Did you invite your mother/mother in law to your hen do?

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I suppose it depends on how close you are to your mother and mother in law to be but did you invite them to your hen do? Also did you invite older relatives too, sis in laws, cousins of the groom?

I couldn’t think of anything worse than inviting my mother or nana (who I’m very close too) on my hen do. My nana is 78 and really can’t imagine her sipping her tea from a dick straw at this point in her life. I would however invite an older aunty and a friend’s mother who is in her 60s and one in her 70s. I see them as friends not a friend’s parent are probably the ones that would make the most fun 😂

Is it common to invite your mother in law? Is it rude not too?

I’ve been on a few hen dos. All very different, one was very tacky, one was classy and the others were pretty low key. Some also had mothers and mother in laws invited and others didn’t due to family dynamics or death. Tbf the mother/mother in laws always went home early although during the tacky hen do the mother in law started a drunken fight with the brides cousin and all hell broke loose.

Interested to hear what people did for theirs and was there any drama? Did you regret it or are you glad everyone was there?

No, but I invited her to come with me to choose my wedding dress. She doesn't have any DD's so she was beyond thrilled. I also asked her opinion about invitations to make her feel included.

Mother in law yes, mother absolutely not.

I was invited to ddil's hen. Love her but declined with thanks. Lazerquest, pub crawl, club. I believe they had a fun time but not my sort of thing. Invitation and decline both graciously received!

I had two, an abroad one which was my mates, some cousins and my sisters. Then a night out in our city, my mum, aunties, step mum ect all came to that but they love a drink and a party. I invited my MIL & SIL to the home hen but they didn’t come.

I had two. A night out with friends and then afternoon tea with the mums, old aunties and kids

No

I absolutely two hen dos… the first a weekend away with my friends and then an afternoon tea with family including my mum and MIL

Yes i did. A few close friends and I had afternoon tea during the day then we met up in a larger group in the eveing for a meal which my mother and mother in law attended. They went home after the meal and the rest of us went on for a night out. Dh doesnt have a sister but when his brother got married 10 years later she didnt invite me or my mother in law to her hen do. I thought it was extremely rude at the time.

I lived in 2 places when I got married. Had a meal and night out in the town I worked in with colleagues and another in my home town which my mum and dad came to (and several male friends as well as women) and then me and my best mate had a weekend city break.

Wouldn’t have invited any in laws anyway but as they live 5 hours from my home town and 3.5 from where I worked they wouldn’t have come anyway.

I invited mine but I am very close to her and it was my own mum who was reluctant to come to mine. My MIL is fabulous, she came out clubbing with me and my friends until 3am!

I didn't invite my MIL but my mum came with some of my aunties. Nobody drank anything through a dick straw though...

Absolute no from me.

But there's history and for the most part she only steps foot in our house when she needs something.

She is the second wife and not H2B mum, but unfortunately she passed away before we were even together.

As my mother tuts when I have a second pint, no way! She didn’t say anything at my wedding but to be honest I didn’t drink much, too busy.

First marriage- my mum and auntie came and had a brilliant time. My MiL wasn't invited but she didn't drink and barely left the house so I knew it wouldn't be her thing.

Second marriage- my mum had passed away but my auntie came. My MiL was there too and had a brilliant time. I have some brilliant pictures of her with the butler my friends booked 😂😂 she still talks about him!

Depends on the person and your relationship with them I guess 🤷🏼‍♀️

Yep had both DM and DMIL at mine. It was low key and no willies though.

I had 2, one was a more boozy weekend affair , mum and MIL didn’t attend , then I had an afternoon tea which they both attended

Like so many others, many decades ago I had one night out with my friends that included a fair bit of drinking and dancing, but also had another night where we went for a meal which included both our Mums and other older relatives.

That has been the same situation for the family weddings I've been to in recent years - though now more likely to be a night or weekend away for the bride and close friends and sisters, and then a meal or maybe afternoon tea for older family members, including the Mums.

My DD invited her prospective MIL, GMIL and BIL's girlfriend. But it wasn't a wild dick straw event. She wanted her friends and all the women of both families to get to know each other. It was a lovely afternoon event and I know that the in-law women were all delighted to be there.

Years ago, I went on a friend’s hen do. Her mum was there and during the evening told me she hadn’t wanted to attend but felt she ought to because she had been invited. My friend (the hen) at another point in the evening, told me she’d invited her mum only out of politeness, but assumed she would refuse to attend.

I did! My MIL and my mum and Aunties came to the daytime bit (crafts and cocktails) and the meal. My MIL/SIL left after the meal and my mum and aunties came on a pub crawl/scavenger hunt but left before we went clubbing 😁

(No willies at any part of mine though!)

I just had my friends and sisters. My youngest sister was only 14 so we just had a meal out but she was thrilled to be out with us.

Dh went out for a curry and both our dads went to that.

Nope to DM and nope to DMIL.

I had one but I made it clear that the Older ones were only invited to the meal, not to the drinks around town. We did get married very quickly though so maybe if I’d had more time i would have booked something like Afternoon Tea for the older relatives and a night out for the others

Mil to be here. DS1 is getting married in August. SiL to be is having 2 hen dos. I found out talking to DCs about the date of the hen do & DS4 asked incredulously, “Mum’s going to Ibiza?!?” No, the one I’m going to is a more sedate day out in London.