weddings that did not last

[sixtyandfabulousofcourse]

just wondered if anyone had been to a wedding where the couple split up soon after or even worse did not turn up at the wedding?
A few years ago my cousin got married. White wedding, horse drawn carriage, it was all videotaped which was a new thing then, lavish reception at the local Country Club but they never even made 6 months, leaving her parents owing a lot of money

Why are people always so gleeful about someone's marriage breaking up when they spent a lot of money on the wedding?

'A few years ago' video taping was new?

Not gleeful. Always a shame to hear a Marriage did not work out I had a similar experience invited to a Lavish Wedding. They separated after a few months.

Video taping as anew that? So at least 30 years ago

But yes, five days after the wedding.

I was married 29 years ago and .had that new fangled video taping 😀

Yes ,i have been to a wedding the lasted weeks it was such a shame.

Mine lasted a couple of years before I discovered he was having an affair. Is that quick enough to amuse you?

My parents wedding was videod over 30 years ago!!

Never been to a wedding that didn't last a year, the first to get married in our friendship group were married just over a year they were just very young no major drama.

Another friend the h2b called it off around 2 months before, was mostly all paid etc was a real shame for b2b so we all took her on a girls holiday to cheer her up

I knew a couple who separated and filed for divroce before they'd finished paying off yhe wedding ☹️
Took 3 years of planning and working overtime to be separated before the first anniversary.
Both seem very happy now so i guess that's all that matters.

Not really quick but my SIL split with her husband after a year. I was very annoyed as they had a big row on our wedding day as well.

I was frustrated as they hadn't been together very long had insisted on a big wedding all paid of by IL's. Where as DH and I had been together years and have now been married almost 20years yet his parents blew so much money on his sisters wedding they could hardly afford a wedding present for us and seemed a little resentful at our wedding.

It definately a thing
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/the-myths-of-sex/202402/the-bigger-the-bling-the-shorter-the-marriage

I forget how old I am ha ha 1980s approx

My cousin had a massive wedding the full works , paid via a compensation payout to her fiancee for an accident he was involved in a few years previously .
They'd been together a few years and also lived together
Once married , lasted 6 months .
She's remarried now and they have a child .

I have always noticed that the more spent on a wedding then shorter the marriage lasts...it's as if all that matters is the wedding when it should be the marriage that is concentrated on

My grandads wedding was videotaped in the 1960s so not a new thing.

I went to a wedding where I had known the bride since she was 6 and the groom since birth (we all grew up on the same housing estate). So I thought that they were made for each other. They had a big fancy wedding with all the extras - it was in the early days of being allowed to marry in hotels etc- it lasted 6 months (or not even a football season, to quote my friend who had been best man).

My husband's first wedding was big and expensive, relatives flew in from all over the world etc. His wife had an affair with her boss and they split up 16 months later.

Our wedding was much smaller and we are celebrating our Silver Wedding anniversary this year.

I really don't think it follows though that a big/flash wedding means high chance of early divorce. I know someone people who spent an eye watering amount on their wedding day and are still married decades later. And others who had a quick register office do or a modest/relaxed wedding and the marriage didn't last long. I guess it just seems more of a shame/waste if you've spent a lot so that's what people remark on.

I knew someone whose groom just didn't turn up to the wedding.

I went to a wedding where we all knew the couple were a bad match. They'd been together since uni but it was a tempestuous relationship, one-off for years. They had a row at the wedding (upstairs but quite a few of us overheard from below) and split for good within the year.

It was sad but I almost felt they needed to get married to finally realise it really wouldn't work out and end it permanently, the split was definitely for the best.

It was cinefilm in the 60s. I recently had some film of my sisters christening converted from cinefilm to MP4 so we could watch it after her 60th birthday lunch! 🤣

I knew someone who has a massive destination wedding in Caribbean. It was two years in the planning, flights and hotel were £££ for all the guests. They didn’t even last a year. They were really young 23 when got married. I don’t think they actually wanted to get married by the time wedding rolled around but parents had paid and everyone had flights booked so went through with it.

100% this! Very weird to be so delighted that they lost out on money 💰
Also equally horrible is people saying that people who had big white weddings ended up divorcing whereas those Sensible Folk who had modest weddings stayed together. Am mid-49's now and seeing a lot of marriages falling apart. In my experience this just doesn't ring true; I know couples who had tiny weddings split up, and people who had all the trimming who are still together. As well as the other way around.

Indeed! Certainly hasn’t been my experience either, the cheaper the wedding the shorter it lasted!! Hope that’s not the case for my marriage!!!

I'll raise you to 32 years, VHS cassette in the loft, new fangled hand held video camera used to make the film 😄

Didn't think people did sound gleeful.