How is going on wli’s affecting your relationships?

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I went on them as I was just getting bigger and bigger, I tried a lot and this was a last resort.
it’s working well for me, but obviously my eating habits have completely changed and my drinking. I used to be a binge drinker as well as eater and I’m noticing my husband has a problem with that.
he keeps saying I’m boring now, wants me to eat and drink more but I physically can’t.

I just dont want more than a couple of drinks, not even want; I cant stomach much anymore as it makes me ill and he can’t understand it. He drinks a lot. I also can’t eat as much.

i guess im wondering if anyone else whose partner isn’t on then is finding your new way of eating “boring”?
i also feel conscious about it. I guess I used to be more “fun”

Yeah the little barb at the end about buzz kills is what makes it look Pa. That and the word copiously.

when drinking it relaxes you or makes you happy, more chatty, the effect of getting a little tipsy together, if one of you is sitting there stone cold sober and the other a bit tipsy it is indeed a hugely different vibe.

I understand there are many people on here who don’t drink and don’t seem to understand that, hence why I’m taking your post at face value. Your focus seems to be prickly on defending those who don’t drink.

it doesn’t change the fact I think her husband is being a dick, but absolutely it changes the dynamic, of two people eating together, getting tipsy, relaxing, having a bit of a drunken laugh, to one sitting sober, eating a small portion. It simply does.

I’m sure it does change the dynamic, but I don’t think it changes the dynamic to the extent that it’s always problematic. To be clear, I am not an evangelical teetotaller, nor a non drinker for any kind of reason other than I don’t like drinking any more. I fully understand the effects of alcohol on people, it’a just a shame that it seems to affect some people when other people are having a great time but happen not to be drinking.

I’m not sure anyone said it’s always problematic. In fact the opposite, plenty of people have posted it’s fine for them, myself included. The issue here is the ops husband being a dick, it’s problematic for him. He is really not the poster child for husbands who used ti enjoy a few drinks with their wives.

My best friend is teetotal and doesn’t care a jot when we go out and I get lashed, so I agree with you.

Sounds like you need to be a little concerned about him OP.

Excessive drinking and shit diet….. I wonder how much he will end up costing the NHS

No issues at all. We've navigated x 3 holidays which was surprisingly easy. He didn't push me to eat if I wasn't hungry but I usually found a work around.

Partner no longer drinks alcohol so that isn't a problem if I don't want to.

I'm working out x 5 days plus a week and never been fitter. I'm mentally happier too so everything is great.