Who do you regret telling that you're taking the injections?

[HolyCowrie]

Just that really.

I'll be starting in October. I'm probably going to keep it to myself and DH at first. I'm interested in your experiences of telling people and especially if you've kind of regretted it, please.

I’m glad I didn’t tell people, only my partner, in case of medical issue (and my Gp knows),
in 1 yr I have lost 5 stone, only 1 or 2 people have commented on weight loss, have 4 stone more to loose…

I'm really open about it. People have been curious about maintenance and I explain it's a long term thing and my prescriber is very happy with my approach. No one is stupid enough to be negative (to my face at least). I wouldn't hesitate to correct their nonsense and cut them out if needed. I don't want friends who would be happy with me continuing to be obese and all the risks that entails. Everyone can see how happy and healthy I look and celebrate it with me.

Hi, I started on the jabs nearly 4 weeks ago. I’ve told my husband and one friend but I don’t particularly want to go telling everyone as I feel there’s a stigma attached to these jabs even though their just another form of weight loss help. I’d be worried what they’d say x

Omg talk about trying to scare you, x

I told no one, then my daughter found my pen. So I told my husband. My daughter was angry, but now she has decided she may start it. My husband is disappointed I didn’t tell him, but I didn’t want comments from anyone.

Isn’t awful what we do to ourselves by worrying / or being bothered by what others may or may not think. It’s only human but it’s so destructive.,I think most people, certainly these days, wouldn’t give it much thought beyond well done or shall I try too? And if anyone is negative / mean / sneery - then they’re not worth knowing anyway. A nice sign to cut them out. We need radiators in our lives, not hoovers.

I had to tell my boss - I work in a role where if I vomit I have to automatically take the next 48 hours off. The one day I felt sick, I told her so I could carry on as normal if nothing came of it.
The next time I had a 1 to 1 with her she said some quite hurtful and judgemental things, how it was cheating, how it wasn’t right to eat “anything you want” and lose weight (err, not exactly, I’m eating the least I’ve ever eaten) and why is it fair that she has to go running to keep weight off. It was pretty awkward, and I regretted telling her. The irony is a huge amount of my colleagues are also taking them, they’ve just been wise enough not to say anything.

God imagine what an unhappy person she must be, to behave that way.

No one yet, but then I haven't told my parents yet!

But in response to the poster who said about noticeable weight loss and not wanting to pretend it's just diet and exercise alone, that was something that a colleague also said to me - she didn't want to make other people who struggle with their weight think that they just weren't trying hard enough if she wasn't honest about the help she had had from the jabs, which I thought was interesting.

Oh now you see, I’ve had 1 person be a bit like that and I just stayed quiet then when they stopped I said ‘are you done? Great. Thanks for your opinions.’

@BriceNobeslovesMurielHeslop exactly the reason to keep it to yourself, what a fucking bitch your boss is, too late now I suppose but I wouldn't have told her regardless, if you puked 2 days off win win. Any one who thinks others aren't judgemental are naive, imo, to reiterate its nobody else's business at all.
Just keep doing you and let the jealous bitch run herself into the ground, and the next time she asks tell her you've stopped now. Your story is a case in point to keep schtum.

Oh I don't worry about it and I don't spend any time thinking about the decision not to tell people, other than when answering posts like this one. I have thought about it, and made a decision, and that's the end of it for me.

I’m not ashamed but it’s nobody’s business and I feel deeply uncomfortable discussing my weight with anyone. Nobody is interested to know about any of the other mediation I use, but you think people have the right to know about my choice to take WLI? Nah. Fuck that shit. My body, my business. I’m not lying either. Not telling people isn’t the same as lying. I haven’t told anyone about my blood pressure tablets, psoriasis cream, choice of contraceptives or pile treatment either. Weird how people think because I was obese for many years they are owed an explanation.

I tell pretty much anyone who mentions that I've lost weight. People are briefly curious and then don't mention it. If they are judging me for WLI they would have judged me for being fat anyway so it's not like I've lost anything.

I take the view that in forty-two years I haven’t felt the need to disclose my private medical information. Why would I start now?

I also think that the solution for people who ‘don’t like lies’ is not to ask intrusive questions about others’ private medical information 🤷‍♀️

Early on, I didn’t tell anyone. Apart from my husband. As I got more comfortable and more experienced with the medicine and how my body felt, I would tell certain people if they directly asked me. It really depends who it is and potentially their own history with weight.

For people I haven’t told, there is usually a reason why. If they are unhappy that they can’t got their ‘gotcha’ moment, or they think I am lying, or they’ve guessed, or whatever they think about what I’m doing with my body… I really don’t give a fuck.

‘Nobody is interested to know about any of the other mediation I use, but you think people have the right to know about my choice to take WLI?’

Nope no. I didn’t say that. That’s you being defensive.

‘Not telling people isn’t the same as lying’

Lying is when a persons said (eg) wow you look great! How did you do it?!
And the person asks says Oh I’ve been so stressed recently I’ve not been hungry / I’m on a healthy eating trip. Etc etc etc. (When they’ve been taking wli’s).

Besides if you read my original comment more closely, you’ll see I said all of the above and more (something along the lines of ‘does it matter, no not really each to their own and fck everyone else’.

😂🙈 I don’t ask anyone it’s not my business and I really couldn’t care less. But I’ve seen and heard people discussing it, and lying. But each to their own.

I've told my friends and my friends only other people like work colleagues etc I just say healthy eating it's none of their business..

I told everyone, except work colleagues, I don’t discuss my weight at work, but everyone else, I proactively told about 2 months in. I discussed it with my husband, daughter and gp before starting though.

For everyone else, I just didn’t want to lie once it became noticeable I was losing weight . three of my friends now on them, the other two want them and can’t afford.

my anecdotal findings are anyone with a weight problem , be it they are over weight, or just working hard to stay a healthy weight and finding it tough, wants them themselves, and this either comes across in a positive curious way, or a resentful judgemental nasty way depending on the personality of the person and if they can access them or not.

This is also part of how I felt, I just didn’t want to lie to people I love, like, or care for, no one asked me directly, but folks always ask what diet it is if being successful, I just didn’t want to lie that id found a bucket load of willpower, plus I would feel embarassed if I lied and they were guessing I was lying like it was shameful, it’s not shameful , the drugs are fantastic, a huge advance in medicine, ans I made an educated decision for my health, and I’m more than happy to explain tnem and my decisions,

I tell anyone who asks.

DH & adult DD. Other than that my GP (via the pharmacies I use), my optician and my dentist.

Lots of friends have talked about weight loss but I have not shared my support tool’ and only talk about nutrition and exercise.

Thanks for the answers. I was intending on telling my adult DC when they come home for Christmas and then probably keeping it to myself after that, maybe unless anyone directly asks. But who knows, maybe I'll love them so much that I'll want to advocate and tell everyone.

I find it fascinating how differently we all feel about this, but I completely understand the various motivations.