No kids allowed but close family kids are

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Wedding invite states no kids allowed to decor close family kids. Would you still attend if you had to leave your newborn of 4 months at home?

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Probably says more about me than anything else but knowing no one there apart from the couple is another factor that would make me want to decline 😳. I'm not an MN rabid wedding hater honest.

I’d go. I don’t care much if my children are invited or not or if anyone else’s are there.

I know what you mean.

Do they're really mean no newborns?

I understand restricting the number of children (although persoanally I think children are often the best bit of a wedding) but a baby is no cost or inconvenience to anyone.

I'd check if baby really not allowed to come, but no I wouldn't go unless it was very local and I could leave him/her with a close family member.

Although I'm not sure 4 months is new born? I'm old so my DC were born in a time when 6 months' ML was generous. By 4 months I was leaving them for full days in preparation for going back to work.

If we could take our daughter I'd RSVP tomorrow with yes we would love to.

But equally they are in their right to not want children there so I understand. But I'm also saying to myself- well she won't be running around causing havoc?? She would be with me and DP. I don't know if they would even have to pay for her as she wouldn't even be in a seat at the table or needing food? At most I think they just wouldn't want her crying at the ceremony...

Usually "babes in arms" so less then a year or 6 months depending on the couple are excluded from the no children rule. Would double check with the couple first.
If they include such a young baby then nope I wouldn't go

I've got my close friends wedding in 5 weeks.
I've just had a baby 2 weeks ago and I'm leaving him with my mum & dad as well as my older daughter.
The difference I think is I want to go and it's my 2nd baby.
You'd have to weigh up all the different factors and maybe see closer to the time.

No, it’s too much hassle for a wedding.

No children outside of close family has probably been the case at every wedding I've been to, it's very normal and not something that would bother me at all.

At 4 months both of mine were breastfed and didn't take a bottle, and I wasn't ready to leave them either so I would've happily declined. If they were DH's friends and he knew other people going he probably would've gone.

We're going to a wedding when our baby is 4 months, staying with my mum and out a similar length of time to you - but it's 1 hour 30 one way

Not close friends really. Don't reach out to us, go over to see them once or once every 2 years and they are local... a little unsure why we have been given the invite really.

In this instance, I wouldn't go.

We left our 10 week old overnight for our close friends 'child free' wedding. We were pretty frustrated when we found it wasn't child-free after all as baby was our PFB.

Then let him go on his own and you decline because of 4 month baby.

There’s no dilemma to be he here

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At most I think they just wouldn't want her crying at the ceremony...

It's not just crying OP. Babies and toddlers are unpredictable. I was at a wedding where groom's sister had brought her young baby. She was holding her and baby threw up over her lovely wedding outfit
There was shuffling about in pews during the service so she could get out.

Just check in with them as a babe in arms is usually the exception to a no kids rule in my experience

Invite does says no kids, not sure why you think you would be an exception. Bit of a situation to put the groom in when others will have been told the same and like you say, you don’t see them. Just don’t go!

I wouldn’t go. We had this situation, DC2 was a 5 week preemie, exclusively breast fed baby who wouldn’t take a bottle.

The friendship has never recovered tbh.

At 4 months I was fine leaving my DD with her dad for the day and would for a close friend’s wedding. For something far away, that required an overnight, or someone I wasn’t close to, I wouldn’t bother.

If your close enough just go to the service ( you alone, child with partner). Max 2 hr if an orthodox one.

Really, why did they not understand with a premature baby?

If you don't want to go then don't! Baby is a perfect excuse.

It’s irrelevant that close family kids are going

Exactly. I can’t understand why you’d include this information - unless it’s the beginning of a ‘But it’s not like there won’t be any children there, so why can’t my precious baby be an exception too?’ argument.

Quoted wrong post, sorry.

Why?