How did you deal with the post wedding blues?

[Sunrays22]

Hi everyone,

First let me say, I know I'm incredibly privileged to have just had a lovely wedding a few days ago BUT I wondered how did any other newly-weds out there deal with the post-wedding blues/come-down?

For info, my husband and I have been planning our wedding for about 2 years and we had the best day. The weather didn't completely play ball - but when does it ever?
Since the morning after the wedding however I've had waves of the 'post-wedding blues' mainly because I think the day is such a high and then everything feels a little flat when you get back into your normal routine! We haven't planned a honeymoon yet as we want to save up some more money and book this for later in the year.

I'm so grateful the day happened and I know these feelings/emotions will pass, but wondered if anyone else had experienced this and any tips for making the first few days and weeks a little less sad!

Thankyou in advance 🙏

I felt relieved and chilled after the wedding! But if I was experiencing this I'd do a first night out for dinner as a married couple or something, if you're not going on honeymoon immediately.

We postponed for a year due to some family issues that thankfully resolved, clearly don't think I'm the Princess of Wales 🤣

We postponed for a year due to family issues that resolved 😁 was originally meant to be March 2023

If you can afford it, get on with planning an interesting holiday.

A few days after I got married we headed off for five weeks back-packing in south America. We did it on the cheap - used public transport and stayed in hostals. We did some pretty adventurous stuff and by the time we got back, the wedding was all but forgotten (despite having had a fantastic day). I realise this would be impossible to replicate with a small child but there must be something you could plan which you could look forward to.

I think a lot of people are forgetting that venues are often booked years in advance hence the long planning stage of most wedding these days. I’m quite sure Kate and William’s wedding did take less time to plan because a) they have an array of wedding-friendly private residences to choose from and b) I very much doubt that Westminster Abbey were ever going to turn them away because ‘Mr and soon to be Mrs Commoner’ had booked their preferred date in previously. With an array of staff every inch of a royal event can be planned and carried out meticulously within a few days if needed. Eg the Queen’s Funeral. So 🙄to whoever made that scathing comment.

Op remember this is Mumsnet where the joy sponges love to remind everyone that getting excited by your own wedding is pathetic and you should have higher things on your mind at all times 😂

In the short-term, I found meeting up with friends who had attended our wedding really helped - you find out about little things / funny conversations at the wedding you might have missed. And obviously it's nice to hear firsthand that people enjoyed the event that you spent so much time planning. Also, receiving our photos from the photographer and arranging to meet up with family to show them was a really nice way to re-live the wedding! I generally found booking in events / meet ups with friends so that I had things to look forward to made a big difference. More long-term, we started slowly planning our honeymoon (we're not going to be going until 14 months post the wedding). It's a cliche, but as more time passes, the blues do fade.