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Sunday wedding

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BestName · 25/01/2023 11:16

Are you any less likely to attend a wedding on a Sunday just because it's a Sunday or if it was a good friend or family would it only depend on your availability for that day? Or would you consider your Monday in the equation?

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lowclouds · 30/01/2023 14:30

I would go if it were either:

a) not too far away (but wouldn't be staying late)

or b) in a great location I could combine with a mini holiday/ weekend break, I'd take off Friday and Monday off work.

The main thing is that I wouldn't want to take annual leave to go to a wedding at your local hotel in the Midlands or such like.

SausageRoll2020 · 04/02/2023 09:34

Our wedding was on a Sunday a few years ago and a fantastic day.
Family and friends spread far and wide but the only person who couldn't make it was a Junior Doctor because of their rota but that could have been the same for any day of the week.

I've been to two Sunday weddings since, again both brilliant atmospheres, I really don't think it makes a difference.

I friend of mine is getting married on a Tuesday this year, I've booked time off work because she is my friend and I want to see her get married. Lots of their family have jobs where getting a Saturday off work would be more difficult then getting a day off mid-week, so it suits them perfectly.

I think the bottom line is that people who want to be at your wedding will make the effort to be there regardless of the day of the week.

MelchiorsMistress · 04/02/2023 09:36

It would be ok on a bank holiday, but otherwise I’d expect the wedding to be one that was over early. I’d go if it were in a convenient location, but would leave by 8.30/9.00.

4thonthe4th · 04/02/2023 09:37

I’d go if local.

Toddlerteaplease · 15/02/2023 17:45

My sister got married on a Tuesday. No one minded!

Lulu1919 · 15/02/2023 18:01

I'd go ...but not if it meant travel as I'm a teacher and we can't book days off I'm term time.

CharlotteStreetW1 · 19/02/2023 12:57

DirectionToPerfection · 25/01/2023 15:24

I had a Sunday wedding and the vast majority of people we invited attended.

People have the choice of going home that evening and going to work the next day, or staying over and taking the Monday off.

I don't get how Fridays are ok (where you have to take a day off) but Sundays are a problem.

Because Monday would feel like a wasted day off just for getting home whereas one would spend the Friday day off at the wedding

I have declined Sunday and midweek evening-only invitations which weren't local for that reason. I would have gone for the whole day though.

(I have no issue with only being invited for the evening - just not on a school night.)

Erictheavocado · 19/02/2023 15:23

If the next day was a bank holiday, no problem. If not, unless in school holidays I couldn't go as I work in a school and my holidays are set. If a day off was even allowed, it would be unpaid and I couldn't afford to lose a day's pay, on top of the other extra expenses for attending a wedding.

DirectionToPerfection · 19/02/2023 16:10

CharlotteStreetW1 · 19/02/2023 12:57

Because Monday would feel like a wasted day off just for getting home whereas one would spend the Friday day off at the wedding

I have declined Sunday and midweek evening-only invitations which weren't local for that reason. I would have gone for the whole day though.

(I have no issue with only being invited for the evening - just not on a school night.)

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But that's what you'd have to do anyway on the Saturday if you went to a Friday wedding. So essentially wasting a weekend day.

Either way it takes up one day annual leave and one weekend day if you're travelling and staying over.

Scooopsahoy · 19/02/2023 16:18

It may not be relevant to your situation OP but Jewish weddings are traditionally held on Sunday, as Saturday is Shabbat and a day of rest.

I’m from a Jewish background - though not religious and married a non-Jew in a civil ceremony. My parents wanted us to get married on a Sunday (because tradition!) but we really didn’t want to so went for a Saturday instead. But personally I’d have no issue with going to a Sunday wedding.

OrangeBicycle · 19/02/2023 16:23

I’m think if your wedding isn’t important enough for someone to take annual leave I wouldn’t want them there anyway. We got married on a Tuesday and all our friends/family just booked 2 days annual leave. I’ve been to many friends weddings on Wednesdays and Thursday also and use it as a nice long weekend. We always know the wedding date at least a year in advance so shouldn’t be an issue

UsingChangeofName · 19/02/2023 16:40

I’m think if your wedding isn’t important enough for someone to take annual leave I wouldn’t want them there anyway
We always know the wedding date at least a year in advance so shouldn’t be an issue

Unless you work in a school.......

UsingChangeofName · 19/02/2023 16:41

I would go to the wedding, but if it weren't local then I would leave relatively early in the evening.

namechangeforthisbleep · 19/02/2023 16:47

AnyRandomName · 25/01/2023 11:23

I'd certainly come if I could get back in time for work / school on Monday.

Id begrudge any use of annual leave for a Monday hangover and journey back

I'd expect a Sunday wedding to be smaller and low key. More jazz band and canapés, or outdoor ceremony and afternoon tea than 120+ church service, marquee, 3 course sit down meal and band until 1am type

Lol. We married on a Sunday and it was anything but low key

2chocolateoranges · 19/02/2023 16:48

I don’t mind a local wedding on a Sunday however detest a Sunday wedding that I need to travel to. a sibling had a Sunday wedding 90mins from where we all live, very little accommodation in surrounding area as it was in the middle of nowhere and our children still had school the next day and dh would have had to lose a days wage. We ended up going, not drinking and leaving as soon as final song was played as we had a 90minute drive home. None of us enjoyed it.

we also have a midweek wedding later this year and the same will be happening, one of us needs to drive.

yikesanotherbooboo · 19/02/2023 17:04

Absolutely fine as long it was near and ideally not a late night. We would struggle to both get a single weekday off work. If it was close family we would make it work .

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