The 'conflicted' feeling - anyone else?

[ElsaMars]

A few things I'm honestly really struggling with at the moment. The first is that I'm lying to people. They're asking how I've lost weight (often because they want/need to) and I'm trotting out lies about eating less (which I am) but that would NEVER have worked before. I'm feeling really guilty about it but I can't suddenly tell everyone either. I feel incredibly deceitful.

The other is, now I've lost a significant amount, everywhere I go, people say they don't recognise me, I look good etc, etc. Which of course is nice but it makes me feel really, really awkward. People I saw today at work did double takes and wanted to come and tell me how different I look. I don't really know what to respond that doesn't make me sound like a dick! I overshare anyway, so I need to learn to just say thanks but I just find it so excruciating.

Finally, and I'm cross about this one but people are so much nicer to me now. I don't know if I exude a different energy/ confidence, maybe? But it's like I'm a more worthy human now. I also find myself looking at bigger people and thinking ' I know how you feel'.

Physically, I'm soooo happy but mentally, it can be tough.

I'm aware this post makes me sound like a twat but it's been going round my head since I've left work and I just wanted to compare notes and ask, do you feel like this too?

PS for some light heartedness - I'm injecting tomorrow and hungry, so I've just ate half a massive sharing bag of Wotsits 😄

Yes I feel like this quite often. Especially feeling like I’m being deceitful when people ask how I’m losing weight and I don’t mention the injection part.

My reasoning for not mentioning it is I know there’s a lot of judgement and opinions out there around these injections and tbh I can’t be annoyed with hearing it from my nearest and dearest.

People in my real life who have asked me how I’ve lost the weight are the sort who are always obsessing about their own weight and other peoples and are always on some sort of diet. However they have never been obese in their lives - maybe a few pounds over weight at certain points, but they can quickly sort it out and get back to a healthy weight again. Therefore I rationalise there’s no point in telling these specific people ‘my secret’ to the weight loss, because it’s not something that’s going to be legitimately accessible to them anyway.

However I think if someone who is obese and struggling with their weight asked me how I’m losing my weight, I probably would confess about the Mounjaro because it has been so helpful for me. But that hasn’t happened yet!

I am completely different in that I will tell everyone why I have lost weight - especially those struggling as this is literally the only thing I have tried that has stuck

But I get that you don't have to share your private medical business with anyone

Its awful but people do treat bigger folks with disdain but that is societies problem not ours!
Jeez eat the wotsits and enjoy that you only ate half!

Initially I didn't tell many people as I didn't want their judgement if it failed, but now I have been on it almost a year I tell anyone who asks.

I don't feel guilty / conflicted about using WLI, it has regulated my hormones and freed my mind - it is a medical tool to support weight loss same as hrt saves me from being a wild crazy sweat bomb.

I’m not telling anyone and I don’t feel conflicted about lying to people if they ask directly about WLI. I don’t want to have any kind of conversation about it with anyone, really. I don’t need their opinions or thoughts on it and I don’t want to share mine. The only exception would be if an obese friend asked about how I have lost weight, and I thought they were genuinely asking about it and it would be helpful for them to know.

Thank you. Interesting about telling other overweight people, and not the ones who grumble about their weight when they don't have an issue. The only other person I've told apart from DH is a really close friend who struggles, I told her I was on it and she said, me too. She'd just started it, so I was really glad I told her, as I can help and support her now. Plus she said she secretly guessed I was on it!

I weighed today (only do it every 2 weeks) and I'm 9st 12, with a BMI of 25, just in the overweight category but a few more lbs off and I'll be in the healthy weight range. If you'd have told me last year this is what I would weigh in May 25, I would have never, ever have believed I could do it. So proud and happy today.

Oh and in fact, I started a thread this time last year about being gutted I hadn't lost weight and feeling so fat before my family holiday! Sorry, I'm feeling evangelical today 😄😄

Surely people will guess though? If it's the only thing that's ever worked for you

Yes I guess so @Feellikedearh but they won't know for sure. I did lose 2 stone about 20 years ago through SW but nothing as dramatic as this. I don't think it's even on the radar for some people I know, my Mums generation especially.