weddings that did not last

[sixtyandfabulousofcourse]

just wondered if anyone had been to a wedding where the couple split up soon after or even worse did not turn up at the wedding?
A few years ago my cousin got married. White wedding, horse drawn carriage, it was all videotaped which was a new thing then, lavish reception at the local Country Club but they never even made 6 months, leaving her parents owing a lot of money

Get you ! 😀

My dad was videoing weddings and parties as a job on the side in the mid 80's. The stress involved in editing and recording them and making extra copies will stay with me forever. We had wires running all over the house.

Anyway yes I've been to quite a few big weddings/short marriages.

One I remember was my cousin who got married on the same day as a concert I had tickets for. I was made to go to the wedding and had to sell my tickets. The marriage lasted three months because he was already having an affair with his next wife. When he eventually married his new wife I refused to go as I had tickets for a music festival. They've been married 30 years now.

I wouldn't be surprised if there is a solid correlation. Makes sense:

1. High spend may indicate impulsivity/ off kilter judgement generally (unless they are really rich)
2. May create financial stress
3. May indicate over focus on material elements and/or the wedding over the marriage 'fairy tale' element.
4. May indicate an unconscious 'compensating' for stuff not being great in relationship deep down.
5. May mean people who have doubts before wedding but don't pull out because of all the expense being wasted....

I'm not gleeful about it. Indeed, I spent a lot on my second wedding (though I could afford it). It felt like an antidote to my first wedding, which was typical young woman, with parents holding the purse strings, and everyone and his dog dictating how it happened. This was me, in glorious, independent forties, making my own decisions and able to pay for them! It was fun!

I think and hope the marriage will last forever.... but at two years, we're still in the zone that it would be pretty embarrassing if it fell apart!

just wondered if anyone had been to a wedding where the couple split up soon after

Me. I ditched him a few months in when I found out he was a liar. Not even big lies, stupid lies, but enough for me never to be able to trust him.

We didn't have a big wedding and leave anyone with debt though. We paid it ourselves and it was a cheap ish registry office affair.

I’ve been to a wedding where I knew it wouldn’t last. I have never seen a sadder bride. I think she just couldn’t face backing out. It lasted three years but they were living separate lives for at least two of those. Nothing to be gleeful about it was a sad situation

Longevity is not a good indicator of a successful marriage either.

I've known couples together for 40 years where the wife has never felt loved or cared for but felt that she had to stay.

I'd take cutting my losses after spending a fortune on a wedding over a lifetime of misery any day of the week.

Oh I couldn’t agree more. A neighbour mentioned that it’s her 50 year wedding anniversary this summer. I said “oh lovely are you doing anything special”. She replied “no it’s not something to celebrate”

I only mentioned the video taping of my cousins wedding as it was new to us and at that time a luxury addition really to a wedding just an example of how much her parents spent on her.
This is just a light hearted so to speak thread it is sad when couples split it does not matter if big or small wedding it was just a light hearted what happened if a couple split quickly after the wedding

"Lighthearted"? Feels a bit ghoulish to me- revelling in other people's marital problems. Hilarious.

That's so sad. I'm a big fan of divorce! 🤣

Both my, thankfully, cheap and small weddings culminated in very short marriages.