Urgh - self inflicted misery

[threeeggsontoast]

I’ve been doing so well but in the past couple of days I went away with work and we ate all our meals in restaurants. Because no one knows I’m on MJ, I felt embarrassed at how little I’m able to eat so I ate more than usual and then pushed the rest round my plate. I’m home now but I’ve been up since 4am feeling dreadful - nausea, tummy growls and the runs.

I tried to order as healthily as I could but one of the places was Italian and there was no salad option. I ordered a tomato based dish but it was still way too much food so I just picked but definitely ate more than I would normally, mostly because I didn’t want to draw attention to myself. I’m actually not sure how to navigate events like this, apart from trying to get out of
them.

No real point to this thread except to share my misery…but urgh, I feel 🤢

Sorry you're feeling unwell. Why not just tell people you are on WLI and save yourself the misery?

I thought about it but it prompts too many questions so I’d rather just do it quietly.

I’ve just said I’m trying to be careful what I eat as I have put on a bit of weight / have a beach holiday coming up. I’m usually one for (several) glasses of wine but don’t fancy it st all. I’ve had a glass a few times and not enjoyed it. DH is quite impressed at the weight loss but hasn’t realised I’m on wli. I’m too old to be pregnant so not been asked about that!

What dose are you on and how much do you normally eat? Restaurants are a big part of my social and professional life and apart from the first month I started on mounjaro, I have never had a problem eating out. It's what I like about it as opposed to other diets; that it fits so easily into normal life. But I never feel self conscious about leaving food; restaurant portions are big! In my experience, no one else is paying attention to your plate and they just don't notice how much you've eaten.

Even if someone does notice, it's easy to say you aren't that hungry and can't manage it all. Colleagues aren't going to interrogate you, no one is trying to catch you out. I don't tell anyone I'm on mounjaro and I have a strict no-diet-talk policy anyway. People are too polite to ask outright especially in a work situation.

Is it possible you're on too high a dose though? Just eating a normal meal in a restaurant shouldn't make you ill.

Just say you’ve had enough, or you had a big lunch, or you’re trying to be sensible with so many meals out.

I had lunch with a colleague yesterday and we both ordered the same, she was still eating long after I was defeated, but she didn’t say anything - I very much doubt in a group situation anyone would comment.

I did this one time at the beginning and was caught throwing up in the restaurant bathroom.. my colleagues thought i was bulimic which was worse than fessing up. I had a meal at Christmas in an Italian restaurant with them another time and asked for a green salad, which they made me. You'll feel better in a few days but now I avoid those situations as it's not worth feeling so bad for a bit of taramasalata or spaghetti bol.

It can be difficult eating out as things are stuffed full of butter and sugar and salt (it's why it tastes so nice, but I don't use much of these things in cooking at home) as well as not being in control of your portion size.

Being worried about what other people think of your eating op is part of the disordered eating most of us who have resorted to MJ to help us suffer from and are trying to recover.

Why do you think your colleagues would have commented? Nobody thinks about you like you IYSWIM. I don't think it would even have registered and if someone had noticed and said something, simply saying "I'm not very hungry" would have sufficed.

Have you thought about how your going to tackle your disordered thinking around food?

I just tell people. I can’t be arsed with the role play. It’s quite liberating.

I don’t think your colleagues would have noticed or cared what you ate. I’ve had no issue eating at restaurants on MJ, but I eat what I want and leave the rest and no one has ever remarked or commented on it. I couldn’t tell you how much of their meal someone else has eaten as I’m not paying attention to it.

This is definitely more about your feelings around food and WLIs than anything to do with colleagues or restaurants in general. You felt pressured to overeat, not by anyone else as they won’t even have noticed, but by yourself. Definitely worth trying to unpick it a bit.

I’m on 5mg and 9 weeks in. I eat around 1200 calories on a normal day and typically it’s lot of good protein etc. While I was away, lunchtimes were sandwiches, wraps, potato salad etc but all filled with quite rich ingredients. Evenings were a mix of Italian and pub grub with very little salad/healthy options. I think the oily/higher fat content of this was a shock to my system after a couple of months. I took some Pepto earlier but still feel pretty wretched.

But I think it raises a good point about why I won’t just tell people? I think it feels private and not something I want to share with colleagues but I agree, I could have just said I was trying to eat healthily. I definitely didn’t overeat but it was the type of food I think.

Guess I’ll just have to ride it out - lesson learned!

It’s personal choice whether you want to tell people or not. Many prefer to keep it private especially in the early days when you are getting used to it.

Next time you eat out could you just order a starter instead? You could say you really like the starter and aren’t that hungry anyway, or are dieting.

It would be rude of colleagues to quiz you on that

Can you just make a passing, vague reference to 'medication' that you're on, which is leaving you without much of an appetite? And then pity anyone sufficiently lacking in social skills that they ask you anything further about it!

@KPPlumbing yes agree! Who would then ask about meds would be very rude to.
I use to think this @threeeggsontoast but then I went away with friends one who is size 6 she used to be a 12 years ago but I noticed she doesn’t actually eat much if anything. I found it alarming as thought maybe she has an eating disorder but I would not have dreamt of saying you are hardly eating etc nobody else noticed she was moving food round the plate or only eating the protein and she didn’t touch the carbs so I think get on with what you want to order and people won’t notice if they do I would just say I am trying to eat less to lose weight end of. Good luck x

Thankfully I feel much better today. I’m never doing that again!