When to propose

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Hi everyone,

I'm planning to propose to my girlfriend on our summer holidays next month. Been together 10 years.

My question is, should I pop the question after checking in at the hotel, or wait until the next morning we get there ?

Thanks in advance.

Why does it have to be so planned? If you want to marry her, what's wrong with just asking.

Bloody hell why piss on his chips? Op I'd wait until the following day when you're fresh! Good luck

I agree get settled in, have a shower and eat etc and do it the next day maybe on a nice walk

Why does it have to be so planned ? Because I chose to do so. Any other stupid question ?

Thanks Candy.

Yeah next day ! Maybe on a lovely walk?

Thank you all, it's what I had in mind but wasn't quite sure, will do it the next morning !

Just be aware of an appropriate moment as recently l have heard a few stories eg guy wants to go for a romantic walk..to propose..woman says l'm too tired. Other guy wants to walk on the beach but woman says l don't like sand in my shoes!! So don't set it in stone just be mindful of a nice opportunity

We have a room with splendid sea view in a 5* , I know for sure she's not into public spaces proposal, and we both aren't into romantic stuff, so I was thinking proposing on the balcony.

Well aren't you going to be a charmer for a husband. Thankfully my DH only waited for 18 months and it was delightfully impromptu.

Proposing on the Balcony sounds bloody lovely!

Do they do room service? Could you order Champagne if she says yes?

Well aren't you going to be a charmer for a husband

Maybe they'll be a DW?

And FYI, I don't need to wait to propose to be a charmer, I charm her on a daily basis. Congrats on your husband for only waiting a year and a half, do you both want a medal for this ? You don't know us, keep your comments for yourself you'll look less stupid than you obviously are .

Really hoping that wasn't directed at me.

Mate it’s been a decade of you pissing about before you’ve eventually decided you want to marry her

a ten year later proposal just looks like settling so I would try and make it romantic as possible, in the nicest setting as possible, to counteract this

Nope sorry Priti, was for her.

I'll take note.

How do you know it's been ten years of 'pissing about'? My now DH proposed after ten years and it was the right time for both of us. We met young and a quicker marriage really wasn't important to us.

Good luck with the proposal OP! You sound really thoughtful.

I'd do it before you go, in case she says no.

A ten year proposal is always yikes territory unless you met at sixth form, or freshers week. If the OP is in the situation above, I apologise.

Any other situation- concerning. it should not take decade to decide you want to marry someone and start putting that into action.
Hence why I suggested to make it as romantic as possible- it would have been a long time coming.

Thank you pj. People are just clueless, everyone is different, I was just asking for advice on when to propose after arriving in our hotel, and people start talking garbage. But I understand why the rate of divorce is so damn high, with people getting married a few months or just a year after meeting each other.

I know she won't say no, she's been very subtle about it and mentioned it a couple of times throughout the last couple years.

If you could get her up early then on the balcony as the sun rises would be lovely.

Ignore the rude comments, everyone's situation is different. Fwiw I think 18 months is too early to propose to someone. My best friend has just got engaged after 11 years as they met when they were 14 and she hasn't wanted to get married until now, everyone is different!

Do it whenever she seems in a good mood and not tired/hot

A long time coming for sure, but she won't see that one coming 😂

Definitely the next morning!