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Original poster

How many guests stayed till the last hour of your evening reception?

86 replies

Ccsmith91 · 07/11/2022 13:52

I got married a few weeks ago and invited 100 people to my wedding and had a few no shows. I noticed people leaving from 9pm till 11pm. I think we must have had around 50 people at 11pm. Do you remember how many people you had around the last hour of your wedding? Is this a normal amount? I’ve not been to many weddings so unsure.

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stargirl1701 · 07/11/2022 17:45

Most of ours stayed but we had organised buses to take our guests home.

Weebachu · 07/11/2022 17:46

stuntbubbles · 07/11/2022 17:38

You’re not the poster whose bridesmaids were all up at 6.30am and, not unreasonably, wanted to go to bed before the end of the wedding, are you?

I wondered if it was the same poster.

BlusteryLake · 07/11/2022 17:46

It's pretty pointless to compare because it depends on so many things - size of wedding, how well everyone knows each other, location, date (is there another event the next day?), ago of your guests, whether they need to be back for a babysitter, transport options etc etc.. All my guests stayed to the end, but that's because it was a small local wedding with an early finish dictated by the venue, and everyone knew the end time. If you invite 200 people who each only know a few other people and it's a 2am finish then probably not many will.

Seekandyeshallfind · 07/11/2022 17:46

Is this the same poster who whined posted about her bridesmaids leaving at 9 - 20pm even though she had them up at 6am to start getting ready for a noon service?

Seekandyeshallfind · 07/11/2022 17:47

Apologies @stuntbubbles, missed your post saying same thing

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Ccsmith91 · 07/11/2022 17:51

6:30! No one left then! I said some bridesmaids left earlier but not then.

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Seekandyeshallfind · 07/11/2022 17:53

Ccsmith91 · 07/11/2022 17:51

6:30! No one left then! I said some bridesmaids left earlier but not then.

WtF you on about? Shouldn't you still be enjoying uour honeymoon period, snagging your husbands brains out, instead of still mithering on about this?

Original poster
Ccsmith91 · 07/11/2022 17:53

Excuse me! No it’s not! This is the first I have posted on this site actually! Think being a new mum has just made me a bit anxious and wanted to talk about it.

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iklboo · 07/11/2022 17:54

Some were still there after we left.

Original poster
Ccsmith91 · 07/11/2022 17:55

I honestly don’t know what you are talking about! I started a thread today about this and was interested in replies! No precious threads!

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thaegumathteth · 07/11/2022 17:57

Had about 120 and I'd say about 80 left at the end maybe? but we were early 20s so loads went on clubbing and also we're Scottish.

FiveMins · 07/11/2022 17:58

Don't worry OP a few of my mates left early and I remember feeling really gutted. Quite normal to feel a bit insecure especially as you spent so long planning everything. It made me check it out at other weddings I've been to since and realise it's completely normal.

Ponderingwindow · 07/11/2022 18:02

100% stayed until the end.

our wedding ended at 9pm. Neither DH nor I are fans of the disco portion of weddings so we skipped it entirely.

JessesMum777888 · 07/11/2022 18:02

Why are you worried ?

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Ccsmith91 · 07/11/2022 18:03

Ah really, thank you so much! I just felt a bit insecure about it as there were quite a few who left and I am so glad I’m married now and love my husband loads. I know that’s all that matters but just been thinking about it since our wedding. I’ve never really noticed who was there at wedding till the end number wise and wasn’t sure if this was normal. I’m not one for organising celebrations haha

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afrikat · 07/11/2022 18:04

I got married in Scotland. 56 guests and I think 4 left before the last dance. A bunch then went on to a nightclub..

QueenWenceslas · 07/11/2022 18:07

Dunno, I was hammered and had to go to bed 😂

ErinAndTonic · 07/11/2022 18:11

stuntbubbles · 07/11/2022 17:38

You’re not the poster whose bridesmaids were all up at 6.30am and, not unreasonably, wanted to go to bed before the end of the wedding, are you?

This was my thought, seems eerily similar!

Seekandyeshallfind · 07/11/2022 18:31

I’ve never really noticed who was there at wedding till the end
So you didn't know who was there for rest of night but now (how long after?) You're sitting there wondering why people left earlier than you'd like? They were your close family and friends (presumanly), why not just ask them? Then you can put it to rest and enjoy being a newly wed

Original poster
Ccsmith91 · 07/11/2022 18:37

I didn’t mean my wedding. I meant that I hadn’t noticed who was at weddings I have been to. I’m feeling very passive aggressive vibes! Feel free not to comment if you can’t be kind with your words.

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FettleOfKish · 07/11/2022 18:40

I'd say about 3/4 stayed until the end of ours, but the end was only 10.30pm and we'd laid transport on (not the only way of getting home, but avoided people having to pay for taxis).

Parky04 · 07/11/2022 18:41

CanYouFeelMyHeart · 07/11/2022 16:07

Everyone stays at a Scottish wedding 😁 then we hit the bar until about 3am.

In my world there is only one 3 o'clock and it's not 3am!

Seekandyeshallfind · 07/11/2022 18:42

No, I'm nit being passive aggressive at all. I'm genuinely interested. If you're not the same poster as last time, I'm just amazed how similar your stories/concerns are and genuinely interested in why it's playing on your mind now.
I'll try find the post for you because you might be interested to read the replies that poster got

FettleOfKish · 07/11/2022 18:43

Ccsmith91 · 07/11/2022 18:37

I didn’t mean my wedding. I meant that I hadn’t noticed who was at weddings I have been to. I’m feeling very passive aggressive vibes! Feel free not to comment if you can’t be kind with your words.

Then nobody will have noticed how many were left at the end of yours! People attend weddings to celebrate your marriage, not to conduct an hourly head count.

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