New Mum seeking new body by Christmas!

[CoraBear]

My baby boy is 6 months old and I am quite overweight. Ok, I'm alot overweight (takes deep breath) I'm 15 stone. At 5 ft 7 this is waaay to much. I am sitting here in the one pair of trousers that fit me and my DP's tee shirt because none of my tops fit properly. Basically my stomach looks like a deflated paddling pool and my thighs are so big that I'm fairly sure that if I sit down too much longer they will burst open.

After I had the baby I took the very grown up approach to weight loss and I hoped that if I ignored the problem it would go away and somehow I would have a body like posh spice-because all new mothers lose all the weight instantly don't they? Turns out they don't, and surviving on mini aero's didn't help. I weigh more now than when I gave birth.

I have a serious lack of motivation but I decided to see if I could lose some pounds before Christmas, as I'll be seeing people I haven't seen since I was pregnant and want to look casually fabulous. So are any of you interested in holding my hand, kicking my arse and generally helping each other to stay on track? I really want to do this but I know if I'm not answerable to others my resolve will slip.

I have my first weight watchers meeting tomorrow, which I'm dreading as it will mean that the leader will weigh me and know what a tubby fecker I am. So, if any of you weight watcher followers or followers of other plans would like to come and join me and share stories of jogging up and down while eating maltesers so the points are being eaten and burned off simultaneously or just have a rant about how unfair the world is when you're hungry, you are welcome.

Right, I'm off to remove all the biscuits, chocolate and sweets from my house before tomorrow. That's right, when I say "remove" I do of course mean "eat them".

Always here to help!

I know what it's like to be in that headspace, it's really unpleasant. I think you should have a great time on holiday and focus on your family. It'll be so nice to have two weeks just chillling out and spending time together.

I'm doing ok with having two little boys in my life. LittleSol is adjusting so well to having a new brother and having to share his time. He's so sweet and loves the baby so much and just wants to help constantly. TinySol is lovely, just so snuggly and gorgeous - he's quite the spectacular vomiter though. I'm hoping this will pass in time.

However, the unending laundry and mess is overwhelming. My recovery is also taking ages, my stitches have burst twice and I'm in pain quite a lot. I look like my CS was performed by a rabid bear rather than a surgeon, it looks like corrective surgery is on the cards once everything has healed, otherwise the scarring will be horrendous. I cry everytime I look at the scar as it's so bad - so I've kind of stopped looking. It's the toddler way to deal with things that I can't cope with (I learned that from DS1)!

Sol- my stitches burst on one side but in fact it has knitted together again quite well. It's really early days for you and you won't really know what the scarring is like until it's settled down and this will be some weeks. Take heart it may be better than you fear. Fingers crossed and yes don't look for a few weeks. Is the wound dry now? I know there are some dressings which can be used for non healing wounds. I can ask a friend about this for you if the wound is still open?
Re Pain, what are you taking? I found voltarol really effective, it has to be prescribed I think.

I know- how can one tiny person make so much laundry?!

I was given a 7 day of supply of something, I can't remember the name, but because I wouldn't take another type they prescibe - they make me very drowsy and sick - I was given nothing else by the hospital. So I'm going to have to head back to my GP. If you could find out the name of the dressings I'd really appreciate it, I'd try anything. The wound is dry, but revolting.

Had 3 big chunks of toblerone last night, went over my daily allowance - 3 toblerone chunks is 15 points - but they were really tasty. I gave away the last of my Christmas chocolate yesterday, I found a ton of choccies I'd been given as gifts so I didn't want to derail my good intentions.

Absolutely starving today, quorn sausages just aren't cutting it, I want a dirty big pizza!

Please do go back to your GP, that's awful you are in pain.
My friend said Sorbisan is a good dressing for non healing wounds (apparently it's like a silky ribbon). Worth asking your Gp if they can order it in for you?

I salute you giving the chocolate away! 15 points it just your bf points really, so don't feel too bad about them.
I am still low carbing, will weigh day before holiday and then when I get back, aiming for no weight gain on holiday and then couch to 5 k starts when I return!

Thanks for that, I'll check out the Sorbisan.

I went a bit (a lot!) in to my weeklies this week as I have been starving and I really wanted some nice food. TinySol wasn't in the humour for sleeping this weekend and LittleSol had a streaming cold so I didn't get much sleep or rest, so I'm hoping that will mean I was constantly burning calories.

I've also had to add a formula bottle to TinySol's daily menu, he is the hungriest child I've ever seen. He had a 9 oz bottle before bed last night and was still up a few hours later, absolutely starving. He's not even a month old yet, but I couldn't produce enough milk to feed him and he was getting hysterical with hunger. That means that my extra bonus points for breast feeding are halved to 7.

