Scenario: blended family. Bit complicated so hope you get the idea. Sorry its long.
My DS#3 getting married in the summer, fiancé has been extremely poorly so he tends to let her have her own way. Wedding is child free. His older brother, DS#2 and partner with one child ( who could go to Mil for the day) will have a 4 month old, so DIL will be feeding.They have been told no children, no exception. DS#2 has told DS#3 it's a stupid rule and he won't be going at all.
SD#1 and partner have decided not to go as only step siblings have been invited to the ceremony but partners are welcome to the evening. It's a fair way from where they live so would be awkward in fairness. SD#2 was going but as her partner doesn't drive and was going to go with SD#1 's partner, he obviously isn't going so SD#2 isn't going either. The reason only step siblings are invited to the ceremony is that DS#3 and fiancé feel they don't have relationships with the partners. This is because the fiancé never attends any family get togethers, only DS#3.
DH, who I get the feeling DS#3's fiancé doesn't particularly like, has now said if none of his DDs are going, nor DS#2 and partner, he isn't going. He is very upset that his DDs partners haven't been included in the whole affair.
I'm piggy in the middle. Not happy with rules either but it's their wedding, they can choose. I just feel that DS#3 isn't having much of a say because he goes along with whatever she chooses. He needs to grow some balls. Do I get involved and tell him what I think? DH says stay out, let them sort it out themselves, but I can see a rift between brothers coming. Is it reasonable for me to just show my face at the wedding, then go?
For context DS#1 has 2 children who i thought DS#3 and fiancé were close to, these children are not invited either, but fiancé has asked 2 children she babysits for to be flower girls. DS#1"s daughter and son would have loved to be doing this.
I guess there isn't a AIBU or AINBU but do I speak to DS#3 and fiancé and tell them their decisions will have consequences or stay out?
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Wedding causing family rift
Piksi55 · 13/03/2024 11:38
Piksi55 · 24/03/2024 12:15
That's another weird thing. They already married a few months ago in the registry office. Noone in the family knows.
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