How did you deal with the post wedding blues?

[Sunrays22]

Hi everyone,

First let me say, I know I'm incredibly privileged to have just had a lovely wedding a few days ago BUT I wondered how did any other newly-weds out there deal with the post-wedding blues/come-down?

For info, my husband and I have been planning our wedding for about 2 years and we had the best day. The weather didn't completely play ball - but when does it ever?
Since the morning after the wedding however I've had waves of the 'post-wedding blues' mainly because I think the day is such a high and then everything feels a little flat when you get back into your normal routine! We haven't planned a honeymoon yet as we want to save up some more money and book this for later in the year.

I'm so grateful the day happened and I know these feelings/emotions will pass, but wondered if anyone else had experienced this and any tips for making the first few days and weeks a little less sad!

Thankyou in advance 🙏

We planned the wedding in six weeks so didn't get the "post wedding blues." 😂

That’s why people go on honeymoon. To give them some time to come back down to earth.
Start planning one? Give yourself something to focus on?

Start planning for the baby? (Kind of joking. Have you got something you can get your teeth into, a possible work thing to aim for, a qualification to study for, a room to decorate etc?)

We went on honeymoon!

By the time we got back, we just had great memories of the day and were keen to get back to "real life" so we could see friends and family again.

But we planned our wedding over 10 months and the wedding industry annoyed me, so I wasn't as engaged as I could have been. I think 2 yrs is a long time, especially if you're the sort of person where it has been your whole focus for that time period. Find a new "project"

Oh lord, we do already have our 3 year old to keep us busy in that department😅 so maybe in a year or so 🙈

Only took a few months to plan our wedding so no blues here either.

Back to work and then honeymoon a few weeks later. With dc1 so just a holiday really.

Can you reframe it in your mind as being so glad it all went well and no disasters etc? My wedding was in 2021 and nearly cancelled due to covid, I was just so relieved it went ahead that I was deliriously happy afterwards 😅 I appreciate that we've had different experiences though and the blues can hit hard after all that build up!!

And focus on some nice things to look forward to like putting some lovely photos up on the wall soon, and searching for your perfect honeymoon 😍 congrats!!

Not much help to you, but I didn’t move in with my now husband until after we were married. It was anything but getting back into my normal routine.

Why did it take 2 years to plan?

Start writing your thank you cards.
Asking guests to send you any photos they took from the day.
Working out what you are going to do with the wedding photos and the prices (photo book, prints, canvas).
Write memories in the notes sections of your phone as there will be small details from the day that you will forget in time).
Plan a mini moon.

Sorry op but too much time on your hands 😂 planned our wedding within 8 weeks of booking it, took a 4 day minimoon to a UK city and then got on with normal life. Was pregnant 3 months later just as the novelty of calling each other husband and wife in every conversation wore off 😂 congrats btw. Spend the time on thank you cards, it takes hours x

I’ve never heard of post-wedding blues.

Ah I think it's because you didn't go on a honeymoon! Our wedding was only planned in about six months but was a big formal bash in central London. Then my husband whisked me away to a secret location (turned out to be the Lady Astor suite at Clivedon) for two nights before travelling abroad. That kept the excitement going. Then we came back ready to resume our regular lives.
I do think couples can get caught up with planning the wedding, and almost forget how to talk to each other about anything else. You have a honeymoon to plan, so something to look forward to. In the meantime, get busy writing thank you notes!

Honeymoon and then booked another holiday pretty much straight after returning.

Same here and part of me was glad it was all over - it went really well and l was just grateful for that

Print out loads of photos and chat to anyone who will listen about it!
I remember it very well.

When was this though, the 1960s?! Not really relevant to someone in 2024 with a three year old child.

Am I had the post-wedding blues - and we only got engaged 8 months before the big day! We had a week in between our wedding and honeymoon, (going back to work during that time didn’t help!) but once we went off on holiday the blues lifted like magic and we got home to lots of lovely gifts 😁. So yeah, start planning a holiday or at least a weekend away. Congratulations by the way 😊

What a weird concept. Just find something to fill your time.

I’m not surprised you feel blue if it was 2 years in the planning. This is definitely a ‘thing’ nowadays as you go back to exactly what you were before.

I’m 52 and got married in the 90s. Very old-fashioned now, but we didn’t live together so had the novelty of moving into our new house after the honeymoon and opening all the gifts from our registry. That was more exciting than the wedding day itself.

Too late to have the honeymoon to distract you. I think you just have to accept this flat bit and enjoy your photos etc.

I don't think Kate and Williams wedding took 2 years to organise

I struggled we have some other life difficulties so I kind of threw myself into wedding but they were all still there after!

My mh dropped (due to other factors)
So I had counselling, took up yoga/meditation and had hypnotherapy. It all helps.

Maybe you need some treats.

We planned our wedding in 4 months so not too much build up and then planned our honeymoon which we had 4 months after wedding , can you look into a break away ? I know it's not quite the same if you already have children but it will give you something to look forward to .

We did plan for a while (as we were waiting for Covid to go away), but we were very careful to not get obsessed or let it rule our lives, so it wasn’t a gap afterwards. We also had a couple of nights away right after; and honeymoon a month later. I was quite relieved when it was all over; we just like a chilled life.

2008 The OP hadn’t mentioned her child when I started writing my post.