Is the dress on the left too white for a wedding?

[Jennytappin]

I sent my SIL a photo of my dress on the left, and she said she thinks it’s too much white.

her dress is on the right. When I asked hasn’t hers got white in it too, she said hers is all blue.

are the two dresses a lot different? Is the one on the left a lot more “inappropriate” than the one on right?

It actually isn't "even a hint of white" on a dress and OP's SIL is being OTT. It's wearing an all white dress as a wedding guest that's considered rude. Traditionally, white is a colour that is reserved for the bride. By wearing the same shade, it's implied that you're trying to steal the attention from them on their special day.
I would never wear an all-white dress as a wedding guest as I think it's poor form, but there's absolutely nothing wrong with OP's dress - it doesn't break this etiquette "rule" at all.

Dresses "with white in them" aren't a problem at all as a wedding guest - it's all white dresses that shouldn't be worn by anyone other than the bride.

Exactly. Just a bunch of numpties making up rules that don't exist because there isn't enough Facebook drama to be had as it is. 🙄

Oh right, yes, thanks, having re-read OP's original post I can see now I made an assumption about that (it also explains why SIL's dress doesn't look remotely bridal! 😂). In which case, SIL is a CF as there's nothing inappropriate about OP's dress (if it was all white then that would be a problem).

Both are appropriate for a wedding guest. Your sil just doesn't want you wearing a similar dress to her. Unless sil is the bride it's fine.

Both are perfect for a wedding , left one is lovely .

I’d say both are fine but yours is way nicer!

Hers is baby blue isn’t it? Yours is white, I would not wear white at all to someone’s wedding. If you have to ask “is it too white” then it’s too white IMO.

I always thought that was exactly the reason! (In a similar vein, I was invited to an Indian wedding and there was a very politely worded “please don’t wear red” in the invitation for the same reason.)

I agree, the flowers on hers are not very nice.

TBH seeing her dress would make me change my mind because as PP said they are similar enough to make you look like weird bridesmaids.

Neither of you will be mistaken for the bride and if I were the bride, I might be surprised you're wearing similar dresses to each other, but I'd not think "oohh....those 2 are wearing dresses that are far too white /.similar to mine"

Is hers a very pale blue?

I’ve got an M&S nightie which almost identical to your dress.