Is anyone having wedding ring only - no engagement ring?

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Is that a thing?

Having just a wedding ring and not an engagement ring?

I only wear my wedding ring. I do have an engagement ring, but i only bring it out for ‘posh’ occasions.

I own an engagement ring, I have not worn it since the wedding.
I've never loved it (I chose it, bad choice) and it doesn't suit my lifestyle (like, using my hands to retrieve items from my pockets).

I don't see the problem in not having one. UNLESS - you want one, but someone is too mean to get you one. It doesn't have to be an enormous diamond... just something you like to wear.

We didn't bother with engagement rings. We're both women, and neither of us wanted one.

I think in Scandinavian countries they don't really do engagement rings. Personally I like the simplicity of just a band. You could go for an eternity style ring and that would incorporate diamonds if you were keen to have some sparkle.

Yes me. I am getting married in April after setting a date in december. No engagement ring, just a wedding band. I don't like jewellery much and wouldn't want something valuable because I'm quite careless. So one band is enough. What are your thoughts?

I don't have an engagement ring, we kept things really low key, knew we both wanted to get married, arranged it without bothering to get engaged so only have wedding rings.

Me. It seemed a bit pointless, plus out of principle I refused to wear what is in effect a 'reserved' label. I'd already got some nice sparkly rings and the money was better spent elsewhere. We got really high quality wedding bands instead so they don't scratch as badly. You can get stones set in the wedding band too if you want both in one.

I'm the same with mine

I didn't have one. I didn't want one because i feel they're quite sexist and a reflection of the woman sitting around waiting for a man to ask her but me and dh agreed to get married mutually, so am engagement ring seemed really pointless. I spent more than i usually would have to get the wedding ring i really wanted instead.

I have an engagement ring but haven't worn it since our wedding

My thoughts are similar to yours.

Good to know there isn't an absolute requirement.

I did it the other way around, I have an engagement ring but no wedding ring. Do what you want, it is nobody else's business.

I don’t much like jewellery and don’t much like the symbolism of an engagement ring. So I’ve always just had a plain wedding band. Didn’t change my name, either. It’s been nearly 20 years and I don’t think anyone has ever noticed my lack of engagement ring, certainly no one has ever asked me about it.

I have what I would describe as a wedding band but with three little diamonds in it so it looks a little bit fancier than a plain band. I love it.

'It seemed a bit pointless, plus out of principle I refused to wear what is in effect a 'reserved' label'

Totally agree. I find the concept of 'engagement' absolutely cringe.

You can wear no rings at all if you want to, totally up to you!

No engagement ring here, only wedding ring. We had been together for 15 yrs and have 2 children together before we got married. We kept it simple and lovely and not too much fuss 😄

Yes I only have wedding ring. Someone asked me where my engagement ring was and I said 'the house'. Honestly we'd been together for 8 years and had far better things to spend money on for our future than a diamond for my finger frankly.

I went for this for a little sparkle.

I have both but I chose my wedding ring with the thought I could wear it without my engagement ring in the future.

At the time I married it was fashionable to have you're wedding ring fit perfectly to your engagement ring ... I didn't do that.

As it is as the moment I still wear both but who knows. I might change my style later.

We didn't bother with engagement rings.

That's lovely, theemmadilemma

I know a woman who ‘chose’ not to have an engagement ring (aka her miser husband didn’t give her one when he proposed and then later rolled his eyes and said “you don’t want an engagement ring do you”).

After several miserable years, their marriage is finally limping across the finish line. Looking back, that lack of generosity and sparkle at the beginning was a symptom of so much more.

I’m not saying you have to have an engagement ring, but make sure you know why you’re not getting one. Is your partner romantic? Generous? Sweet to you? If not please don’t waste your time.

My grandmother never had an engagement ring and she made it happily to her diamond anniversary.

I have an engagement ring but never wear it. Its just sat in a box. I picked an unusual wedding ring which I love and wear all the time. Nobody is going to know you don't have one.