Is the dress on the left too white for a wedding?

[Jennytappin]

I sent my SIL a photo of my dress on the left, and she said she thinks it’s too much white.

her dress is on the right. When I asked hasn’t hers got white in it too, she said hers is all blue.

are the two dresses a lot different? Is the one on the left a lot more “inappropriate” than the one on right?

I don’t get it. There’s no way I would take them as bridal dress?!! They’re perfectly fine for a wedding

Both curtains...

Both are absolutely fine. Neither are white dresses. Both are floral dresses, one with a white background and one that is possibly a very pale blue background or possibly white. But neither of them are remotely problematic or inappropriate.

Both absolutely fine!!

Just don't wear anything with white, pick a different colour dress!

That dress isn’t too white but you can’t both turn up to the same wedding in those nearly matching dresses - you’ll look like weird bridesmaids

Both absolutely fine. My MIL always go on about her SIL who wore black to our wedding but her own sister wore a three quarter white lace dress and fascinator to the same wedding. I did not kick off. I would not do it myself and I did think it was inappropriate but to be fair, so many people commented to me that they couldn't believe my DH's aunty turned up in a white lace dress that I felt sorry for her in the end because she just have got some looks and comments.
Would I ever wear all white to a wedding? Absolutely no. I would however think it was OK to wear a patterned or floral dress with some white in. If you're really unsure, perhaps run it past the bride?

If its in a church, I'd take a shawl to cover your boobs and shoulders.

From the pics, her photo looks white, but as you said, maybe it is a very pale blue. I agree, she is likely worried you'll look like twins- who got it a bit wrong in matching.

Why are people so obsessed with dresses with white in them for weddings?! The one on the right looks more white to me but either are absolutely fine.

When my DD got married she specifically said on dress code... feel free to wear white!

Neither of those dresses could ever be mistaken for a wedding gown, nor would they take attention away from the bride.

Both are fine in terms of colour/pattern. I wouldn't worry about them being similar either.

Both dresses are perfect. It's only plain white dresses that's not to be worn.

Both dresses are lovely and fine for a wedding.

On my phone the SILs dress is a very pale blue with darker blue flowers. Yours is dark blue flowers (the predominant colour I would say) on a white background. I can definitely see that the SILs dress is ‘all blue’ as opposed to blue and white.

Can someone explain this veto of having even a hint of white on a dress as a wedding guest? When did this ever become a thing? In all my 60+ years I’ve never known anyone avoid wearing floral dresses with a white background. Both dresses look lovely and appropriate.

Both are fine. Hers is more white but both fine.

I know; it's quite silly.

I think either is fine.

They’re similar. She wants you to change your outfit so she doesn’t have to change hers. It isn’t too white at all.

Is it really so difficult to find a dress that isn’t white or featuring white for just one day where you really aren’t that important?

There's no reason to.

@Jennytappin On my monitor your SIL's dress is definitely a pale blue background with slightly darker blue flowers. My question though is, why is she wearing that as a wedding dress? If she's that fussed, why isn't she wearing all white? And your dress doesn't look remotely bridal so I don't see the problem (although, nor does hers).

Are they not just a bit similar and she wants you to choose something different?

Your sil is talking sh*te.
Both dresses are not too white.

Yup, the SIL's dress on the hanger is clearly pale blue with blue flowers on it on my monitor too. OP's dress (that she's wearing in the photo) may have a white background, but it's dominated by the dark blue floral pattern so I don't know why her SIL is concerned that OP could be mistaken for the bride. The truth is, neither of them look like bridal dresses, so maybe SIL should rethink her choice if she wants to be clearly seen as "the bride".

I don't think she is. OP and her SIL are both guests. SIL isn't the bride.

Your dress is lovely OP, perfect for a wedding.

I don’t know anyone who would be bothered by a guest wearing it.