Did you invite your mother/mother in law to your hen do?

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I suppose it depends on how close you are to your mother and mother in law to be but did you invite them to your hen do? Also did you invite older relatives too, sis in laws, cousins of the groom?

I couldn’t think of anything worse than inviting my mother or nana (who I’m very close too) on my hen do. My nana is 78 and really can’t imagine her sipping her tea from a dick straw at this point in her life. I would however invite an older aunty and a friend’s mother who is in her 60s and one in her 70s. I see them as friends not a friend’s parent are probably the ones that would make the most fun 😂

Is it common to invite your mother in law? Is it rude not too?

I’ve been on a few hen dos. All very different, one was very tacky, one was classy and the others were pretty low key. Some also had mothers and mother in laws invited and others didn’t due to family dynamics or death. Tbf the mother/mother in laws always went home early although during the tacky hen do the mother in law started a drunken fight with the brides cousin and all hell broke loose.

Interested to hear what people did for theirs and was there any drama? Did you regret it or are you glad everyone was there?

I had 2 hen nights, one with my friends and one with family. I enjoyed the one with my family the most.

I had a very low key hen do. Just a bbq in the garden on an evening. I invited both my MIL and my mum. My mum didn’t come as she said she didn’t think it was her thing. She apologised later and said she should have. If I was a more wild person I may not have invited them but I think it’s a nice idea to include all the women.

No and no. I had a big night out with friends. It was a bit wild and really fun..

No and no. I had a night away with a few close friends doing things we enjoy, aat a pace we enjoy them. My mum wouldn't have enjoyed it. I did ask my S-i-l. But she lives miles away and declined. She invited me to hers and I declined as I was very pg and had a young son and she loves 2.5/3 hours drive away.

No, I only invited friends. Not even my sister or cousins!
Mine was low key ish ( an activity, meal, karaoke & drinks), but it just reflected how I normally socialised.

I didn't have one my choice, but i would have as both have been to other events of mine as we get on

But no it should not be expected and not for one second do I think it it is automatically done

Some people have children as companions which is why I think they have issues as adults and therefore put those issues on to the ILs it is twisted

I think it depends on the age and inclination of elderly female relatives (some would always decline but appreciate the invite) whether or not they come/you have a “tame family friendly” hen do for them (and another wilder one - either vaguely wild with dick straws and the usual or actually wild like a weekend in Spain). Nowadays guys come to the hen and women to the stag. That was never traditionally done. So it’s up to the bride (and her hens to some extent but the brides wishes top theirs) what they want.

No I just invited my friends. We got married later in life but no I wanted to
enjoy it/them.

I had two hen nights one was one night in a city two hours away just half a dozen of us. The other was a free for all open invite booking a pizza on ex night we will be in x bar between 7-8 then going on a pub crawl.

No I just invited friends and a cousin who is like a friend and I only had one hen do.

I invited my mum and MIL. They came to the day activity - a crafting one- and dinner, and then went home as we went onto a bar. I didn’t have Willy straws though.

I didn't even really have a proper hen do, just invited all my mates, male and female, and went out for the night. No mother, or mother in law invited.

Most that I have been to have been a 2 part event, so one wild hen with friends and a chilled one with friends and family, including MIL (heaven forbid on MN). I think it depends on the event really

I didn’t invite my MIL - she’s perfectly nice but we are not close and tbh it didn’t even cross my mind to invite her.
I had 2 events on the same day - a nice lunch with my mum, sister and nephew and then an evening thing with my friends which was a Thai meal and then loads of cheap beers and dancing at a local indie club night. All very low key!

I had two, the usual and an afternoon tea in the garden the day before the wedding. I gave an open invitation to both. My Mum, MIL older relatives all opted for the afternoon tea.

No, I had a weekend away with friends then I organised a meal at a local Italian for Maid of Honour, Mum, MIL, SIL.

Actually my MIL would have loved a raucous, boozy weekend with the girls ... bless her, I miss her. My mum would have hated it!

I’ve been married a long time, but in my days of going to hen dos the only one I can remember with family we did a sedate afternoon tea with her mum (not mil) and aunties. I def didn’t take my mum/ mil clubbing.

I had a weekend away which mil and sil came to thry were great. My mums quite elderly but we did a meal out and my kids and god kids came too

I didn't invite either to mine.

It’s actually nice to read that you all invited who you want/didn’t want there. I read so many wedding and hen do drama where the bride feels pressure to invite someone because that person might get upset or cause drama if not and people telling her she’s unreasonable or rude not to invite someone she doesn’t one there 😂

No. I loved my mil but that time was with my friends and my own family

My mum came on mine, but then she is feral. She’s a better drinker than I am, and is both the life and soul.

When I organised my best friend’s, her mum wouldn’t have enjoyed anything particularly raucous.

We made sure the first activity was something she’d take part it (afternoon tea type of thing with alcohol), and then once the real grown ups had left we went on to the more drunken night out.

My mum and MIL came to the escape room and brunch then ducked out and the rest of us carried on with drinks dinner dancing etc

Your mum sounds great 😂

I did two nights away in a city about 90 mins away. Dsis and DM came for day one alongside my closest friends. Then day 2 relatives left and wider friends came for the night. It was perfect.

The last time we went out, my partner picked me up at 11pm and she went out clubbing.

On my hen do, she drank a pint out of her shoe with a straw because she’d spilt it, and wasn’t wasting money on London priced beer without drinking it.

She’s insane. In the most wonderful way. 😂