I haven't told my husband....

[catlady2025]

I have been on the weight loss injections since April, and so far have lost 50 lbs which is amazing. I've struggled to loose weight after a large weight loss a few years ago and the injections have helped immensely.
The thing is I haven't told my husband, he is very opinionated on the subject and it took me about 6 months to get the courage to sign up for them as I finally decided I wanted to do something for me and sod everyone else.
I use my personal money from my side business so he doesn't see the cost.
I just told him I am being sensible with my choices and portion control, he works away Mon-Friday do didn't probably see how little I was actually eating in the first few months.
I just don't know if I should tell him? Would it make a difference or AIBU by hiding this from him? I've still got about 30-40 lbs more to loose before I'll be at a weigh which is classed as healthy for my height, but I'm still on the fence about going that low. Husband is happy with me any any weight, though has noticed the weight loss and loves me just as much. We've been together since I was 16 and we have a 12 year old together, we are both 40.
I guess I just feel a bit ashamed at times, I haven't told anyone other than my best friend and my mam because everyone has very strong opinions (usually bad about it), I just can't get the words out. I don't keep secrets in our marriage which is why I guess this is eating at me a bit.
Sorry for the rant, this is my first time posting.

I didn't tell my DH for the first few months because I didn't want it to be yet another failed diet. At the end of the day, the drug is NHS approved and you're purchasing from a reputable place. All you can say is this is the choice you are taking for your body and you hope he is willing to support you.

My DH knows... mainly because I had a meltdown about my weight prior to going on them and he saw how miserable I was. I reckon if I wasn't on them , he could be one of those people who see it as a cheating as he has never struggled with his weight and can't understand those who do....but, he is very supportive and sees how much they are helping me and how it's improved my life and he's quite pro them now.

This is sad. You have the right to make your own choices.
To quote Elizabeth Gaskell
”Tyrants make liars”
Whilst you aren’t lying as such the sentiment fits.

It’s your body!
I have Botox, skin boosters etc. My husband is none the wiser.

I told my husband at the start, mainly because I am also his carer, have a demanding job and had I had a bad reaction or became ill here or at work, it was vital to me that he knew as my next of kin I am taking something new. My first marriage was devoid of any sharing or trust, I never want the same kind of relationship again. He has been very supportive as he's seen the misery my meno weight gain caused me, and that has been great. I understand that some relationships aren't like that, from experience. Its entirely up to you how you manage this, I don't think you should feel bad/guilty, but I do think its harder if you can't share the ups/downs/successes/struggles with the person you share your life with.

Same. Mine would also tell absolutely everyone as he cannot hold his water.

My sister is desperate to know and brings mounjaro up every time I see her.

I’ve told one friend who is also on it. I’ve lost four stone but am not thin. I weight 10st13 and am about a size 14.

yup, rhat didn’t happen.

When I started on MJ in April 2024, there was very little talk about WLIs and what there was, was very negative, even more so than today. If you'd have asked my partner about WLIs back then, his opinions would have been based on this mainstream media (he had no reason to do independent research, so how would he know differenly?) and he'd definitely have come across as anti.

I decided to talk to him before I started and kept him in the loop ever since. It was a really scary moment, telling him that i planned to buy MJ but I've never regretted doing it. He's directly seen how safe and effective WLIs are, and even picked up some more balanced knowledge about the science behind them, obesity and diet.

I guess my point is that we can't expect people, even our nearest and dearest, to just 'get it'. They will be misinformed, say the wrong thing, fail to understand, base their views on biased media. At the end of the day, it is absolutely her choice who she tells but the op's husband might surprise her if she takes the time to help him understand.

How do you hide it?? My DH would have found it in the fridge 😂 I was worried that my DH would not be happy about the jabs but he has been so, so supportive and its great to have him cheering me on. Im so sorry you don't get to have that support.

Excuse me?

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The one who passed out has eating disorders and lied to get them,
the other one was on other strong medications

So hopefully rare! I’m all for the jabs, was just saying my experience of not telling husbands

Don’t tell him if there’s a possibility his opinions could derail your weight loss and affect your decision.

This isn’t about your relationship with him, it’s about your relationship with yourself. You need time in private to process it by the sounds of it.

Goodness knows I'm in no position to lecture anyone about relationships - my marriage has ended in the time I've been on Mounjaro - but I have to say that looking back, not having conversations with STBXH because I couldn't be arsed with his reaction or how useless he would be was a major, major red flag about the health of our marriage and communication which I ignored for years.