I'm glad it was helpful. Though the idea of what I am to suggest is probably inconceivable to most, anyone that could stop drinking altogether would be happier and healthier in the long run. There is probably not one person on the planet that would say "if only I had been drinking," but scores that say, "if only I had NOT been drinking."
Alcohol is essentially a poison and affects women so much worse than men drink-for-drink. As a woman, going through peri-/menopause, your body will stop metabolising it the way you did when you were younger, and it negatively affects every organ of your body, though most people only focus on the liver. It significantly affects (even in quantities the average person thinks are acceptable) the vascular system, kidneys, pancreas, liver, brain, skin . . . everything . .. and increases your risks for cancer and dementia significantly.
And of course, it severely impacts your mental health. It is a depressant, after all, and so with repeat and prolonged use and because alcohol affects the same part of the brain that is affected with conditions like depression, anxiety, etc, it will only make depression worse.
It, quite honestly, is one of the biggest con jobs performed on mankind. Anyone saying "well Biblical figures drank wine," keep in mind that alcohol was initially the drink everyone drank because it killed bacteria so was much safer to drink than water, but the alcohol content was very low back then, not like it is today. You see the same parallels now with marijuana. The THC levels of today's marijuana are 10 times that of 25 years ago. And, with weed, what is affected long-term is anxiety, which is made worse. Of course, every pot-smoker will say the opposite because it offers temporary relief, but when they are not smoking anxiety is worsened and then that creates the vicious cycle of needing to smoke more. The exception I would made is for edibles used for pain management of the chronically ill.
The real question people should ask themselves is why do they need to numb themselves to get through the day . . . night . . . or their life, especially when the payoff is a shortened lifespan, a higher risk for dementia and cancer and a million bad decisions?