Is couch to 5k the running thing? Is it a book? I used to love going for a run in the gym, I hated going for a run outside. I get seriously flushed and sweaty when I run and the general public do not need to see that horror show!

Relax and enjoy your holiday Choos. Don't worry about your weight. Just have a great time.

So I had my weigh in today and I lost 2 lbs. YAY!! It wasn't just some freak stroke of luck that I lost weight the first week. I am really happy. My goal for next week is to lose 2 lbs. I want to be IN the 13's rather than teetering on the brink of them. I am 14 stone exactly so I want to go in to the next set.

How's everyone else getting on with dieting?

Yay - well done Solitude! You are doing so well.
Do you really need to reduce points just for giving 1 bottle of formula? Maybe go down by 3 or 4 as you are still breast feeding lots, I know you reduce to 7 when you start introducing solids but this isn't really the case for you?

So I lost the lb I thought I had put on (I think I have gained and lost it about 10 times now).
So I start my holiday at 11.8, hoping to return the same and then I will start being strict again. I am going to give couch to 5k a try, I am not a natural born runner either but I figure I will go out when it's getting dark!! Although tbh I don't really care what I look like, I don't know many people round here!

Have a good 2 weeks x

couch to 5k - you can download it on your iPad.

I'm not too sure what way to reduce the points, I might get my friend to ask her WW leader. I just want to manage to stick to it. I have barely eaten a thing today, the kids have been frickin nuts today and I've barely had two seconds to myself. I'm having a takeaway tonight so I won't be dipping in to my points due to the lack of food today.

11 stone 8 lb isn't too bad. Your baby is only 6 months old, I think that's pretty good. Make sure you enjoy your holiday, you can watch what you eat when you get back. I love the idea of running in the dark, it would hide a multitude of sins. I think I'll start with the walking though, I'm looking forward to getting out and walking when the weather gets better.

Ugh, having the crappest week this week. I am starving and I'm trying to get through the day without being psychotically hungry but that's not happening. I think I reduced the points too much so next week I'll jack them back up and at least I will be able to stick to my dailies. I think breast feeding points need to be made more clear.

Dreading my weigh in tomorrow. Hoping that I stay the same instead of piling on pounds that I've just lost.

Stayed the same weight this week, probably due to my over enthusiastic scoffing over the weekend. So annoyed at myself!

Woohoo, lost 2 lbs this week.

Very happy but I think it's a mixture of the baby feeding constantly therefore I'm missing meals all over the place and I've been out in the world a little bit more so I've been burning quite a few calories.

I may have undone all of my hardwork by eating some pringles but I will make up for it - they were in lieu of dinner, which I did make and intend to eat but TinySol was hungry and had to be fed. My dinner was more than a little congealed when I finally found time to eat it and it was more than a little off putting so I had pringles instead.

I have to go to a party on Saturday and I'm dreading it. I have to wear actual smart clothes and look presentable when all I want to do is wear my comfy clothes and continue being antisocial. But, that's not going to happen so I put together a semi-flattering / not so horrifying outfit to wear. I've gone down a dress size so I'm happy about that, but I still have that dreadful post-csection pouch thing going on, so I still look quite pregnant. I think magic knickers might be in my future - but then again I don't think Hogwart's has enough magic to flatten my belly.

Thankfully the party is during the day and I'll have the kids with me so I can hold TinySol in front of me like a human shield - or if I'm feeling particularly flabby I'll carry LittleSol. I have actual anxiety about people seeing what a different shape I am, but I think that's my issue rather than people actually being mean about it.

It's all a bit of a minefield.

Hi Solitude, how was the party? Sounds like you are being too hard on yourself, you've got a newborn and a toddler, getting out of the house itself is a miracle! It is very hard to eat healthily when you are juggling a toddler and a baby, I think you are doing amazingly well.
You are right though, I think we see things other people don't. I bet people were just admiring how well you are doing. Well done on your 2lbs.
We had a fantastic holiday - trying not to have post holiday blues. We ate out everyday and I puddings and ice creams…. so starting ww again, will weigh in next Tuesday, hoping to weigh in at pre holiday weight next week!

Hi Choos!

Did you have a great time? Was the weather good? It must suck to be back to the rain and cold. I always get post-holiday blues, I think that's how you know you had a good holiday . Don't be too hard on yourself if you're not at your pre-holiday weight, you sound like you had a great time.

The party was lovely. My eldest son told me I looked like a princess in my outfit, I was wearing a flowy top and a pair of jeggings, but the compliment was gratefully recieved. I even slapped on make up and I felt really good about myself.

I also lost half a pound this week. And in the last 3 weeks I've lost 3 inches off my waist. I know some of this is because my body is getting back to normal. But I'm happy with it.

