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Sunday wedding

41 replies

BestName · 25/01/2023 11:16

Are you any less likely to attend a wedding on a Sunday just because it's a Sunday or if it was a good friend or family would it only depend on your availability for that day? Or would you consider your Monday in the equation?

Thanks

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VivaVivaa · 25/01/2023 11:20

I wouldn’t mind attending a Sunday wedding at all. I’d probably assume it would be a smaller and quieter affair than a Friday or Saturday, but that’s not a bad thing! If most of your guests are local then it’s just as easy as a Saturday wedding. If your guests have to travel then they will maybe only have to use one day of annual leave for the Monday - better than a midweek wedding which often require 2 or 3 days leave.

Doidontimmm · 25/01/2023 11:20

I’d still attend but depending on whether I could take annual leave or not would depend how long I stayed. If not local then if no annual leave & depending on accommodation costs I wouldn’t go. If term time people travelling with kids may not come.

Startuplife · 25/01/2023 11:23

We have one next year. It’s close family so we’ll go but I’m not particularly happy about it. It’s a 5 hour drive away so we’ll have to stay over and take annual leave on the Monday.
To be honest I’d rather a Friday wedding although it would be the same amount of annual leave.

AnyRandomName · 25/01/2023 11:23

I'd certainly come if I could get back in time for work / school on Monday.

Id begrudge any use of annual leave for a Monday hangover and journey back

I'd expect a Sunday wedding to be smaller and low key. More jazz band and canapés, or outdoor ceremony and afternoon tea than 120+ church service, marquee, 3 course sit down meal and band until 1am type

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 25/01/2023 11:25

If it was local (could drive or taxi home), we would still attend, but probably leave around 10pm as we wouldn't want to keep the kids up crazy late

If it was requiring an overnight stay, then we would either not go at all, or, depending on relationship to them, would leave the kids with granny and drive there and back in the day, leaving about 6/7pm

meetmeatmidnights · 25/01/2023 11:26

Depends who it is and where it is!

I'd rather not take a Monday off work if I can help it - for a close family member or friend I'd be more likely, not if it was super far away though. I'd probably leave early too as it was a Sunday night.

Oakbeam · 25/01/2023 11:29

All things considered, I would be less likely to go. Or I might go just for the ceremony. It would really depend on what I had on on the Monday.

HedgeWench · 25/01/2023 11:32

Depends who it is and the location.

Original poster
BestName · 25/01/2023 15:20

Thanks everyone

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DirectionToPerfection · 25/01/2023 15:24

I had a Sunday wedding and the vast majority of people we invited attended.

People have the choice of going home that evening and going to work the next day, or staying over and taking the Monday off.

I don't get how Fridays are ok (where you have to take a day off) but Sundays are a problem.

PurBal · 25/01/2023 15:25

I’d attend if it was local.

RaspberryJamTart · 25/01/2023 15:30

Sunday before a bank holiday covers people (well most) not working the next day.

gogohmm · 25/01/2023 15:31

As long as it's fairly local and not a boozy affair it's fine. Generally if it's a big wedding it needs to be Saturday if you want good attendance

OpportunityKnockss · 25/01/2023 15:35

I’d attend. I would rate Saturday as the best day, then Sunday, then Friday.

TokyoSushi · 25/01/2023 15:37

We had a Sunday wedding but it was bank holiday weekend, would that work? Otherwise I'd likely still go but it would be a bit of a pain, especially if I had school-age DC and it wasn't in the holidays.

MermaidEyes · 25/01/2023 15:43

I got married on a Sunday. Everyone who was invited came. DHs boss closed the office on Monday so no one had to go to work! I've also been to other Sunday weddings, but in the past turned down Friday invites due to not being able to have time off work for them.

Ponderingwindow · 25/01/2023 15:46

If it is local it wouldn’t make much difference to me. I’m not one to party into the night though.

Soproudoflionesses · 25/01/2023 15:48

I went to a Sunday wedding and there was no atmosphere at all sadly.

maddy68 · 25/01/2023 15:53

I would attend bit go early as I would have work the next day

Hbh17 · 25/01/2023 15:59

We went to a Sunday wedding last year. Seemed to be a good number of guests, inc people staying overnight as long-distance guests.

MermaidEyes · 25/01/2023 18:41

Soproudoflionesses · 25/01/2023 15:48

I went to a Sunday wedding and there was no atmosphere at all sadly.

That's probably more to do with the actual guests than the day!

Easterdaffsx · 26/01/2023 00:39

I'd go as long as it wasn't too far away. So maybe 20-30 mims max .

Longbarn5 · 26/01/2023 22:32

Been to weddings on several different days of the week, including one mid week and two on a Monday. No shortage of guests having a good time. People at one of the Monday ones had had to take two days off because of travel and distance but my cousin (the bride on this occasion) had no declines from 95 invites so it obviously wasnt bothering many people to have to take the time off.

ZenNudist · 26/01/2023 22:46

Leaving aside expecting people to use annual leave if they aren't local. Most good friends and family will do that with enough notice unbegrudingly.

it is tricky for anyone with kids who is not local to you as they will be reliant on getting childcare that can take the kids to school. Kids won't be able to come. It could cause difficulties and bad feeling.

Sunday wedding firmly in school holidays better but what if people go away? My cousin got married during school holidays and I couldn't go because it was the time of year we always went on holiday (May) and we had already booked. So maybe a Sunday in the summer holidays is a good bet with about 18m notice so people know not to book holiday in that time.

All told you'd be better doing Saturday wedding.

AliceMcK · 26/01/2023 23:55

Depends on many factors, relationship to couple, travel distance, work, school, costs involved, child friendly…

We had our wedding on a Sunday, most guests needed to travel so we deliberately picked a long weekend so guests didn’t need to take time of work or school and had plenty of travel time.

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