Funny ways people have noticed you have lost weight

[Itisallgoingtobeok]

A lighthearted thread for a bank holiday. I am now 3 stone down and it's starting to show. I've had a couple of funny, well meaning interactions recently about my weightloss.

I recently met an old friend who I hadn't seen for a year or so. The first thing he said to me with a look of utter shock on his face was "My God, you've los... los... look well!". Clearly was about to say "lost weight", thought better of it and went with "look well".

I was eating my packed lunch at work and a colleague was hovering, and clearly wondering whether to say what was in their head. They went with "That looks like a nice lunch, you have been really healthy recently haven't you? It really shows". Another round about way of noticing the weightloss.

I know some people are worried about commenting on weightloss in case it wasn't deliberate, or something is wrong, which I completely understand. I never comment unless someone has told me they are on a health journey. I am enjoying the inventive ways people are using to try and encourage me without actually mentioning dieting or weight.

Anyone else had any comments which have made them smile?

Happy Easter all.

That’s exactly why I don’t comment unless someone has actually told me they are trying to loose weight. I personally don’t mind but I know some people might.

I also wonder if it’s more than the physical change people notice, but the change in confidence too. I think that’s what shocked my friend I hadn’t seen for a while.

When I lost a third of my body weight someone asked if I’d changed my hairstyle!

I’ve lost 5 stone and most people go in cautiously with ‘You look amazing!’ And then I sort of give them permission by saying ‘Thank you, I’ve lost some weight’ and that alleviates the pressure a bit! A few people have directly said ‘Oh my god you’ve lost so much weight!’ And then looked embarrassed until I’ve said ‘Yes!’

I had “have you changed your hair colour”. “As a friend, don’t lose any more you’re being to look old”. Another friend has never mentioned it. 4 stone 8lb lost.

I saw someone in the pub the other week who I haven't seen for around 6 or 7 years, when I was around 5 or 6 stone heavier . He looked at me completely blankly until one of my other friends said "you remember unsync don't you?". There was a look of confusion and then recognition, he grinned and said "Unsync, Fuck me, you look well!". He was never known for his tact.

I am enjoying the inventive ways people are using to try and encourage me without actually mentioning dieting or weight.

^that’s sweet @Itisallgoingtobeok

I tend not to comment on others’ weight loss
or my own. Maybe it’s my age, I’m 60+ and am so “over it” in relation to diets having tried every-single-one in the last 15 years 😁! Myself and friends have all lost weight in the past and put it all back on - so from that point of view it seems a pointless topic of conversation !!

That said I’ve only lost 20 lbs and about 20 lbs to go and nobody’s noticed! What I will say if they do I don’t know. Maybe a nonchalant “yeah it took ages” (it has so far!) and leave it there!

also wonder if it’s more than the physical change people notice, but the change in confidence too

Yes, Ive noticed a friend seeming a bit more confident showing off some clothes she was wearing - though how she has lost weight I’m not sure, but she hasn’t mentioned WLIs.

I’m probably the sort of person who would say “you look well!” if you lost weight and looked well (not everyone does by the way, I have a friend who looks drawn and gaunt though she insists she feels great). I remember Amanda in Motherland said that to the Irish actress - after the school Summer hols - but of course she meant it as code for you’ve put on weight!!

I had someone say to me today ‘you look wonderful, you’ve lost a lot of weight haven’t you, you look like a child.’ I’m still trying to figure out if the whole sentence added up to a compliment but I think it did and I’m taking it that way 😀

I get a lot more people of the opposite sex trying to talk to me more than ever before.

Wait until I stick on my Katie Price dress, lol!

No honestly no one has mentioned any weight loss. It’s a bit sad if we do lose the plus size models. And I was speaking to someone today losing weight another way and they mention not being able to accept or think they are seeing strange things sometimes about the changes bodies goes through.

The biggest rise was receiving a compliment at work recently for my phone manner.

Aw. Perhaps the uni friends still see you as you were when you were younger.

I kept getting comments on my clothes.

And a lot more attention in general but especially men. I have really mixed feelings about it.

Honestly - it probably isn’t jealousy. I wouldn’t mention someone’s weight loss unless they specifically brought it up themselves, it seems rude to me. It could be due to illness.

Most annoying: The work colleague who tried to start a rumour I have an eating disorder. The rumour didn't really catch on because my actual friends at work had all seen me eating balanced meals and exercising.

Sweetest: A family friend with a cognitive impairment who'd clearly put thought into how to ask me, saying, "You've lost weight - is that good or bad?". When I said it was good, they said "Yay!", hugged me and asked if they could have my chips.

I get a lot of “you look amazing/incredible/fantastic” which is nice but I can’t believe the amount of people who just blatantly ask outright how much weight I’ve lost. I don’t really want to admit that to you in front of the whole office as it then makes it really easy to work out how much I weighed before which is embarrassing.

I had a family member who messaged me on Facebook asking how much I’d lost after I’d posted a picture. I mean, why do you need to know the exact number?

And a friend I’ve not seen for ages, again commenting on Facebook that we must catch up now I’m a “skinny minny” Funny you haven’t been bothered about seeing me when I was fat.

And then all the people who feel it’s appropriate to tell me that I’ve lost enough and not to lose any more etc etc. I wasn’t doing it for you, you don’t get to tell me how much I should weigh!

I know I shouldn’t complain but it does make me feel a bit like I must have looked like a pile of shit before and I now only have worth because I’m not fat anymore.

Im just about to start a new job and where no one knows what I used to look like and it’s going to be so refreshing to just go in and be me, rather than the woman who used to be fat.

This is interesting. My weight has gone up and down over years, but I always felt weird being complimented about it as it was like I didn't look good before. I also feel funny about it, as often people put it back on again so you've told them they look great and then you see them again and it's hard to know what to say. Recently I bumped into an acquaintance who has lost a huge amount of weight, but it has also aged her about 15 years so I felt telling her she looked great wasn't true because she looked much better before. Afterwards I felt bad that I hadn't congratulated her on it.

Obviously they know that she’s lost loads of weight because she’s lost 8 stone and unless they are blind they would know. However I would never talk about weight loss to someone unless I knew they wanted to talk about it because even the nicest comments carry the implication that “you were massive before”.

DH keeps grabbing me and going UGH, SKIN AND BONNNNEEESS in a dramatic, Disney villainesque way. Oh and he talks about my arse disappearing like he's mourning a family member.

Apart from that people either genuinely aren't noticing or they're being very polite and choosing not to comment. Both are fine! I've got another 4st to lose so I've got a ways to go, the longer I can fly under the radar the better really.

Yes I understand that. But perhaps in their mind's eye she was never very big to them, or as you say they are worried about how to say it.

My old friends have stayed pretty slim whereas I was the only one to gave gained weight significantly after having kids. They have never mentioned it - will be interesting to see if they do say anything when they see me slimmer again.

It’s a total fantasy that people don’t see someone who is 8 stone overweight as big. Of course they do. They just don’t say it if they are good friends. But of course they see that the person is very obese.

I would hate people commenting. I don’t even like my partner mentioning it!
I bumped into a friend locally that I haven’t seen for a while and she must have lost 7-8 stone. I didn’t mention it! Just asked how the family was etc. Hope she didn’t think i was being rude!

I’ve lost 20% and no one comments, except those I’ve told about the injections.

Except my hairdresser! I walked in there a few weeks ago and she said ‘Hi! Have you lost LOADS OF WEIGHT??’.

So apparently it is actually very obvious. I think a lot of people don’t say anything because I was ill last year and they are worried.

I got told “woah you’ve lost some timber” 😂