bit and get very wound up about stuff. Do you think your angsty-ness has gotten worse since you had children?

Day one of Easter challenge has been a hungry one. I'm back to 29 points so I'm watching them like a hawk. So far I've had 16 points, so 13 left for dinner. DH has given up sweets, chocolate and crisps for lent so he's being supportive. He was going to do weight watchers with me but he doesn't over eat like I tend to, he sees food as fuel whereas my connection to it is way more emotional.

How's your day going?

You must be working off a lot of calories with all the carrying surely?!
Hoping you The Sol house is all better soon.

What are you having for your meals?
I had weetbix this morning with SS milk for 5 points.
Soup and fruit for lunch and snacked on yogurt and cashews and chocolate
I need to start strictly pointing though as I was a bit vague today. I just wish tiny would sleep longer than 2 hour stretches so I didn't have this ongoing background tiredness!

I think I am a anxious person too, but I worry less about some things like work but worry +++ about anything to do with the children. Am already worried re school, what we will do for childcare, potential for bullying etc etc My main worry at the moment is going back to work, I just need to do it and hopefully it won't be as bad as I think!