Tell me about your relationship with sour sister/brother in law

[youstillloverachel]

Recently engaged. Been with my partner a few years. Never forced it but recently become quite close to his sister. We have a relationship independent of him now - we text and it’s not about him 😂.

Was thinking the other day how lovely this is because I am an only child. I’m hoping over the years we will become even closer.

Over the years, did your SIL and BIL become like a true sister/brother to you? 😊

Thank you

I love my SIL, she is one of my best friends! ☺️

The three ex wives of my two brothers and I are still good friends and my husband’s brother is close with us too. I’m very lucky that all of our extended family get along. My mother is an only child and my dad and his sister don’t speak so the fact that history hasn’t repeated itself is just great.

My soon to be SIL is lovely, she's very welcoming and has never made any horrid comments despite there being an age gap and money on his side so she'd be well within her rights to be suspicious of me. Not saying that's what I'm in it for but just to give context.

Her husband is also really nice and friendly and their two daughters are so sweet.

I'm really winning with my new in laws as his mum is lush too

My SIL (brother’s wife) is probably my best friend now. We had a bit of a rough patch when they were all living at my parents but we are really close now.

My fiancé’s brother and I get on fine but we have never hung out just the two of us apart from when we happen to be left along in groups. I have his number and text him occasionally if there is a specific reason. I would love us to be closer because he and my fiancé are close and I have known him since he was about 14 but we don’t have much in common.

My FMIL and I on the other hand are very close and keep in touch far more than she does with her actual son!

Should add that my fiancé also has a semi independent relationship with my brothers and SIL in that they will text each other occasionally. Neither of us are close to FBIL’s gf yet but she is a lot younger than us and they haven’t been together long so hopefully we will be close too one day.

It doesn’t matter to a lot of people but I grew up in a very close family - my mum and her best friend married brothers - so it’s important to me that we are all friends.

Yes, SIL and I both spent our childhoods pining for a Sister so we're just delighted to have each other now. I speak to her more often than to my Brother.

Mine's dreadful. I can't bear to look at her face so I avoid as much contact as possible

My SIL is the older sister I never had.

I did have an actual older sister but she's awful and we've never been close.

Not only was I lucky enough to marry DH, but his amazing family have become my own.

I can't stand my partners brothers! The oldest one is angry, bitter, aggressive, sneery and unpleasant. He's also a sneaky, lying coke addict. The middle brother is a manipulative trouble making bully and has alienated pretty much any family he has left with his shit-stirring and nasty little plots and schemes.

Thankfully the oldest lives 400 miles away and the middle one lives 10,000 miles away so I rarely have to interact with them. In fact I refuse point blank to ever have any interactions with the middle brother ever again.

On the plus side though they've taught me to appreciate my own brothers a whole lot more than I used to, they are absolute saints in comparison!