Fearful of losing weight?

[threeeggsontoast]

This is a strange question but does anyone else have a bit of fear around losing weight? For context, I’m outwardly an extrovert (nature of my job, I have to be) but I do actually hate attention. When I’ve lost weight in the past, it’s drawn lots of positive comments but it makes me want to curl up or run away.

I love the feeling in myself of being more comfortable with my body but I don’t like people making a big fuss of it. I’m probably a bit weird (ha!) but just wonder if others have felt this too?

I am not extrovert, the absolute opposite, so I very much don't want any attention on me at all. Losing the weight has led to a few conversations about it, now that it is very obvious (lost more than 8 stone) and I dislike talking about it. I just say thank you and answer any questions, then try to move the conversation on and away from me.

I think it's a very normal response, and not weird at all, to dislike the attention even though it's positive/complimentary.

Omg I hate it.. and everyone wants to say something . My work has about 200 people that I see so I think I've had a comment from about all of them.. I only get it now when I've not seen someone for a while, but I hate it..

My thought are you never commented that I was getting too fat so why are you commenting I'm getting smaller.. leave me alone! Haha..

Yes, it's not uncommon. People sometimes feel they are safe hiding behind their weight and the fear of unwanted comments and sexual attention is a reason for not losing weight. It might be worthwhile having some sort of therapy to find the reason behind it makes me want to curl up or run away. and invalidating those feelings.

I hate it too! I don't think it's necessary to comment on people's bodies generally, whether or not it's positive, and it makes me feel bristly.

I'm fearful of anything changing about time that others might notice /remark on. So losing weight but other things too like changing hair or wearing a colour I usually don't. (I realise I'm not interesting & no one cares but I find the thought of being noticed unbearable anyway.)

Yep, people commenting has been the worst part of my "weight loss journey". Some friends are lovely, and making kind comments. Some have asked if I'm OK. But most comments have felt a little intrusive. I especially hate people commenting when I'm with my children - I'm trying to bring them up to be "neutral" about weight and I don't think "Oh wow, you look fabulous now you've lost SO MUCH WEIGHT" is a message I want them to hear.

Also, I know this sounds weird, but I actually feel a bit more vulnerable when I'm out on my own. Maybe I'm not feeling as strong (this time last year I could just sit on an attacker and I'd be safe) or maybe I feel more noticed.

I have found the comments about my weight very difficult to manage. I know most people are only being nice, but when I was overweight no one commented but now I’ve lost 6st people are constantly mentioning it. I don’t like the attention at all and it makes me feel quite anxious. I also have children who I don’t want to hear people discussing my weight loss, and I always tell my children my main goal for losing weight is to be healthy and for my long term health

I’ve started to say I’ve not been very well in “I’m NOT going to discuss this with you” tone”
(which is partially true but nothing really to do with my weight loss) and it shuts people up.

I’ve lost weight to help my bad back and knees and have had a bad dose of Covid. I’ve had anemia and just felt like crap!