Sol - Your DS is such a cutey! So pleased you felt god about yourself. Well done on your 1/2lb and the inches, that's so great. I am very doubtful about being pre holiday weight next week, this week so far has mainly been fuelled by chocolate.

We had such a great holiday and have severe post holiday blues. We had a few rainy days but it was mainly sunny. I want another holiday now…..
I have had to have stern words re LittleChoos re behaviour (Being shouty and not eating) and now daddy is his favourite.

Ugh! Had the worst weekend food wise. I went to a birthday party and we had a takeaway and there was junk in the house so I ate it all. Damn you tasty food!!! We all have a cold so I'm run ragged and grabbing food on the go. I'm also easing off on the breast feeding because I had test results back and I need to go on huge doses of vitamins because I'm so run down, so I think the milk I'm producing isn't of very good quality anyway. I don't mind giving up BF, TinySol is way more content on formula and has stopped feeding every 2 hours - yaY, I'm getting some sleep!

Has TinyChoos stopped feeding constantly or are you still up every few hours? I have no idea how you did it for so long. I bow down to you.

We have had to come down on DS1 about his behaviour too. I think it's an age thing, but he is so loud and defiant. And the cheekiness! While I love that he is so verbal, I hate the fact that he can argue with me. Why can't he just accept that the rules are the rules? And Daddy is always favourite in our house, I'm lucky if I get a look in. But DH backs me up so rules are enforced.

Did you manage to stick to your WW plan, is it your weigh in day tomorrow? Is it crazy weather where you are? I've been hearing all the stories about flooding, it sounds scary.

Me too - I am just not weighing in. A mix of holiday blues, tiredness and a velcro baby did not help the calorie intake!

Being good from now, thought I would do ww for 2 weeks strictly. I know it works it's just hard sticking to it, so I though I might be better if I break things into smaller goals.

Yay for TinySol sleeping more. TinyChoos has 3 feeds in the day and 2 isn overnight, but she has been really unsettled for the past few days and only sleeping for 2 hours stints. Bit tired!

The weather has been rubbish but we are not in a flood area, thank goodness. I just bought some clothes in the Boden sale, I need things for now, they had some really good bargains on there!

Where did everyone else go???!

I think everyone else has been super successful and is off being skinny.

We all have colds here, poor TinySol is miserable and there's really nothing I can give him. I'm scoffing peanut m&m's today while pacing the floors with him. He just wants me today, he flipped when DH took him last night, but it's exhausting carrying him, he weighs a ton.

I weigh 13 and a half stone, I'm much weirder shape-wise - still in that slightly melted, post baby zone. I'm hoping that with warm weather coming I'll be able to get out for a walk every day.

What stuff did you get in Boden? I've never shopped there.

That must be working off calories - all that pacing.

Hope you all feel better soon.
You are doing so well. I am finding it hard to get back on the diet, planning to start couch to 5k this weekend though.

grr to all the skinny girls! I am not at all envious…. come back and tell us what gorgeous loves you have now you are skinny!

I got a parka, a shirt and two dresses for about £90. It was great, there was 80% off some things. Will try and link when DS not demanding I play trains.

Ah trains, we have to play that a lot here too.

I had a quick look at couch to 5k, it seems good. My friend bought Run fat bitch run,she said it is worth reading, it keeps her motivated.

It's very hard to stay motivated long-term, especially when life is so hectic and babies are so uninterested in our efforts to eat healthily and make us only able to eat with one hand (while standing up/ pacing/ trying to control a wriggling baby etc. etc.)

I've decided to stick to weight watchers for lent. I kind of do this every year and it works because it's a time of year when everyone has given up something. And it's on.ly 40 days (plus Sundays) so it can seem fairly short term.

That sounds like a good shopping day in Boden. I love parkas, they are casual yet cool. And don't worry, we will be skinny again!!!

Hope you have a better night and the baby sleeps. Poor little thing.
This is what I got:
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One dress is for work, the chiffon work potentially for a wedding.
I ordered quite a bit of stuff and am seining quite a few things back but pleased with these 4 things.

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Blouse is for work.

You have really good taste. We have similar style.

I really like that green dress.

I'm not buying anymore clothes until the weather gets better. I shall be trim by then (hopefully) and I'll need some summer clothes. I even have the cash put to one side so I can have a Pretty Woman style shopping spree (except without being a hooker and more Primark than Rodeo Drive).

That sounds great, I'd love a girly shopping trip without small people in tow.

I am getting despondent about being stuck so long losing and putting back on the same lbs.
Wondering about trying alight life or something like that for a couple of weeks to have a kick start when stop BF…..

light life I mean